Boys, can you pleeez explain this to me?!?

Question

Okay. Here's the deal. I have my up and down days, but overall I consider myself good looking. I'm slender, I have good fashion sense, and I have a pretty face, plus I'm very personable and nice. All my friends and family tell me how pretty I am, but I never get any dates. Guys at school hardly ever talk to me, and they avoid eye contact with me when I talk to them. They're always all over my best friend who's really athletic and buff and isn't really pretty. To say the least it makes me feel sad and confused that none of them are interested in me (not even as a friend) and I can't figure out why. I don't want to resort to being slutty and loose my dignity to get their attention. Why don't they like me, what am I doing wrong? Guys please enlighten me! Thanks.

Answer 1

Hey,

This is coming from a guy.

The deal here is High school is all about sports. if you play a bunch of sports people are going to know you, That's how it's always been inhigh school, If ya play none, then your down there. I was down there, I didn't play any sports so i didn't really get much attention, i'm slender and tall myself.

THere was a number of chicks iin schoo i remember that were hot but did not get a lot of sattention from the guys" If i had to do things over agian i would have had the balls to go over and tlak to them, But unfrtunately back then i didn't.

The very well could be intimidated by your looks.
thinking of i couldn't get a chick like her, Or they dont' know you well enough.

i understand, I never had a girlfriend in high school and i know about the sad and confused part.

But you know what, You will SO get over this, My friends and i today we all talk about how pointless things were in high school and what they really mean in real life.

like for instance, How many of these people who play sports are going to play in the nba or nfl, None that i know of that went to my school.

Answer 2

I have no idea why guys aren't interested in you, and as I dont know you I cant give you a full answer but from what I have read you seem like a really beautiful girl and someone that could love someone for good, but anyway back to my answer.

Some of us are just self centred and dont want to look at females or already have GF's, some guys are good but I think you just need to start randomly talking to guys and just see how this goes, also have you had any prior police convictions in the past that would turn guys away, I mean you dont sound slutty but we dont really like girls that have police records aslong as your arm.

Also, just to say sorry I already have a GF, otherwise I'd be interested in you, but feel free to email me as I'm more than happy to be your friend.

cheers,

Mitch
Launceston, Tasmania
Australia.

Answer 3

Taking you at your word that you're pretty, perhaps it's your actions that are keeping the boys away. Possibly you don't act like you want to make or have any friends of the boy type. You say all your friends tell you you're pretty. Are all your friends girls? Maybe the boys think you're a lesbian? Maybe you're too slender? Keep in mind that all of these guesses are just that, based on your question, and lacking any other information.

Answer 4

Maybe you really are pretty. The reason that they go for the athletic/buff not-pretty friend is probably because she is more approachable. Find a guy you're interested in (and the same things you're interested in--whether it be sports, drama,etc.) and things will follow. At least if you only make friends with the first few, they may introduce you to their friends to whom you might have a better connection.

Answer 5

sometimes guys are intimidated by pretty women. they think that you would not accept the date so they just don't ask. if your friend has a good body she probably wears clothing that shows off her best attributes. believe me there is a boy out there that likes your type". without more information, ie a picture, it is hard to say why the guys don't go for you. why don't you ask your friend why she thinks that is? ask her to be honest and tell her you won't get mad at her for criticizing you. all the girls that attract attention have to have something in common. you have to decide if you want to be like them or not to change anything. remember: if you keep doing what you are doing, you will keep getting what you are getting.

Answer 6

Almost all of the information you gave is irrelevant.

"and they avoid eye contact with me when I talk to them." is very relevant.

Yes, they are intimidated. Why? There's something in your demeanor that says you're either trying too hard or you're too stuck up. While this may not be true, it is what is being conveyed.

So experiment. See what happens. My guess is letting them see you're just a nice, normal girl should work.

Answer 7

You could always try asking somebody out instead of trying to get them to ask you. You said yourself that you were pretty and you obviously have some confidence. Just be yourself, most people will give you a chance.

Answer 8

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Answer 9

You are pretty, slender and intelligent...agreed. But are you friendly? If not you may have difficulty in getting a boy friend.

Answer 10

It really is all about attitude and personality. If you are pleasant/positive then it will show through. Same goes if you are a negative person. That too will show.