I am talking in the beginning before you start falling in love or becoming exclusive. In the first few dates. In brains I am not necessarly talking wit or simple conversation. I mean intellegence how well versed are they. Does on weigh more heavier than the other when considering starting a relationship?
2006-09-28 14:47:46 · 14 answers · asked by firedragon 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
So far everyone is saying brains. So you would continue date someone that you are not physically attracted to.
2006-09-28 14:53:44 · update #1
To me, intelligence can offset a lot of physical imperfections. I've always had a thing for smart women, but that's just me. Now, with that being said, I don't think I could overlook a woman who had, you know, a horn growing out of her head or something like that, regardless of how smart she was. But to me an "average" looking woman (if there is such a thing) becomes very attractive if she is smart.
P.S. My wife was salutatorian of her high school class, and finished college in 3 and a half years with a double major in Computer Science and Math.
2006-09-28 14:55:08 · answer #1 · answered by dgindiansfan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, we all need to learn about a little thing called honesty.
Most mention personality and/or brains. However, thinking realistically, when we first meet someone, can we honestly say that his/her intelligence/personality is what attracted us to them in the first place? We'd all be lying if we did say that.
To begin with, unless you've gotten to know the person as a friend from the beginning, a physical sttraction is where it starts for both men and women. The rest comes over time as we get to know the person. I've been lucky and dated some incredibly beautiful women in my life. I even married one that was incredibly gorgeous. However, that was my first marriage and it only lasted 5 years because there was no substance to go along with her beauty. I am now happily on my second round of marriage and totally we have been totally head over heels in love with each other for 13 years. I can honestly say that it feels like we just met yesterday. She is not an incredibly drop dead gorgeous woman but, on the other hand, she's most definitely not difficult to look at either. She is a college graduate in the field of Telecommunications but does not practice her profession. Instead, she is a banker and we met (and got to know each other) when we worked together about 15 years ago. She is the love of my life and I wouldn't trade her for 10 gorgeous empty shells!
LL1
2006-09-28 16:00:27 · answer #2 · answered by latinlover1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was having the same conversation with my friends just yesterday! One guy told me that he usually goes for the looks first, and then as the relationship goes further, he'll find her more attractive once he becomes more aware of her personality. I think there's a bit of truth to that, since most guys do at first glance, go for looks. Whereas, since I'm a girl, I would first go for personality. There's these two guys that I'm fairly good friends with. One is extremely good looking, but he lacks in personality; and the other is 'cute' looking, but his personality makes him seem so much more attractive to me - and right now I'm considering him to be boyfriend material.
2006-09-28 15:10:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anythinggoes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well there certainly has to be a physical attraction for me to even go out on a date with the person. Once we get on the date and the person is totally clueless it's over. No second date.
2006-09-28 14:51:27 · answer #4 · answered by SmartyPants 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, for me it does. i want and need an intelegent woman in my life.
those that are not able to think beyong themselves and not able to stimulate me intelectualy will in most cases fall to the wast side.
those that make a fool hardy attempt to be something they are not are only making a fool of themselves and are quickly left to themselves for enacting such a lie.
beauty i have learned the hard way is meaningless, those that just rely on the beauty and get no where i cant help buy feel sorry for though i know its useless in most cases.
since they just keep repeating thier behaviore.
however there are some that will find themselves lucky enough to have both and hopefully are smart enough to know how to utilize thier inetelect
"firestorm"
2006-09-28 16:06:06 · answer #5 · answered by concrete water 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At first it is all beauty. Brains can tip the scale early on if looks are borderline. But I would date a beautiful retard and I probably wouldn't be attracted to an ugly genius at all.
2006-09-28 14:55:24 · answer #6 · answered by hankthecowdog 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, to start with everyone will say brains, but we all know first impressions are based on looks. But, with time, you can fall in love even if the looks aren't there.
2006-09-28 14:49:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Always brains! I don't care how attractive she is, if she can't keep up with a decent conversation then it's just a huge waste.
2006-09-28 14:57:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Brains always comes first for me - but if he's cute as well, that is certainly a bonus! Having said that, beauty on its own is ok, but you know what they say, beauty fades....Cheers luv.
2006-09-28 14:53:05 · answer #9 · answered by jambuputik 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say both if i can because the look brings you in then they have to have a good personality too!
2006-09-28 14:51:01 · answer #10 · answered by Kool 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋