When a person questions theirselves about things&situations, and its hard to choose which is best, what should they do??I know everybody believes 2 follow ur heart, but I get confused b/c I want things 2 be right, but its hard to stick w/someone who acts like they dont care.Im 5months pregnant, and Im trying my best 2ignore alot, but what should I do, when a person sayes they love you very much, but doesnt show it like they use to????I get tired of preaching the same thing, and I try my best 2ignore somethings, but I am person that has strong feelings for this dude!!!Im just confused, should I leave or should I stay??I wanna stay and make things work, but it takes two and right now I feel like im tha only one tryna make things work!!!He likes having sex,but not me becuz I know it's a lot more we need 2 set str8 besides sex all tha tyme!!!I really need advice
2006-09-28 13:48:38 · 6 answers · asked by playagurl062003 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Honey I hear you. You know inside what to do though.I know you do. It is not that you want him to do the right thing or act the right way ....YOU WANT HIM TO WANT TOO. That is something that can get lost along the way but, in true love shouldnt. I so believe in continuing to nutrue a relationship always...not get comfortable and just stop trying and coast on auto pilot. Where did that person go you fell in love with? He should be the person you are looking at today. Just like you are...reaching out right now wanting things to be the same...I hear you....preaching will not make him feel inside what he should in his heart. What you need to do is up root his life of comfort with you...not preach but instead....stop...stop the talkin and explaining ....and explaining...be strong and step back from him completley...when he asks what your problem is...say..I have said it all already...and i care about me to much to ask you to be a man....life is too short and I am too good of a person to wish for something , someone ..you to be what I deserve....I am done with you, this person I know today...I fell in love with someone who doesnt exist anymore and I would rather be alone than be compromized. If the man I fell in love with does exist he will have to find me agian or reget it forever and tell him he may not realize it right now but, he will and it will be to late. You sound like a true heart and true heart can only be with another true soul....if it is him....he will wake up...if not...you will find your true soul.
2006-09-28 14:00:27 · answer #1 · answered by givemeprivacy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is tough and can relate. Im not preg. but been with my man for 2 years. And he doesnt treat me the same either. I get the "you should know by now I care" but dont get the actions. Im 36 and have seen this in ALL my relationships. I think Its just men. they try real hard to impress to get you, but once they have you they think they dont have to try anymore. I think he needs a wake-up. Do something to get a reaction to see if he really cares, if that is a doubt of yours. or give him space, and let him know its not all about him. I ignore things too, and its probably not the best route, but it beats arguing. NEVER NEVER ignore cheating or infidelity!!! You and the baby are better than that. When I act like HE doesnt matter as much, or I stop the phone calls or texts, he seems to show more interest, or pay me more attention. ....like theres a fear of a loss. Hope that helps. I know its diff. with a baby involved. Good luck.
2006-09-28 21:05:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time just forget the text messaging style of asking your questions!
Think about your unborn child and do what 's going to be best for it! He doesn't matter and you need to get yourself together and think of yourself and the baby. Statistics have proved all of this, IT NEVER WORKS OUT if there is no love for you from him and he will never feel any different for you.
2006-09-28 20:54:45 · answer #3 · answered by jinxies 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go back to your parents or somewhere else till after you have the baby. If he really cares he will come after you. But he should try to stop you before you leave.
2006-09-28 20:54:10 · answer #4 · answered by us citizen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well ur screwed cuz u need to get ur stuff together before that kid comes
2006-09-28 20:53:01 · answer #5 · answered by joe v 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look for who does has his attention
2006-09-28 20:53:57 · answer #6 · answered by blue_eyed_southernman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋