he lost for me and i want it back?

Question

i have a bf that i have been with for a year and wen i met him i was with another guy that i cheated on to be with the guy that i am with now. i was with the other dude for five years and we had a baby boy that was born premature and died a wk and 1/2 later i was devastated after the lost because that was my first child and i wanted the baby really bad. he sent me back to my mom house when i got pregnant and really didnt even talk to me during the whole pregnacy. after the baby died thats when he started tryin to be with me agian but i felt like i had to get revenge for all the hurt and pain that he caused me. i still had some feelings for him but didnt know how to really let them go. i brought those feelings into the new relationship and they may have caused some problems because my new guy caught me with him on two different occasions. it caused him to lose some trust for me and i dont want that because i want him and not my ex.i need to kno how to gain his trust back..please help

Answer 1

first off you need closure from the previous relationship. let your current man know how you feel be honest tell him you want to be with him but you needed to discuss somethings with your ex that's why he caught you together (hopefully not sexually). all i can say is be honest and do what ever you have to do to prove you want him and not your ex. then cut the friendship with your ex. he was not man enough to be there when you were pregnant then he shouldn't be there now. he may tell you he was scared but remind him that he had a responsibility to be there and he wasn't. cut all ties and focus on your new man. make him feel like he is the only one or you will loose him good luck

Answer 2

Well first of all you did wrong. But anyways just let him know how you feel and that your willing to do anything to earn his trust back and if he doesnt want to then leave him alone if he really loves you hell come after you sooner or later.But dont trip theres a lot more guys out there he aint the only one

Answer 3

Only time and loyalty can do that getting into a new relationship without being completely over that person is like one of the worst things you could ever do the relationship is bound to fail because you didn't give yourself time to heal

Answer 4

you first need to come light with your true feeling and your wants. it is easy to say you want something without actually thinking about in the long run. he has caught you on two ocassions that mean there is something still there. you to evaulate both relationship before rush back with the second just to hurt him agian. i hope u understand what i am trying to say.

Answer 5

I am sorry for you loss.

I would let your ex go. He wasn't there for you when you were pregnant with his child and then decides to come around after you loose your child. I would cut all contact him, specially if you really care about you new boyfriend. He must care for you to still be with you after catching you with your ex. GO for him and leave the other guy alone.

Good luck.

Answer 6

in all, it seems to me(pardon my immaturity) that you are very insecure person. important things in life - you take emotionally and take quick actions.
anyways, leave past but in future what you do just think properly before you do it.


and yes trust your own instincts about what is right and what is wrong. you have the capability of judging what is right and what is wrong. only you can steer your life accordingly into the right path.

Answer 7

This is really really hard to read. Who is the father? Who do you want to get revenge on?

Answer 8

u got an *** on ur hands drop him like a hot rock and look for an intelligent woman RESPECTING man then ur set

Answer 9

leave your bastard EX alone

Answer 10

GROW UP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!