What are some things I can ask/talk about on a first date with a girl I hardly know in an effort to obviously get to know her better but at the same time not be too invasive, - I would like to make it to a 2nd date with her, if you know what I mean.
Any help/advice/ideas would be greatly appreciated.
I am 21 - she is 19. We are both in college and take a class together. I really like her, and have no idea how she feels about me. However, she did agree to meet me at the coffeehouse on campus this Sunday via Facebook, so she must be at least somewhat interested in me, right???
Thank You so much in advance!!!
2006-09-28 13:24:29 · 35 answers · asked by racing_into_the_future 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Does anyone have anything to add??? Good answers so far by the way! Just would like more people's thoughts on this matter. Thanks!
2006-09-28 17:02:44 · update #1
Sounds promising! Good luck!
Ask questions that give her the opportunity to talk about things she likes. You can start with the class, then ask what kinds of things she likes to do in her spare time. If she says movies, ask what her favorite movie of the year was, then get her talking about that.
If she says sports, ask her if she likes to play or go to games.
You'll do great, just BE YOURSELF! Good luck!
2006-09-28 13:29:01 · answer #1 · answered by renee_kovach 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ask her what she's interested in. Avoid talking about school, because that is something that you both do, your conversations may end up being just about school. Just going off that information, I would say that she may be interested, but are you sure that she knows that going to the coffeehouse with you is a first date? How about, set that up as a pre date test, if all that goes well, than ask her out on a real date....away from campus
2006-09-28 13:30:12 · answer #2 · answered by kittycat_cc14 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Easy tiger, slow down, take a breath. It's all going to be okay. Don't get so anxious. Yeah she's interested just don't start humming the wedding tune yet. It's a first date, start out as Friends. Treat it like you are just getting to know her and it's totally casual. Put your attractive feelings aside and let the buddy feelings out and it will take off from there. Don't get all sweaty and nervous but be a little flirty. Flattery will get you far but don't over do it. You have to see what kind of person she is first because what if you find that she isn't at all what you are looking for....
2006-09-28 13:31:05 · answer #3 · answered by mother_flower 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say start at a coffee house, then GO somewhere and do something fun. When all you do is try to talk and get to know everything on a first date, it's kind of awkward, like an interview process. But if you go out and have fun, you might not know every detail of her life, goals, dreams and future, but you will have had fun, and begun to establish a friendship that will likely bloom into something more if she's interested. Try miniature golfing, batting cages (my favorite!) or something that you enjoy doing. I would so "no" to a movie though- no interaction.
2006-09-28 13:30:58 · answer #4 · answered by The New Mrs. Nguyen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'll try to give you some suggestions. My first one would be, talk about the class you take together. That can be a real ice breaker. Talk about the teacher, how hard the subject is/ how easy it is. Another topic, talk about the school itself. Ask her if she's involved in any of the activities (clubs or sports events or sorority or something like that). Let the conversation develop naturally. Be yourself, and really listen to what she has to say. It'll probably be easier then you think! And to answer that second question, i would think she has some interest in you. Remeber keep it kinda light at first and discover what you have in common. :) Good luck and have fun!!!! :)
2006-09-28 13:30:08 · answer #5 · answered by brknarrow23 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ok....for starters yes, she has to be somewhat interested. Women DO NOT agree to hang out with a guy, in public :-), if there wasnt something there. We are real good at coming up with an excuse, if we are not. The conversation hopefully flow easy, if your vibing eachother. So many things to talk about, without getting invasive. Classes, where you came from, things you do in your spare time, music you like.Just no talk about old relationships!!! Be attentive.........women love a listener! Have fun and good luck.
2006-09-28 13:39:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you got the first part down getting her too go out with you. always the hardest. talk too her about class and what you like about it and you thoughts on it(this is a good way too break the ice) then tell her some stuff about you. like your fave things and try too find some common ground with her. and just relax be your self with her.enjoy your company! have a great time! then tell her you will bye her coffee for her! then walk her back too her dorm. say want too go out again? and she will give you a answer. and say good night too her.
hope this helps! good luck with her!
2006-09-28 13:34:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As general questions beginning with her major/minor. If she says general, then ask her what she is thinking about. A conversation will build from there. Other good ideas include movies, where she grew up, what her parents do for a living, if she has siblings. How she likes school. That should get you off to a good start!
2006-09-28 13:26:45 · answer #8 · answered by robyn 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
h ello- try saying someone, else likes her. make up, a name of some guy, she may know. find out, where. her head is at. that way, you may saved. yourself,from being hurt. then if she, saids the things. you may, want to hear.come, out tell her. the truth, let her know. you didn't, know, how.to take her. and you wanted, to save yourself, from being hurt. or maybe, seem like you were, coming on too. strong, and you didn't want. to scare her away. but you half, to start. out as friend's, then maybe, the friendship. may move, on to something better. honest is the, best policy. you never, can go wrong. take it slow, don't rush. into anything, "Enjoy Your Dinner. Good Luck
2006-09-28 13:52:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes she is interested. Its important to just be yourself which means dont pretend to be someone else or you may mess things up. Keep your sense of humor handy. Dont ask her many personal questions- instead find something you have in common like the college itself and discuss things abt it like the classes, faculty and jokes etc. Donot in any case, bad mouth anyone from college. That would only give her wrong signals.
2006-09-28 13:29:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋