My brother is in jail, passing a red light,(old charge),failing to apear another (old one). robing his wifes house, stole his own Xbox, she filed charges alsoan old charge, and he got aressted last month for picking up a hich hiker a lady, she told him she was 18 with kids and needed somewhere to stay for the night, he ened up messing with. only to find out the next day that she was a 1 year old run away. HE is 22, he got aressted for assaulting a minor.
he said she lied to him what can i do tohelp him? he has no bond and i have very little money.....thanx guys
2006-09-28 15:11:58 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Law Enforcement & Police
she was 16...sorry
2006-09-28 16:07:43 · update #1
I am sorry that you are going through this and touched by the love and concern towards your brother.
Hunny, when we love, we let those we love learn from their consequences. Everything he did, he chose to do and it is not your responsibility to clean his record.
What can you do to help him? Just love him, and let him learn from his mistakes. Good luck to the two of you
2006-09-28 15:22:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay so, he ran a light and was picked up on a bench warrant. He has a breaking and entering, does not matter if it was his property, he was not welcome. He picked a hitch hiker (wrong!)
and had sex with a total stranger (wrong!).
It sounds like this young man needs some time to reflect on his decisions in life.
He is stuck like Chuck sweetie...
It does not matter that she lied to him. He is 22 and she is 1 ?
Under 18 obviously.
He has built a long path of destructiveness and has to face his decisions.
Just be there for him. Let him know you love him.
I am afraid that is all you can do at this point.
2006-09-28 22:57:47 · answer #2 · answered by rvogelpohl2001 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The court will appoint a lawyer for him but he has many strikes against him for willfully ignoring the law in the first place. He's lucky the girl was sixteen...otherwise he'd be up for statutory and criminal rape to boot. Do you think he has learned anything yet? if not, this is just the beginning of a long string of misery for your brother. All you can do for him at the moment is clean him up with a haircut, shave and tie and tell him to be humble and apologetic about his poor judgment. Hopefully he's a working man...that helps as well as his young age.
2006-09-28 23:36:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there (similar situation) with my brother when we were all teens and again with a cousin (crack addict). Jail time (and watching his friends either go to prison or get killed, one by one) helped my brother to fly straight-ish... ok, well, he's not in legal trouble anymore...
Hard time in prison is what ultimately helped my cousin clean up her act and make better life choices. Before prison, though, we, as a family, had to make some tough decisions, such as NOT bailing these family members out of their troubles... Be tough for your brother. Let him know you love him and believe in him that he can do better. Help him be that better person by NOT helping him now.
My bro is now a doctor and my cousin is now an engineer. SO glad those awful years are behind us, now... and that my bro and cousin lived to see these days.
2006-09-29 00:37:52 · answer #4 · answered by scruffycat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to get a public defender's office lawyer and tell his side to the judge. Doesn't look like he has much choice past that. Sorry kiddo, he's gotta be more careful. The facts are, he has made some poor choices in all respects and they have caught up with him now. Good luck.
2006-09-28 23:35:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
buy him some fresh tidy whities. sounds like your brother is in for the long haul. a court appointed lawyer will plea bargin the best deal for him, but he will be in jail for a while. some states have a pretrial release program that will let him out until his court date, but he will probably have to serve some time so it just might be to his advantage tp stay where he is at for the time being.
tough love sometimes seems creul, but it is often the lesser of two evils.
2006-09-28 22:23:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have him request a court appointed attorney along with a mental evaluation from the state and go from there, sounds like he has problems with making the right decisions and should change now, you cant get him out until he faces that, good luck
2006-09-28 22:16:21 · answer #7 · answered by edgarrrw 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How do you mistake an 18 year old for a 1 year old runaway?
A 1-year old can barely walk, let alone hitchhike.
He should be in jail and stay there for messing with a 1 year old.
2006-09-28 22:21:52 · answer #8 · answered by x 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
These are a multitude of issues for a 22 year old. I think you should back yourself out of the equation and let him sit where he is. The more you work to get him out the more you enable the continued behavior.
2006-09-28 22:25:24 · answer #9 · answered by spag 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing you can do, he will need to get a public defender who will review the case.
It does sound like he brings alot of this onto hisself and honestly sitting in jail for a while could well do him good.
( not judging just honest opinion)
2006-09-28 22:29:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋