My boyfriend and I are together for 9 months.I want to move in with my him. I read that a high percentage of couples that live in together before marriage end up failing.My mother told me:"if you want to marry him, it's a mistake to move in. "So, what do you think? Should we move in together I am 27 and he is 30
2006-09-28 15:44:38 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
what would be his incentive for marrying you if he gets all the benefits of marriage without any of the drawbacks?
2006-09-28 15:48:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I do not think you should. And yes, a high percentage of the couples who live together without being married never marry eachother. Have you heard of the expression why buy the cow if you get the milk for free? If he loves you he will wait until you are both ready and then he will make a real committment. For other stats, almost 50% of all marriages break up also and that is a pretty high percent so why would you want to go up against double danger? Make sure you know eachother well and that you have similar enough backgrounds to get along before you make any kind of committment. Be aware that most relationships breakup just after 18 months so at least I would make sure that I went out with him for that long before I made any life changing moves.
2006-09-28 22:52:22 · answer #2 · answered by beverly p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gurl yes go for it. When I met my husband it was 16 Jan we moved in together on 1 Feb and we were married on 18 June this all happened in the same year within 5 months of meeting him we were married and we've been married, Happily married for the past 12 years and I wouldn't change a thing. I think you need to follow your heart and forget about what ppl say or what statistics are. Cuz if I did I would be screwed now with all the rules we Broke lol. I got my SOUL MATE outta the deal and hopefully you have yours there with you. BEST OF LUCK
2006-09-28 22:48:13 · answer #3 · answered by ♥Shortie♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The tough part about living together first is that you deal with the same difficulties with out the additional commitment marriage brings.It's much easier to walk away from a live in than to get a divorce.You don't have the same incentive to work through the problems.
2006-09-28 22:51:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its a good idea to live together before making the commitment to marry. You may learn that the person is completely different once you live together. Living together gives you both the opportunity to see what life will be like should you decide to make the commitment and get married. It could be a bad thing, but it can also be a good thing.
Good Luck
2006-09-28 22:48:49 · answer #5 · answered by Monkeygirl 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i would say dont do it.
i have heard a few stories where unmarried couples move in together because they had the intention or marrying anyways,
and the weddings were called off in both situations.
its a set up for disaster. plus it will be worth it to wait till ur married, THEN move in. im sure u'll b happy u waited.
goodluck and i hope everything works out :]
2006-09-28 22:50:17 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it all depends on u and him every individual have their own way of dealing with life.it is true that sometime if u move in together before marriage then it dosent work out but dont u think its better to know a person before u marry that person and best way to know a person is when u actually live with that person so i would say move in with him and rest leave it to ur fate
2006-09-28 22:52:20 · answer #7 · answered by mrdeeds_1983 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldnt you have not even know him a full year yet. i been with my bf for 4 years and im just finding out thing about him that i wouldnt imagine. And you moms right wait untill you get married that way if yall breack up he can't kick you out. You can spend the night as much as you won't but don't move you stuff in lol.
2006-09-28 22:56:00 · answer #8 · answered by Deaira B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should wait awhile it's only been 9 months right, wait till you get the ring on your finger before you decide to move in it's much safer that way.
2006-09-28 22:51:19 · answer #9 · answered by Tee 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you've two been together for 9 months its time to go a step further and ask him if hers comfortable having you move in together. If you love each other, than go for it. I can tell you from experence moving in with my fiance was the best thing that happened to us.
2006-09-28 22:49:05 · answer #10 · answered by Saira S 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I waited till we were together for a year and even then we had been engaged for a few months before we moved in together.
2006-09-28 22:46:43 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋