My Boyfreind just told me to Lose Weight or he will dump me. What do i do? i love him. I gave my virginity to him.
2006-09-28 13:59:41 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hhahahahah forget him. LOSE HIM NOT THE WEIGHT hes trippin. you dont love him you just feel like you do cuz you gave it to him thats why..........just cuz of that doesnt mean you have to stay with him forever! find some other guy!!! he obviously doesnt love you back even if he says he does.
2006-09-28 14:04:04 · answer #1 · answered by Christina G. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, this is a new one, I gotta tell you I don't respect women who let anybody treat them like this. If your boyfriend tells you he will dump you if you don't lose weight tell him he has to get a larger thingie (you know what I mean) or you will dump him. Since he can't , dump him and move on. If you wanna lose weight lose weight but nobody should tell you losing weight is a condition to be loved by them.
Then get your brain tested, I think you might be missing some brain cells. Why does it matter you gave your virginity to him?, that doesn't mean a thing, it doesn't mean he loves you more for it, it doesn't mean you can't find another man, it doesn't mean anything, it doesn't mean you are special to him, don't use that to excuse your masoquist tendencies, do you like being treated like that by your boyfriend?, then why do you stay with him?, when a boyfriend, lover , husband, wife, etc gives you conditions "lose weight or I'll leave you", "get a job or I'll find somebody else" that relationship is as good as over, he will just continue giving you "tasks" to keep his love. Don't let him use you.
Get over yourself and dump the bastard, somebody else will love your tummy.
2006-09-28 14:09:03 · answer #2 · answered by L M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is just completley messed up. How dare he make comments like that to you?! Give me his address and I will go to his house and kick his butt for you!
First off, some men are jerks. I dont know why they are. They just are. But honestly, you DO NOT need to take that BS from anyone.
Do YOU feel that you want to lose weight? I mean, before the whole incident occured? If you want to lose weight for YOURSELF then I urge you to do so. But dont let him put you down like that and tell you what to do!
I understand that you lost your virginity to him. And its rough to lose someone that you have shared such a intimate life changing experience with.. but to me, sounds like he isnt anything special. If he truly loved you he wouldnt of been so rude. I say move on. There are plenty of other fish in the sea.
Best wishes.
2006-09-28 19:44:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's what you should do.
Ask him how much he weighs. Then look him RIGHT IN THE EYE and tell him...
"That's astonishing. That's EXACTLY how much weight I just lost!"
Then walk away and don't talk to him ever again. That will really get the message across.
He doesn't love you if he says S*** like that.
Good Luck Dear
Oh and being a virgin is really over rated so don't sweat it too much. Everybody has to lose it sometime. I bet you are damn cute just the way you are and he doesn't deserve you.
2006-09-28 14:08:47 · answer #4 · answered by tcb9020 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds very harsh and shallow that he will dump you if you dont lose weight. You need someone to love the whole you and some guys love curves as well. He sounds a bit mean really.
2006-09-28 14:02:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
He does not appreciate the gift you gave him of your virginity if he can say this to you. I understand that you love him and the following will be tough. But tell him to go soak his head. He is not worthy of you.
You deserve someone better than this. You will find it. If he thinks he can control you now how bad do you think it will get later.
If you want to lose weight later then do it later. He can see what he missed by being so shallow about it.
2006-09-28 14:35:04 · answer #6 · answered by pj_gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a total A**HOLE for for putting any demands on you.I think it's best to let him walk for if you give into this demand then he will know that he can make you do whatever he want using the "do it or I am leaving you" threat whenever he wants to. I know that you gave him your virginity and you love him but if his love for you is conditional on you being a obedient slave to his demands then it's not a true love.Eventually you will find someone who loves you as you are and with no conditions and that's what love is really about.ACCEPTING SOMEONE HOWEVER THEY ARE.
2006-09-28 14:08:51 · answer #7 · answered by hjbergel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the boy has as a condition that you lose weight, he does not really care for you. Too bad you didn't reserve your gift of virginity for a more worthy recipient.
2006-09-28 14:03:59 · answer #8 · answered by darkdiva 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a guy is willing to say that to you, he doesnt love you.
He should be supportive of your body and even more so of your feelings. If you are over wieght, its not his right to tell you to hit the gym.
But to give you a choice like that. Its rude, uncalled for. Ignorant, selfish and he gives other men around the world a horrible name.
You should dump his butt ASAP!
2006-09-28 14:02:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay hunny, if you're happy with your body, tell him to kiss your round butt good buy...There are men who Love curves and love women for them. I know you gave him your virginity, but obviosly he doesn't validate you and your love, so why should you validate him!!! Dump him, make him feel like an ***, and find comfort withing your friends and family!!! I promise you'll be okay, because the same thing happened to me!!!
2006-09-28 14:04:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump him!! dont let him control you, if he is with you only coz of your looks, he is not worth it! he should love you no matter what and make you feel beautiful every single day...you can lose weight after dumping him and show him who's in control...it would be the best revenge ever!
2006-09-28 14:03:16 · answer #11 · answered by Mila 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋