I'm 12 and in 7th grade, and this is the first year my brother started middle school. I started noticing that he didnt really make friends, but in elemntrey school he had tons. Now its ramsey, and saddle river kids either go to saddle river day or public school in ramsey. so we obviously go to ramsey, so there are like 200 kids hes like never practically seen in them in his life. so pracitcally all of his frnds went to private school, and his actuall frnds are in none of his classes, and not even in the same team (our school has a system where they have 2 or 3 teams per grade) i dont see why not many people dont talk to him. hes chubby, but totally not anywhere near fat. not skinny, not fat. and hes so adorable! not too much of a babiesh kinda adorable but still.. and hes talkitive, sweet and so sensitive. my frnds even get excited when they see him and they love him! im guessing hes kinda sad from when his bst frnd for 5 yrs mvd across the country, but what should i do?? HESNOTALONER!
2006-09-28 14:35:18 · 10 answers · asked by ○◘•DaNdAnA•◘○ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I love my brother so much, I'm just worried. Sometimes he does like to be alone but I just get so worried because I think of it as misery-- I'm an all people person. I just want to make things better, you know? I just want to help him out because he means like the world to me and I don't want him to be sad or anything. I just want the best for him, that's all.
P.S. If you need to know, then well he's 11 months younger than me.
2006-09-28 14:45:00 · update #1
Hello Kitty-- He is so not a loner. He has frnds outside of school! And he dresses perfectly, I dont have to change anything about him.. Hes so awesome.. he wears like all abercrombie-- jeans, jackets.. ya know? stuff like that... so well... thanks in advance guys! I just need suggestions to help him with this. He probably is sad from his friend moving but he never seems sad!! I just get so worried about him all the time...
2006-09-28 14:49:36 · update #2
try 2 talk 2 him or throw a all boys sleepover
2006-09-28 14:38:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Starting at a new school is tough, i have switched schools many times and when i started highschool i had just left a private school in which all of my friends went to a different school then i did. i was shy, so i always tryed to join a sport team to find people who liked the same things that i did. encourage your brother to get involved with school functions. does your school have clubs, family skate night, or a school dance? being a supportive sister is great, but don't be too pushy, give him time, making new freinds doesnt happen over night.
2006-09-28 14:43:23 · answer #2 · answered by Allison 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the other person's idea about including him with your friends may help him "warm up" a little. He is probably really sad because his friend moved so far away. That has to hurt. Sometimes it is difficult to make new friends. Just be there for him, talk to him, and really listen to what he is saying. If he seems depressed, it is time to bring your parents into the loop. You have to protect your kid brother, and you may need help.
You're a good sib!
2006-09-28 14:42:47 · answer #3 · answered by from HJ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him work it out for himself. These things tend to do that. being a newcomer is never easy no matter where you are or go. There's another young kid out there that isa loner too. They'll get together somehow. Meanwhile, you could suggest ways he could dress a little cooler or ways to strike up conversations that will encourage him to reach out to others. Suggest for him to get on a club/team. This is one of the easiest ways to make friends.
2006-09-28 14:44:12 · answer #4 · answered by hellokittyt012263 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His probably just sad because he is in a new school and he doesn't know anybody. He will be ok it will take him some time to get just to school and to find some new friends. Since you have been in that school you should introduce him to some of your friends that will help him a lot. ITs really nice of you to care about your brother.
2006-09-28 14:43:39 · answer #5 · answered by ana3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about it, if he doesn't want to talk dont force him. Also reassure him that you are there if he ever needs to talk. He will make friends eventually. I remember what it was like going from a small gradeschool to jr.high where i didnt really know anyone. As I said just be there for him when he needs you and things will be ok
2006-09-28 14:47:16 · answer #6 · answered by robbie501 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
encourage him to try out in sports team or other activities the school holds...if not than within the community where he still has a chance of meeting people from school (just maybe outside of it)
2006-09-28 14:42:21 · answer #7 · answered by ellie_2121 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should do nothing and let him find his own way. He may eventually surprise you.
2006-09-28 14:39:36 · answer #8 · answered by Val 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have him hang out with your friends....invite him to hang out with you guys....eventually he will make friends....dont force him though....just let it happen.....
2006-09-28 14:38:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he wants to be alone
2006-09-28 14:37:26 · answer #10 · answered by labonitameli 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋