I am 33 and I am embarrassed that I am still single. In fact, I think I will never ever get married and have kids. If you are over 30, do you think you will ever get married?
2006-09-28 12:20:15 · 24 answers · asked by NJboy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sure why not? As the expresion goes, there are a lot of fish in the sea. Just get yourself out there and be friendly and nice to people. Just be yourself and eventually you will find your special someone. Good luck!
2006-09-28 12:23:24 · answer #1 · answered by bluechicken818 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did not meet the man I married until I was 42, did not marry until I was 44 and had my child at age 45. Long about 38 and 40 though, I was pretty convinced it wasn't in the cards for me, and got pretty depressed about it. I understand what you are feeling.
I went a very long spell without even meeting anyone I was interested in, despite living in a large city. I moved halfway across the country and my accent was somewhat fascinating, and I had more suitors that I knew what to do with. I also had to get out and socialize, as I did not know anyone, and was forced to meet new people, not stick with the same old rut.
I also had finally made my peace with being single the rest of my life. I had a career and was planning the whole financial plan for retirement alone. I think once I got okay with the idea, I did not send out the "desperation vibes" that are a bad perfume.
Remember, not every member of a species has to reproduce to be a necessary and important part of a community.
2006-09-28 12:26:10 · answer #2 · answered by finaldx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can answer that, if it is meant to be it will happen, (have you ever proposed to a woman?) That could be a factor, My Dad, met a woman and they are celebrating their 25th. Anniversary. He was 60 when he proposed! I know myself, I am going to turn 53, 09/30, and I wonder the same thing, I just figure if it is meant to be, it will happen ( I got 17yrs. till I turn 60. so I figure their is still hope. As for kids, that usually happens mostly between 18-34 approx. If you had a child right now, you would be 50, when he turns 17. You remember when you were 17? But it takes alot of energy to raise a child, let alone career, wife, and mortgage on a house, that is alot to take on....I am just giving you things to think about, I hope that I get married, but not just for the sake of marrying...The decade of the 30s', alot of growth happens, enjoy it! but pick the right choices...
2006-09-28 12:36:06 · answer #3 · answered by Jamaison D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I'm not 30 yet but I'm getting there and I'm not married. Since high school I have had two relationships, my high school sweetheart I was with for a total of 6 years, then I met my current live in boyfriend of 3 years. Now I have always wanted to get married but at this point, I'm just happy knowing that I have a best friend, companion and lover all in one person. I hope that one day he does want to marry me, but if not, life just goes on. Beside the world today is crazy, I'm not sure I even want to bring children into something this bad. Anyhow that's my thought.
2006-09-28 12:24:43 · answer #4 · answered by grrrrme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have no reason to feel this away about your-self.This has become,very common these day's.I'm single,but I'm a Widow.I don't know if I will re-marry.It would have to be a real Love Story,for me to get into it again.Life is good.You need to STOP basing the rest of your life on this.It sound's like it has taken control of you.Go have some fun.If this is the only problem you have..you are very lucky.Take care of your live,and stop worring.
2006-09-28 12:27:32 · answer #5 · answered by Wishee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 33..Divorced Twiced from my 20's with 3 kids....I want to get married to my soul mate but I think I am cursed and he doesn't exist.
Marriage just doesn't work out for me but hell I sure can pop those kids..eh!
I need some self esteem! he he
2006-09-28 12:23:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say but it gets harder and harder the older you get. I'm in the same boat as you are. Young girls are to obnoxious and require a babysitter and the older ones have so much bagage that you get burried underneath it. The same goes for guys. Theres really no solution only that the older you get the more you realize that you are too picky and could possibly live without a companion for the rest of your life. I know people who have and they are quite happy. Its all in the mind.
2006-09-28 12:27:18 · answer #7 · answered by rlld23 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i'm 22. lol...but i think you're ok...you're just 30, and you still have a long time...i don't think you should worry til once you're in your 40s. the most common ages to get married are in fact in the 20s and 30s (i take a courtship, family and marriage class in college). so don't sweat it...i'm sure you'll find a nice gal who you'll connect with and maybe even get married to! good luck!
2006-09-28 12:23:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm older than you and I was divorced a long time ago. It seems like I'll never meet anyone. I feel the embarrassment that you feel. I also tend to think there is something wrong with me.
2006-09-28 12:26:38 · answer #9 · answered by Martha T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm embarrassed that you are still single too.
Your Nine-Step Guide:
1.Don't be a p-u-s-s-y
2.Get some confidence
3.Get a personality
4.Get a job
5.Keep the job
6.Bathe regularly
7.Brush your teeth every day
8.Be confident in approaching
9.Act like you really don't care if she's interested in you or not
2006-09-28 12:22:24 · answer #10 · answered by drsteve362005 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋