I've been seeing this guy for quite some time now. Unfortunately, he lives 2,500 miles away from me. He has every intention of moving to be closer to me in the upcoming months... however, we very rarely speak on the phone and we don't email each other. I don't even find myself thinking about him during the day. I am beginning to think this relationship is over before it even began.
I know absence is supposed to make the heart grow fonder, but instead it became "outta sight, outta mind".
Any secrets to making this work? Or am I wasting my time?
2006-09-28 14:19:26 · 10 answers · asked by Whatever 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My simple opinion is this:
Long distance relationships just don't work unless you plan on being together in the near future ( a week or so).
Reason why you ask...
Neither of you get any time together, it's to easy to "put the person out of your mind" because they are not as "real" because they are not there.
It's an illusion to think that you could make it work out, a relationship needs to have "connections", touch, communication, seeing each other regularly, doing things together, exploring each others personalities and traits, k]likes & dislikes...
it's just not something you can pull off wothout seeing the other person.
It's also way to easy to 'cheat' on the relationship, there's no one around to'find out' about it.
Absence makes the heart grow fonder yes...
but it was meant for a short period of time.
Stay friends for now, If it was meant to be it will work out when he moves closer.
2006-09-28 14:28:58 · answer #1 · answered by KIRRA 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There should be believe, dedication and strong verbal change to make issues function properly. If there are those 3 aspects lacking, than the relationship will fizzle out finally, the position one individual might want to easily in simple terms quit chatting with the different with none rationalization. Love is yet another key. so long because the activities in touch are very committed to one yet another and performance come to a call on a plan to have a destiny at the same time, then there might want to correctly be fulfillment in a lengthy-distance relationship. If one stops being difficulty-free (even as they're bored, lacking the different individual too a lot, and so on.) then the relationship turns right into a burden for the liar and a fantasy or farce for the difficulty-free one.
2016-12-06 08:33:34 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long distance relationships DO work, there is no secret to them, its about love and effort, i have been with my husband for one year, out of that one year 6 months of it was long distance! and again we find ourselves apart, but the difference is we love eachother, we cant imagine our lives without being together, and we confirm this by telephone calls, chatting, emails and the plans to make this distance thing go away, if you love this guy and you cant imagine your life without him then you would do everything within your power to make it work, if neither of you are making any effort to stay in touch then i gotta say why are you bothering?
2006-09-28 14:38:46 · answer #3 · answered by lavidamasespecial1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They don't work in most cases.....I wasted my time on some dumb B* t c h the last few months that talked the talk but expected Fabio in a house overlooking the ocean when she was pretty "shopworn" looking and was extremely ignorant! I was a fool but she was a bigger one!! I sure some can work but not if you'd met the person I did!!
2006-09-28 14:54:48 · answer #4 · answered by Damned fan 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
listen, if YOU want it to be a waste of time, its YOUR choice. if you think that you can love this man and make it work then by all means hold out. try to chat with msn or gmail or somthing. if love can work, make it. i hate hearing people lie about "well we loved eachother but it would never work out" thatssome serious poundage of bs. i mean they should work at the redeo with that much bs. if love is there you do anything and everything you can to make it work and even if things dont work out you keep that person in your heart and wait until things do work. if you love him, purseu him, if you dont love him leave him
2006-09-28 14:24:53 · answer #5 · answered by waffleman 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It shouldn't matter how far apart you are... or for how long...
It's the fact that you said you don't think about Him during the day... that leads me to believe that you should stop and reconsider this relationship.........
Real love knows no distance or time.......
2006-09-28 14:38:21 · answer #6 · answered by Uwanna Kissimmi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe its not supposed to work. You have no commitment find somebody local and have fun.
2006-09-28 14:22:21 · answer #7 · answered by darkdiva 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wasting your time. the secret is that it doesnt work
2006-09-28 14:21:08 · answer #8 · answered by labonitameli 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it won't ever work. I know. I tried it. Every attempt was a total failure.
2006-09-28 14:42:57 · answer #9 · answered by dread pirate lavenderbeard 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Waste of time.
Find someone else.
2006-09-28 14:20:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋