I've lost a child tell me how to get over it ?

Question

I sitll count how old my son would be?
I still cry for him?
I still want him?

Answer 1

nearly sixteen years ago i lost a son you never get over it but the pain lessons very slowly
you have good days and bad days
cherish what memories you have
go through the greiving process at your own speed never let anyone tell you you should be over this by now
think of your grief like the ocean it comes and goes like the tide
sometimes you feel very calm and accepting
other times you feel like your in a tsami
ride the tides good and bad
eventually the ocean calms and the sunshines again
good luck and remember you are never alone rely on family and friends to help

Answer 2

I am so sorry for your loss. I myself have lost 3 pregnancies, the 2ND being a 2ND trimester loss. I don't believe the pain ever goes away but with time it lessens. I still cry when I think about it and I believe that is a healthy outlet. I found it helpful to talk to others in similar situations because no one and I mean no one can understand unless they have been there, not even your spouse. I find doing something special in remembrance on the day of the loss or on the due date helpful. I also have 3 angel Xmas tree ornaments that I hang every hear in memory of them. Just be patient and find in outlet. don't worry what you are feeling is completely normal!

Answer 3

First off, I'm very sorry for your loss. Lossing a child is so hard. I don't think you will every get over the pain. I think you are always going to think about him and cry for him. I had a miscarrige and it hurt so bad. I bought a teddy bear for this baby and I have it sitting on my dresser. I know that a miscarrige is not like haveing the baby and losing it, but the teddy bear really helps. It keeps my baby alive and with me. I sometimes hold the bear and just cry. I still think he would have been two. We named him Christian. I have two girls now but wonder what he would have looked like. You also may want to talk with someone. I had an aunt that went thru this and she helped me to make the pain easier to live with. Good Luck and again, sorry for your loss.

Answer 4

Hun, I can NOT tell you that this easy easy. I would be a liar. I had a stillborn in 97 at 9 months and My mind STILL at times are with him. I have had a little boy after him healthy and now one on the way yet, Bryan will NEVER be far from my mind. On his birthday I think about him ESPECIALLY of what he would look like and what he would be like. Although times get easier as the years go by there is NOTHING me myself or any body can do or say. I KNOW. All I can tell you is PRAY to god and ask him to help you have strength to get through all this because I remember YOUR NOT alone. Keep your head up hun things WILL get better although you will NEVER forget. BEST WISHES

Answer 5

Loosing someone you love is hard, but loosing your own flesh and blood is something than only a person that has been in the same situation understands. Celebrate your sons life, not his death, do it little by little, day after day, the more you try to get over it the more difficult it will be for you to succed. try to get yourself busy doing the things that YOU like to do, Im sure he´s looking over you and he will always be a part of you too..Im sure that he will not want to see his Mommy sad all the time, so get your pieces together and keep living, keep enjoying life! this way we will live trough you and he will never be forget. God Bless you!

Answer 6

I agree with the others, I have found a support website that I find helpful. It is somewhere I can go to vent my feelings to others that may have experienced something similar. It is also nice to share with people who aren't familiar with your situation. I consider myself as a religious person, but I am still angered as I cannot figure out HIS purpose of taking her. It is something where the pain comes and goes like waves. My daughter, Faith, will be gone 3 years on 10/16. Not a day goes by that I don't think of her. The website I've been using is: http://www.findthelight.net/

Good luck. I'll be praying for you. Your child will NOT be forgotton. ~ Merrie ♥

Answer 7

My dear, I have great sympathy for you. Early in my marriage, I had a miscarriage. Then, for years we tried and were not able to have children. The pain of loss along with the devastation of being unable to have children weighed on me for almost 14 years. I prayed and prayed to be able to "get over it". Finally, after a time of prayer for me, I was able to say to God, "Let me be fruitful in what ever way You want me to be fruitful."
That very night, I got up in the middle of the night when I couldn't sleep. I wrote out a description of how my child would have looked and what kind of personality they would have had. When I shared it with my husband, we then lifted it up to the Lord and released the child to Him. It was after this that I finally felt released from the deep sorrow I had suffered for so long.
Now, I do not tell you this as a pattern, because every individual is unique, with different circumstances. But, perhaps it will be an encouragement to you to keep trusting that God will meet you and He knows your sorrows. Bless you, dear

Answer 8

Go talk to someone. Move and get a fresh start somewhere. Try finding something else in life that makes you feel good, and when you've finished grieving and can think about your departed child without overwhelming sadness and truly accept it, then think about having another child. You've gotta heal, and then you've gotta get brave and strong again.

Answer 9

You have to act as if he is alive. Tell him how you feel knowing you have to complete your relationship with him. Complete does not mean end! Know that you responsible for your own feelings and what you are currently doing to gradually let go of your pain. Know your life is okay and that your son would want you to be happy.

Answer 10

OMG i am so sorry if you lose a child like my mom lost her first child, Breeann she just tried to not think about it and get your mind on something else that is how my mom got into football she was so busy paying attention to football that she forgot about Breeann and i am still sad cause in a month it will be her birthday