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I'm an African American young lady & date a white guy for about 6 months.When we were together, it was nothing but wonderful.... Unfortunately, he broke up with me (via email) when his parents found out I am African American. In public he was always very affectionate, polite and fun to be with. Once his parents found out (they lived in a different city), he just threw everything away! The first time he declined a gathering, I knew we had problems. Why couldn't he just be "Man" enough to say, I love her & that's it! Why live your life for your parents? They assumed I was living off him, but I have a very nice position with a corporation & my own money!! I never asked him for a dime! His parents refused to see me as an individual, some who loved their son...instead, they choose to see me a "Black" person out to get their son. Tell me, why must it be this way? I'm now afraid to open up my heart and allow it to feel. I've moved on, but can't forget this person!Help.
2006-09-28 15:42:33 · 9 answers · asked by breaker_1020 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
by the way, I'm the sister of the "white" guy who wouldn't stand up to my parents. This girl is absolutely AWESOME, and my brother's an idiot!!!
2006-09-28 15:58:18 · update #1
I read that White males and black females get the most pressure to date/marry within their races then any other groups. the funny thing is that there are many white males who are highly attracted to black females but tend to repress this secondary to the stigma involved. these relationships are becoming more and more common and will get better. in your situation it sounds like he wasnt man enough to make his own decisions. dont worry. there are many elgible white guys out there eager to meet and date black women.
2006-09-28 15:51:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is over 30, then it is mainly about the seperation of the races topic.
I once dated a black woman. We had a wonderful relationship. We enjoyed the same things, being together, wanted the same type of future, and we both met each other's needs. But, both sets of parents were against the two of us being together.
My parents come from the Appalation Mountain area and hers came from pure southern Baptist origins. Both sets grew up in the 50's. Her dad is a Baptist minister, my dad was a white collar worker.
She has been married three times now and all to abusive men. I've been married and divorced twice. Both to women who I found out after we were married, only married me for what was in my pocket. I don't have any kids, she has 2 kids.
And guess what, both sets of parents now say that they shouldn't have kept us from being together.
2006-09-28 16:01:06 · answer #2 · answered by dakotaviper 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry to hear about this. Unfortunattly is seems that this guy must have the approval of his parents. It seems that most parents wont except bi-racial relationships I think becuase of what they were taught and the way they were raised. Some people just cant come into the times. Im sure his parents said something to him such as "we will disown you", "If you see her you wont be our son anymore". But if this man truelly loved you he wouldnt care. Love is blind and when you truely have it you dont care what other people think. Best of luck to you and take care.
2006-09-28 15:49:43 · answer #3 · answered by ParamedicFireman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that it is painful, but that is just the way it is, some people are just afraid of their parents and their love just isn't strong enough to stand up to them.
Trust me, you're not the only one hurt by this, he is still thinking about you, but he is still a mama's/Daddy's boy.
Find a real man. You deserve it.
2006-09-28 15:50:09 · answer #4 · answered by cdubsj2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because his familiy is racist and messed up. having interacial relationship with bourgeois white people is often complicated. it could be any number of things. my guess would be that maybe he wanted to prove to himself that he wasn't like his parents. but when you know the parents found out he just didn't want to deal with it. maybe he wasn't aware of it at first. just a guess it is very plausible. it's impossible to know exactly what is going on in someone's head with any certainty.
2006-09-28 16:17:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In life we all have choices, he chose to not be with you and adhere to his parent's ignorant rules. My question is why do you long to be with someone who wasn't man enough or in love with you enough to stay with you? Don't be upset with his family, be upset with him, HE CHOSE to not choose you. You have every right to be upset.
Good Luck in the future....LOVE, LIVE, and LAUGH!!!
Oh Yeah and by the way, perhaps your friend should be asking this!
2006-09-28 15:46:30 · answer #6 · answered by poetic princess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know, I guess cause SOME OF US r race st. (for the record, I've never introduced any of my gf to my parents, no matter what color skin, and I am white)
2006-09-28 15:46:13 · answer #7 · answered by steve 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have never dated a black girl,but i have allways said that if i get divorced i would.
2006-09-28 15:47:12 · answer #8 · answered by 'HUMVEE' 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
because they are racists and he is ashamed of you...
2006-09-28 15:48:59 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋