I dont know what to do...! Im in love with this guy we just resently broke up i love him so much and im willing to make changes for him its just it makes me feel like he doesnt care! I mean he does but he doesnt show it im going out this weekend and he will be where im going? Should i make him jealous or what? Should i dress hoochie or conservative?
2006-09-28 16:12:44 · 16 answers · asked by girlpressure 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i'd say stop worrying about him.
it is obvious that he does not care any longer about your guy's relationship. he had moved on, and u should do the same.
go out with ur friends, dress however you want.
do not make some guy the reason that u do the things you do.
it is ur life, do what YOU want.
2006-09-28 16:15:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, lust means that you like someone for their physical body parts in a sexy way (i.e-"oh she has a hott bod, i can't wait to get to know whether she's hot or cold."). Just because you want to get your love back doesn't mean you're feeling "lusty" or anything. And one thing you don't want to do is dress like a little s-l-u-t to get him back; that'll just send the wrong message. Just try going up to him, and talking about what you two had in a relationship, and just talk about life. That way he'll see you as an advisor, a good friend, and a girl he can love.
2006-09-28 23:20:06 · answer #2 · answered by forest_without_sounds 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I separate the person from who they are, i.e. a body part, that person has an incredible bottom, or they are hot, I am separating the person from who they are to how they appear/look. I am also idealizing who they are based on the objectification of their body, i.e., because that person is hot, I would like to get to know them, or somehow they are appealing emotionally mentally because they are hot. As I am objectifying, lust shows itself in fantasy. What would I like, what would I like to do with and to them. So I would say when the idealized picture of this person is replaced with reality, IE., who they really are. You can accept and be willing to see past faults, issues, problems because Love carries no jealousy, love doesn't judge, love don't do anything for self gratitude, love gives unconditionally, love is trust, love is respect, love is truth!
2006-09-29 03:30:12 · answer #3 · answered by Wolfie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing good can come from you going to where he is going to be. if you want to be there because he is there you should go alone. i'm a firm believer in you have to go home with the one that brung ya. don't go mooning over this guy. it will make you look desperate and make him feel like he has you where he wants you. guys more often want what they think they can't have. if you are in a situation where you and he are at the same function all you have to do is glance his way and smile at him. turn away and walk to the ladies room, when you come out if he is there just say hi and let him take the lead. if he is not there don't make it obvious that you are looking for him but try to make your way over to where he can see you. do the smile thing again and hold the eye contact a little longer. to hook up again has to be his idea. let him come to you. set your man free. if he comes back to you he will be yours forever. if he doesn't come back to you he was never yours to begin with.
2006-09-28 23:29:07 · answer #4 · answered by handyman5218 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do hoochie. That would make him think you've lowered yourself to low level. Don't try making him jealous it may instead my him mad, there is a difference. Last confront him let him know that you still have feelings and ask him how he feels and go from there.
2006-09-28 23:17:06 · answer #5 · answered by Brad A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok first of all ma'am no one can tell you if you are in love. love is a term defined on your own. if you feel like you are in love then you are in love. lust is a part of love. you lust after people, especially if you are in love with them. i am sure right now he is trying to be strong. if you were in lvoe then he still has feelings for you...if you see him out then just be your self. i say if you want to talk to him then talk to him. if you want to tell him that you still care about him then take him aside and tell him.
2006-09-28 23:21:22 · answer #6 · answered by Cale P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
act as if everything is normal and as though he does not exist, act as if you are a mysterious heroine in a medieval movie, if he sees that you are acting normal and does not even know that he is there if he likes you and love you still he would be furious because you should be giving him special attention, but if he will have no reaction at all, move on he is not that in love with you.
2006-09-28 23:18:10 · answer #7 · answered by haringmarumo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont believe in makin changes just so he will like you more you are who you are. it is so important to be yourself and not to pretend, be yourself not a hoochie, why degrate yourself there are other guys out there.
good luck
2006-09-28 23:22:36 · answer #8 · answered by smiley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Normally, I don;t like playing that game, but I would dress provocatively
2006-09-28 23:20:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should just let it go and maybe move on. because you shouldnt have to change who you are to get his attention. and he may just wake up and realize what his missing when your no longer paying him any attention. so dress conservative. and enjoy yourself.
2006-09-28 23:16:49 · answer #10 · answered by mysterious_yet_sweet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋