at what age should a parent allow thier daughter to be completely independant? ie: living with a partner, coming and going as they please, school. medical, etc?
2006-09-28 13:58:41 · 23 answers · asked by bl 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
When they are out of the house and totally self sufficient or when they are 18 and you kick them out.
2006-09-28 14:01:11 · answer #1 · answered by thisisuandme 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
See this is a Gray area. I would say 18, because thats the legal age in which you are NOT held resposible for her.
If she is living with you then I would say you can make rules and set expectations and she can choose to follow or live else where.
At some point you can not control what you daughter will or will not do. However, this to me doesn't mean you need to fund her either.
ADULT means ADULT, she lives and funds her life and then she gets to make the choices too!
The hard part as the parent is that you are not always going to agree with her choices, I would voice that in a caring way but other than that ITS HER LIFE TO LIFE and Learn from.
2006-09-28 15:06:42 · answer #2 · answered by tara t 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter is 20. She lived with me until she was about 20 1/2. She moved in with a boyfriend. When she got her car, she paid the car ins, car tags and taxes. Her dad did cosign the loan though. She pays her own cell phone bill and has her own credit cards. I have only bought her some food so far. If she does need help, I wouldn't hesitate to help but she chose to live with the boyfriend and needs to understand what it is to live on her own. She does have a full time job. If she wasn't living with the boyfriend, she would probably still be living with me and still pay her own bills. I think it depends on the personality and morals of the child too. Some kids may not be ready to do this if they are 20. My daughter is very independent.
2006-09-28 14:04:41 · answer #3 · answered by lazycat 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Legal age is 18... although I'd say they should get at least a high school diploma.
You should raise a child to be prepared for independence... don't just throw them out and let them sink or swim.
Children learn by example... so give them a loving home and don't always encourage improper behavior. What you do in moderation your children will do in excess.
2006-09-28 14:06:55 · answer #4 · answered by Jim I 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NEVER!!! I have two young daughters and don't want to think about them growing up!
Seriously, It depends on the child. Some mature faster than others.
I moved out on my own when I was 18. I had a good job, and supported myself. Before that I came and went as I pleased. I was grown.
But I hope my babies don't leave that soon, except to go to college.
2006-09-28 14:07:27 · answer #5 · answered by tnmomof2as 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Coming and going depends on maturity, but they should still check in and let you know about extensives stays. 16+
Everything else whatever the state law says. New York is 17 you can't keep them at home no matter what. California is 18
2006-09-28 14:31:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I subscribe to the Bill Cosby view of parenting. He used to say on that show where he played a doctor, "You are breathing my air."
I told my kids, "Independence is for the independent. Period, end of debate."
I agree with the belief that as long as kids live in my home, I'm in charge, just as when I visit them, they are in charge.
A kid shacking up with someone in my house??? Don't be ridiculous! Any parent who lets their kid move in a lover, should along with the kid and the lover be sent to Devil's Island.
Most states do have what they call emancipation, which means a kid still under age, receives legal status of an adult, including the right to incur debt, to live alone, etc. They can't drink underage, but they can work and rent property and have debt. One gets an attorney and applies to a court just as for divorce.
2006-09-28 14:11:55 · answer #7 · answered by retiredslashescaped1 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
30
2006-09-28 14:00:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
18 is the legal age in most states. However, in most states, an underage child can be married sooner with parental permission.
2006-09-28 14:23:55 · answer #9 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
None of the above until they are of legal age, and can afford to live out on their own, so they would have to have a job with medical insurance, car, etc. Until they are 18 you are legally repsonsible for them.
2006-09-28 14:04:10 · answer #10 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No sooner than 18
2006-09-28 14:13:38 · answer #11 · answered by Ashley P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋