My Five year old daughter told me she wants a boyfriend how do i handle it?

Answer 1

By saying uh uh, and then changing the subject. The more you show dissatisfaction with this the more she will hound you about it. Watch what she is watching on Tv and she may have heard from school that a girl has a boyfriend there. just try to ignore it.

Answer 2

I'm a Kindergarten teacher, and you'd be amazed at how many 5 year olds think they need boyfriends and girlfriends. At this age, what they think of love isn't the same kind of love that teenagers/adults have. Most of this attitude comes from wanting to model what those around them do. If you are dating, or have an older sibling dating, they might think it is fun and think they need to be doing it too. Or they may be modeling after another student at school. At this point I usually sit down with these little guys and talk about love (no not sex) and I talk about how they are too young to have those kinds of feelings yet and they are too young to have a boyfriend. But tell them they can have a boy that was their friend. They may still try to pursue this interest, but know that they don't fully understand the meaning of what a boyfriend is so I wouldn't sweat about it.

Answer 3

Little girls can have boyfriends on their mind from the time they're - like -four years old. Before that they think they'll marry their father. I wouldn't think anything about it. Wanting a boyfriend isn't the same as acting on anything; and, as far as I know, its normal for many little girls.

My generation of kids didn't know the facts of life until they were about eleven, but that didn't stop me from liking one boy or another all through elementary school and before.

The way I'd handle it is just say, "Oh, do you? Well, some day you'll have a boyfriend." Don't read into it beyond the fact that she likes the romantic idea of a boyfriend (think of all the children's stories about romantic princesses and princes); and don't make anything of it.

Answer 4

I'm going through the same thing with my five year old kindergardener. It's driving me nuts. But, she says she has a boyfriend at school. She can even tell me his name!!! I asked her why he is her boyfriend and she told me that he's a boy and he's her friend so he's her boyfriend. I asked her what she does with her boyfriend and she says they play together at recess. I asked her who told her he was her boyfriend and she said another kid told her he was. So, I think she doesn't know exactly what a boyfriend is. I'm trying to calm down about this but, as you know, it's very hard. If you get any great answers let me know i might have to use them. Good luck.

Answer 5

I'm NO EXPERT but I have herd this problem from other parents I think its an in instance of transference like in the case where a little girl might want to marry her daddy(no sick comments please)I think she might have similar feelings but isn't expressing them quite right yet maybe she just has a crush? on a teacher but I'm not sure keep an eye on it the behavior and I think ask her to be more specific about the want see what she says hell if she is really smart she may have picked up some stuff from the TV just talk to her and she what she says

Answer 6

Well I would say let her know that having a boyfriend isn't something she should be worried about because only adults have boyfriends and girlfriends. I just had this talk with my son who is 4 1/2. I understand your loss for words. My son actually told me he wanted a particular little girl to be his girlfriend. Just be careful how you word it, you don't want to offend her (yes that can happen kids are more mature than we give them credit for) or make her feel that pretending to be an adult will make her old enough to have a boyfriend, my son tried that logic with me.

Answer 7

LOL- I don't know about you but I had a "boyfriend" when I was in 1st grade. :) But my daughter is in 1st grade now and she knows she's not allowed to have boyfriends until she's 16. Does she have a certain boyfriend picked out yet?? I see no harm, this is what she thinks will make her a big girl. it's not as though she's actually going to go out on a date or anything and it's kinda cute when you watch them get boyfriends and then dump them because they got a new boyfriend. :) I suppose it depends on your views. I don't know how you really feel about such a thing but I personally see no harm. :)

Answer 8

First talk to your daughter about what she thinks a boyfriend is and why she wants one. To her a boyfriend may just be a boy who is a friend.

Answer 9

It's both interesting and frightening how uptight folks are about puppy love. want seems like normal feeling especially expressed to you. Over reaction one way or the other seems biggest thing to guard against. If want becomes must than extreme attention needs to be paid. Steer her in the direction of innocent playmate, and used standard line how someday hope you find someone as nice as daddy.

Answer 10

My 6 year old step son told me that he wants to marry a girl he calls his girlfriend. It is common and normal. Ask her what a boyfriend is and what makes him a boyfriend. She probably has a different definition then you do. She probably means a friend boy to ride bikes with. She is fine.