it is much easier for my gf to say that I am going to leave you, if you do that than I ...I am patient with her and understand her, but she is impatient with me and don't understand ..Do you think it's because she doesn't love me as strong as I love her ..? Because she is always ready to break up once a condition is not satified ...but for me it's difficult, I won't even say that, I would have stayed and try to change the situation ..What do think about my problem ..?
2006-09-28 14:04:52 · 15 answers · asked by bobby s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
a threat of leaving a relationship is never the answer.....if she is not happy with something she should discuss it with you in a mature fashion.......
if she is constantly threatening you then i would call her bluff and walk away.......you dont want to be with someone who can not adapt to change and be a little flexible....you need to be with someone who will support you through the good and bad......
2006-09-28 14:09:33 · answer #1 · answered by askaway 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems to me that your girlfriend doesn't really appreciate you enough, otherwise she would want to work on things rather than jumping to 'I'm leaving' after every little hiccup.
I think maybe you should think about how much you really want to be with her and then sit down with her and explain - very calmly - that you cannot live like this and if she really wants to break up then she should be honest with you right now. You might not get the response you were hoping for, but at least it will save you a lot of heartache in the future.
Then again, she may feel like her requests are being ignored by you and that you are the one not making the effort in the relationship, I know a friend who relies solely on his partner for everything and never lifts a finger, but does not think there is anything wrong with the way he is acting. Could you be doing more to satisfy her needs?
Hope this helped dude.
2006-09-28 21:14:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't blame yourself. Nothing is wrong with you. It could come from her home life that as soon as something goes wrong end it. She may be used to seeing that growing up and she doesn't know any other way. If you love her, have patience with her and show her that love is staying together and working whatever it is out.
2006-09-28 21:15:21 · answer #3 · answered by lynn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think she realizes it. You can test her and do something and see what she does. If she really does leave, then she isn't the one for you. Have you talked to her about it? Every relationship needs communication. If you have talked to her about being patient and understanding and she hasn't proven it, then test her and if she fails, then you'll know.
2006-09-28 21:10:08 · answer #4 · answered by ConfusedK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like there is some deeper problems with her. need to sit down when yr not having a problem to be able to chat nicely about problems of difficulties that have been happening. read tips on love and relationships on this site to help you better
2006-09-28 21:10:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is idiotic. Basically, she's blackmailing you. How about this: The next time she threatens to break up with you b/c of whatever, tell her, "fine." Let her break up with you. Do it, no matter how hard it is for you. If she actually cares about you, she wpn't want to break up with you, and she probably won't do it again. If she does break up than, well, you have your answer.
2006-09-28 21:09:06 · answer #6 · answered by LSD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your girlfriend is a control freak who does not love you at all. Love is unconditional. The best thing for you to do is call her bluff. If she leaves, you aren't out anything, trust me.
2006-09-28 21:08:47 · answer #7 · answered by eyeque195 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may be afraid of commitment, or maybe her feelings are not the same as yours. The only way you will know for sure is to ask her. You seem more loyal to the relationship than she is.
2006-09-28 21:08:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave her....she's using you and you know it.......she's being a manipulative b*tch.......she's getting what she wants out of you......so let her know that its going to stop....break up with her.....don't take her calls for about a week...when she's ready to act like a human being, then talk to her again.....
2006-09-28 21:08:24 · answer #9 · answered by honey_bear_21_1999 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like it's time for you to move on. this girl is using threats to get what she wants, and this is not a comfortable, happy way for people to relate. You need to find someone with whom you can have mutual respect and caring. Someone who considers your point of view, just as you consider her point of view.
2006-09-28 21:10:27 · answer #10 · answered by Marcella S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋