no, I am not gay.
I am a 40 year old (non virgin) that has been in so many bad relationships, I don't want to face another let down or heart break. There has to be some woman out there without major baggage and problems and one that wont lie or cheat on me....I don't know, maybe I am destined to be alone feeling sorry for myself for rest of life?
2006-09-28 15:16:39 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you need a hug
2006-09-28 15:17:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
I haven't read the other answers that have been posted, so sorry if I repeat any of them.
I understand why you'd like to give up on women. It's major depressing when a relationship turns bad. But.....the reason you're attracting those kind of women is becuz you're not thinking too highly of yourself. Take some time to really get to know yourself, figure out what you really want your life to be like, start on the path of getting it that way, and build your self esteem!! Once you're comfortable with yourself and your life, BOOM your princess will come along when you least expect it! Honest! When you're happy with you, then that is when you can be open to be happy with another. But if you're going to walk around on your pity pot, you'll only attract people that have emotional problems!
2006-09-28 15:29:12 · answer #2 · answered by yokrem 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thought about giving up on finding the right woman like you but I really believe that there is someone out there for everyone and that sometimes it just takes some people longer than others to find that person. Hang in there, keep your mind off of the past as much as possible and the right one will come along when you're least expecting it.
2006-09-28 15:20:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry for your trouble Are you sure youa re not always choosing the WRONG kind of woman? Or that perhaps you are not being overly choosy? Today, relationships are very difficult (actuallly the always were), but you might want to be a bit more selective about whom you date int he future. It's easy to get all wound up in a relationship, then find out it's not for you. Take things a little slower next time around.
2006-09-28 15:19:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you throw in the towel, take a good look at yourself and the things that you may be doing wrong; you need to be honest and try to figure out why "that type of woman" is drawn to you. Perhaps, your priorities in a relationship are misplaced. Do you value looks above all else when choosing a mate? It won't be easy to pick things apart about yourself, but the rewards in the end will be great. Hope it works out!
2006-09-28 15:23:53 · answer #5 · answered by JEFFAVEGRL 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to stop going to clubs, chat rooms, bars etc to meet them. Is there a hobby you enjoy that you can meet someone doing? Cooking, gardening, reading, pets, home improvement, sports. any of these fit? Get involved in something constructive and fun that will attract the type woman you are looking for. Take a class. You might meet one.
Good luck, hun. There's someone out there for you. I don't really believe in the whole soulmate thing, but there is bound to be someone you can connect with and trust. There are lots of nice ladies out there. You just need to be really choosy upfront. Put your baggage and b.s. radar on.
2006-09-28 15:30:29 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No don't give up you never know what tomorrow will bring. One question for u though. When you are with a woman are you asking your self just how long is it going to be before she dumps you? If you are than maybe you are letting negative thoughts determine just how the relationship goes. If you think you are going to fail than you probably will. Good luck.
2006-09-28 15:31:50 · answer #7 · answered by GPHS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Finding someone isn't the only thing important in this world... why not trying finding something else fun.... go travel, activities, buy a house and rent it out... anything. You're trying so hard to find that person... maybe she's not here...maybe somewhere else.... sometimes you gotta let it go and it comes naturally to you without you knowing it..... good luck, no need to give up on women...
2006-09-28 15:24:21 · answer #8 · answered by pheobe 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is someone out there for everybody. I promise you that. Everyone has their own problems but you can't just give up. Just don't hook up with any girl because then she might cheat or break your heart again. Save the next spot for a girl for that special someone. You can't let yourself done like you are. Just become happy with your life and take it for what it is. Don't go searching for a girl, let her come to you.
2006-09-28 15:24:15 · answer #9 · answered by bluechicken818 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I tend to blame on others for my lack of capacity in choosing right men for me.
Is not that women are all bad and full of baggage is just that you are attracting for some reason the wrong women. You have to look withing yourself what's going on that you are being attracted to those women.
It's a pattern as you see you are 40 and have always been dating that type of women. And look deeper , are all of them almost alike in their issues? what was attractive ? what did you like about them? how did met them? how the relationships started? how fast things went? how did you feel while in those relationships? What about other type of women that you do not feel attracted to? why you do not date other type of women?
2006-09-28 15:23:19 · answer #10 · answered by Salmon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no harm in giving up on women,it doesent mean you gay or anything i know a bloke who is 67 and has been maried 7 times before he was 40 and he got divorced and has never touched a women since.just wait about for the right women thats what i do.and if you dont find one its the way it goes.better to wait then have some money grabbing slag while your waiting.get my drift?
2006-09-28 15:20:59 · answer #11 · answered by stoke 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋