I stole $200 off my parents and they found out about it today. I feel horrible and I know no matter how many times I say I'm sorry, it won't fix it. They grounded from seeing my boyfriend for a long time and I went off on them because of that. I don't know how to get their trust back. This isn't the first time this has happened. I'm a horrible daughter. But I really want them to be abe to trust me again. I love my parents and don't mean to ever hurt them. I just don't think they'll ever trust me again.
2006-09-28 15:10:21 · 11 answers · asked by Kaci Loves John 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You realize you made a mistake and that is a step in the right direction. You may have a problem with taking money since you said that this was not the first time that this had happened. I agree with the others who said that you should try to pay it back. If you have a job, do without something that you would have bought for yourself in order to pay them back. Ask them to be patient with you and that you will try and pay it all back as soon as possible. If you don't have a job you might even ask if you could "work off your debt" with your parents by doing things that they might have to pay others to do. If you can not control the urge to take money then confess that to your parents and ask them to help you get counceling. They are understandably disappointed in you and you are disappointed in yourself as well. Time will help this situation a lot.
2006-09-28 16:23:39 · answer #1 · answered by garden lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust has to be earned...stealing money doesn't do that. Now you have to work really hard on earning their trust.... First of all find a job- then pay back every single penny...if you are old enough to have a boyfriend...you should be old enough to get a job. Make sure the stealing doesn't become a habit, because if you dare steal from your parents ....there's no telling what else you are capable of doing. .... you went off on them because of the consequence they gave you....what's up with that? Instead of being ashamed and crawling into a hole...you got mad with them? You have a lot of reflecting to do. Show in your actions that you feel you've done something horrible- don't just say you are sorry...it's not enough. Humble yourself and help Mom more while you are grounded... that would be a good start.
2006-09-28 15:56:04 · answer #2 · answered by justmemimi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U have to first ask and answer yourself, why did u steal the money? Because of your boyfriend? no matter why u know now that it wasnt right. Stay away from your boyfriend for awhile, please your parents. I know it will be hard but TRUST ME a boy isnt worth losing your parents and if he is really the right boy he will wait for you til this situation is over and you have your parents trust again. Also u can do all the duties that they want but mostly why not pay them back. even if its in small amounts. make a chart put the $200 at the top and each time u give your parents some of it back then minus it from the total and date it and have one of your parents initial when u give it to them. They are upset with u right now but u r there child and they will forgive you. its what parents do. Life is full of regrets but we can do nothing more but learn from our mistakes and fix them the best we can. when your parents see that, things will go back to normal. Take care and good luck :)
2006-09-28 15:31:20 · answer #3 · answered by Jen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make an effort to pay back the money in full (even if you have to get an extra job). Make sure you never do this again, and take full responsibility for you actions. In paying back the money in full, you will show that you are truly sorry and will begin to earn back their respect and trust. It will take a long time to earn this trust back, so be patient. Good Luck.
2006-09-28 15:28:17 · answer #4 · answered by tcufrog13 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop seeing your boyfriend he is obviously a bad influence. Get a job and start to pay the money back. Don't ever steal from them again. It takes time to earn trust and when you violate that it is as difficult to repair as a break in a glass. It can however be repaired.
2006-09-29 02:01:18 · answer #5 · answered by AVA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You better get a job and give them their money back!!!! I don't care if you have to mow lawns, wash cars, or recycle cans. You did a horrible thing and YOU went off on them for punishing you? You destroyed their trust now you have to show that your really sorry. But keep in mind that "sorry" means that your sorry it happened and you'll never do it again!
2006-09-28 16:03:14 · answer #6 · answered by skhoury28nails 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first pay them back, come up with a way, weather its mowing peoples grass for 10 bucks a yard, or babysitting for 20 bucks, find a way to EARN the money, and then when you give it to them tell them your sorry again, and work around the house, help out wherever you can,
its gonna take a while, you have to build trust, its easier to loose it then get it, like a wall, its hard to builed it up, but you can knock it down in the snap of your fingers
good luck...
2006-09-28 15:34:53 · answer #7 · answered by Leesh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry can't help you...this is something only YOU can fix on your own. And if they never trust you again, that's your fault. You just may have to learn to deal with that fact.
2006-09-28 19:15:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They just mad at you for a short time...no one will be mad forever.
how about doing chores around the house... be in time when there's family member waiting for you... try find some part time job, something with responsibility... when you can handle things or job with great responsibility... they may change their mind about you... Anyone with responsibility are mature enough to think twice their acts.... it works for me.
2006-09-28 15:17:47 · answer #9 · answered by pheobe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with stephanie, it will take a lot of time and patience on both sides, it will be a very slow process, but be thankful for every little step forward, and try not to disappoint them any further
2006-09-28 15:18:28 · answer #10 · answered by ammyownwoman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋