I need HELP with my love life... :( ?

Question

ok me and my boyfriend have been together 2 years and i love him to death. sometime he can be real controlling and jealous (im 16 hes 18). We broke up the other day but we break up all the time but he said it was really over this time

i can tell he loves me but i dont know where i went wrong. ive tried fixing it over and over. All we did was aruging like the last 3 weeks of what relationship we had but i thought we could overcome it.

I mean should I move on or should I just wait. I think it has tooken up alot of my teenage life but its like when u find someone that doesnt cheat and treats u right y give it up, b/c u may never find a love like that again..

Ill be trying not to call him begging him to talk to me and stuff but then he'll calll and b like "so i c how much u care" im like O M G!! Should i tell him not to call me??I told him i was getting my nosed pierced and he was liek im not going to b with no trash and mess..hes playing games w/ my hearts HELP ME!!

Should i leave him alone?? & tell him not to call me and try 2 get over him by talking to other boys?? Or should I keep all my feelings for him and never let him go?? Gah I Love Him 2 Death...

He said that i wasnt ready for a relationship and mess.. i mean idk he was looking at my MYSPACE n i was talking to this gurl me and her got n a disagreement about my friend b.c she messed with her bro n i was like well i heard he wasnt good ne ways.. n he was like how can u do me like.. i was like wha..

Answer 1

Woa - GIRL Calm Down! Alot of boys these days will play games with you. And these ones you've mentioned are early signs of a serious abuse - whether emotional or physical. consider yourself lucky it's "over". And I know it hurts, and I know you feel torn. But there are plenty of other guys who will treat you ALOT better. Guys that will like you FOR YOU. Go for the guys that make you want to be better, and feel comfortable, and bubbly inside. No more of this "I want to fix our relationship". They are hard - yes, but if you argue that much, and have to "fix" them like that, it's not going anywhere good.

Answer 2

Have you ever thought that maybe he does a lot of those things b/c he really does care and he wants the best for you but doesn't know how to say it or express it. To me it seems like he;s the realy macho type and that can be hard on a relationship be if you love each other you need to work it out and learn to comprise. In other words listen to somethings he says and don't give him a reason to be jealous. And he needs to try to be more understanding and listen to what you say and trust you that you love him enough to be faithful to him. I hope you fix it with him he seems like a good guy don't let him go without trying! GOOD LUCK 2 U!

Answer 3

I know exactly what you are going through. I went the same thing but mine was 4 years. You have to move on from the relationship. If it is meant to be then it is. If he is going to fight with you and make you feel like crap and play games with you, you need to dismiss the man. You are right about finding the right guy for you but not if he verbally abuses you. That just aint right. He aint no man if he acts like that.

Answer 4

move on. You can find a guy who will stay with you, and won't mess with your head. I think he is just using you. Dump him for me lol.

Answer 5

MOVE ON. YOU CAN DO BETTER. FIND A GUY WHO DOES NOT CAUSE YOU TO QUESTION, WONDER, OR WORRY ABOUT HIS FEELINGS FOR YOU.

YOU ALREADY KNOW HE HAS CONTROL ISSUES. DO KNOW WHAT IT MEANS TO BE CO-DEPENDENT? READ "CO-DEPENDENT NO MORE". IT'S ABOUT BEING ADDICTED TO TOXIC PEOPLE.

FIND A GUY WHO IS SO GOOD TO YOU, YOU WANT TO CALL ALL YOUR FRIENDS AND BRAG ABOUT HIM TO THEM.