There is a man with whom I had an affair. I know that there was nothing between us but the sex. But since the affair came out and we stopped sleeping together, I still find myself thinking about him. I am still with my boyfriend and while I know I love him there is no spark between us any longer. The sex with my affair wasn't that great but I loved the way he made me feel when we were together. Even now if he were to need me for whatever reason I would go to him. Am I still feeling those "lustful" feelings or am I just insane???
2006-09-28 14:08:19 · 16 answers · asked by WonderTwit 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
spit or swallow!
2006-09-28 14:26:04 · answer #1 · answered by deadprincess@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Lust is an appeal. Lust is a sexual choose. Lust would not require love. Love is a robust and efficient emotion. Love is unconditional. Love is a deep look after yet somebody else. Lust can exist interior of love, in spite of the undeniable fact that it is on an totally distinctive point.
2016-10-18 04:08:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
greetings..you have to ask yourself this question..what is it about the affair man that your attracted to? like all begings of all relationships, theres the physical attraction. once that part is explored, then comes the inner attractions..if any. most people cheat on there spouses because there usually not getting what they need from there spouse. whether its sex or attention, or both. at some point you gave up on your current relationship by entertaining the thought of stepping out on your boy friend. then to actually go through with it basically sealed the deal. my suggestion is this. you need to sit your boyfriend down an explain to him this isn't working out. you need to take a break and work out some personal issues..or whatever...once this is done you can then, with a clear mind and conscience pursue your romantic interest with the affair man. good luck
2006-09-28 14:24:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is (1)to be pond of or desire with a deep and tender feeling of affection for or attachment or devotion to a person (2)_an expression of one's love or affection and a strong liking for or interest in someone (3) a strong ,usually passionate,affection of one person to another,based in part on sexual attraction (4) a deep devotion or intense fondness to love each other with full caring and protecting
Lust is (1) a desire to grativy the senses,bodily appetite (2)sexual desire,exessively especially as seeking unrestrained gratification
(3)over mastering sexual desire
I think your boyfriend has only a lust for you and he has no a real love.He wants only a sexual relationship with you and after he is boring he left you alone.
2006-09-28 14:36:38 · answer #4 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I separate the person from who they are, i.e. a body part, that person has an incredible bottom, or they are hot, I am separating the person from who they are to how they appear/look. I am also idealizing who they are based on the objectification of their body, i.e., because that person is hot, I would like to get to know them, or somehow they are appealing emotionally mentally because they are hot. As I am objectifying, lust shows itself in fantasy. What would I like, what would I like to do with and to them. So I would say when the idealized picture of this person is replaced with reality, IE., who they really are. You can accept and be willing to see past faults, issues, problems because Love carries no jealousy, love doesn't judge, love don't do anything for self gratitude, love gives unconditionally, love is trust, love is respect, love is truth!
2006-09-28 20:33:26 · answer #5 · answered by Wolfie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is just my opinion, but with lust you want to be with someone because you know you really shouldn't and it's usually just because of sex or that you're afraid of being alone. When its love, you get a warm cozy feeling in your heart and you don't think of them just in a sexual way.
2006-09-28 14:22:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love is when you really care for aomeone and nobody else.. Lust is when you want sex sex sex with someone and that is all you want from them. Lust can be fun but not very rewarding.
2006-09-28 14:10:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spark is something you need to work on. Shame on you for cheeting. Some people are addicted to the "new" feeling of being with someone. get over it.
2006-09-28 16:05:03 · answer #8 · answered by Jennifer J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is more of a pure emotion. Lust is a mixture of emotion and bio-chemical reactions that most often results in physical acts. ;-)
2006-09-28 14:26:13 · answer #9 · answered by Pope 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lust is a physical attraction that comes naturally. it is usually a precedent to love. love is an emotional thing that you have to work at. no one is born knowing how to love. they see how their parents relate to each other and think that is what love is. that is why abuse gets passed down from one generation to the next. if you want your bf to fall in love with you and you want to have the spark that you first had together, fall in love with him. fake it till you make it. to be loved you have to be lovable. to be in love you have to act like you are in love.
2006-09-28 15:09:28 · answer #10 · answered by handyman5218 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm 59 and have been around the track a few times. From what you describe it sounds like you're a goner. Go to him.
2006-09-28 14:31:54 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋