I never interact with anyone and i'm always by myself at lunch i sit alone and when we have to do group work in class i just sit there and dont say anything to anyone in the group sometimes they think i'm retarded but i'm just shy what should i do?
2006-09-28 14:32:16 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
really try and open up. It will be hard at first but it is going to be REALLY important once you get older. I was exactly like you so your taking advice from some one who HAS done it before. take little steps for example if you are doing group work, contribute a little and it will make a big impression on your classmates. Then, people will start to talk to you and come sit next to you at lunch. They don't think you are shy, believe me. I'll tell you what they are thinking:" That person there sitting by themselves thinks that she/he is too good for us and doesn't want to be with anyone but her/him self". I know that's a little harsh but once i came out of my shell, people used to tell me that they never came up to me not because they thought I was shy but because they thought i was too good for anyone to be my friend. That's the message i was unconsciously putting out there by being by myself all the time and thats the message you are putting out there too. Try it...whats the worst that will happen?
2006-09-28 14:45:41 · answer #1 · answered by laylay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes, you don't have to talk. Just use gestures to start conversations- smiling, eyes- use body language. Try to find certain interests you have and join a group that has the same interests. Also, try this- one goal everyday- one sentence to one person everyday, has to ba a different person everyday. That way u don't seem retarded(although ppl who think that might be retarded themselves), and everybody understands that ur just shy. When u talk to a different person everyday, you make connections and ultimately you will find a few that you want to be with and then stick to them. Having few friends is not a bad thing but don't let people get the wrong impression of you- fight to make yourself be known for urself.
2006-09-28 14:44:31 · answer #2 · answered by Bookworm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-01 11:46:59 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i used to be the same way but you should just forget about being shy and do and say whatever you feel like. you might feel happier and evryone would know who you are onstead of just thinking of you as that retarded kid that sits alone and doesnt talk.well really what do you have to loose by doing that? are those kids at school that important that you cant be yoursef around!!good luck
2006-09-28 14:37:25 · answer #4 · answered by ailene 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try and just say and do things a little bit at a time. you can't spend all your school life being by yourself. you need friends and support. i realise how difficult it is when you're shy, i was too. but you have to snap out of it ok!! just say hi to people, and smile and answer questions. soon people will see that you are normal and will want to be your friend and help you out of your shell. It's scary, but it's worth it. You can do it!!!!
2006-09-28 14:35:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't like interacting with people either, but sometimes we have to do things that we don't like. When you have to interact with people, just make fun of them in your head. Hold your head up, and make eye contact. That shows confidence
2006-09-28 14:35:38 · answer #6 · answered by Geezel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not entirely sure, I'm 42 and have felt like what you are describing more or less for all of my life. Ignore the jerks.. Find what is strong and good in yourself and cultivate that. Find friends who like you for who you realy are. Otherwise you are better off without them, I'm sure of that. Maybe join a church or a club for something you like.
2006-09-28 14:36:24 · answer #7 · answered by kurticus1024 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wish I could help but the only peeps I am familar with are the little sugar chick ones--if they are making fun of you-just bite their little heads off!
2006-09-28 14:35:34 · answer #8 · answered by keepingthefaith 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Join an afterschool club or a team. You probably have some skill that they would be glad to have you on the team for. You will meet and get to know people there.
2006-09-28 14:34:40 · answer #9 · answered by Rich Z 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
see...even i used to be like that...now that i have grown up..i know how to interact and i feel bad that i used to sit like u ideally without talking to the other person....all u need to do is FEEL free...just talk to them as if u were thir sister or something...thing will be a bit difficult in the beginning but once few talks are done u will feel GREAT...go AHEAD......
2006-09-28 14:36:21 · answer #10 · answered by bindu kiran 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋