why do I want to hold on to a relationship that isn't going any where and makes me feel unloved?

Answer 1

Low self-esteem - you are afraid that if you lose him, you won't be able to get anyone else.
Do NOT let fear run your life - I'm sure you are a beautiful, capable, intelligent girl - be strong, dump him and move on.
Good Luck!

Answer 2

Becasue nobody wants to be lonley. It OK, perfectly normal. Just sit your partner down and say "I feel that this relationship isn't going anywhere and I feel unloved" and see what they reply. If they can empathise and want to improve things it might get better. If they don't understand or don't care then you need to move on. Being on your own can be s*** but staying un a sad stuck place is worse in the long run. Good luck.

Answer 3

I've just been through this. At the end of the day I told him if he couldn't give me back what I'm giving him....and he did the decent thing and said he probably couldn't, so walked away. It's only been a week, but the feelings of relief and self pride I have are worth all of the heartache of deep down knowing the relationship was one-sided. Yes, there are times of utter desperation when I think I rather be with him and risk feeling worthless, but I KNOW I'm stronger than that and deserve better.

Take a deep breath and make the choice honey - yes, you will feel unbearably sad, but believe me the overriding feeling will be one of relief and self worth at having been the strong one.....

Remember it's better to be apart and happy, than together and unhappy.

Answer 4

Usually it is a case of security. Sticking with what you know. Although it isn't going forward, it isn't going back so why fix what isn't broken. Also, it could be as you are scared to break the routine. The reason i stay in my dead end relationship is for the night times. I like being cuddled as i sleep and i know that if i leave my relationship that i will become very, very lonely at night time. I like what i know and so even if it isn't going anywhere, at least i know it.

Answer 5

because even though you feel unloved with this person at least he/she is there with you. So you feel a little loved other wise that person would be gone. You have to be more secure with yourself in knowing that you are a good person who deserves to be loved at all times. Let this person go and find yourself someone who will appreciate and love you. Its always a good thing to be single sometimes.

Answer 6

Been there done that.. The reason we tend to stay in something that is no good for us, because we don't want to start over trying to find someone else, going threw the games people play, trust issues, not wanting to be lone.. no one to talk too.

But you have to take a stand in your own life. You have to want peace inside you. you have to want to smile knowing you have done all you can and this is not healthy nor should u see yourself marrying someone that would make you want to cheat because your heart has turned off.

Write yourself a letter and ask.. Why am I still here? Can I walk out the door and don't look back? I can do bad by myself.. step up and step out.. there are wonderful people out there that will allow your heart to shine, feel good, love, joy and peace that's all your asking for go it.

Answer 7

because you have invested so much time into it, you feel like it would be such a great waste to throw it all away. So instead you want to do anything to salvage it before you throw in the towel.

Sometimes it is better to get out while there is still time. Think about it this way, wouldn't you hate to be in the same situation 2 years later?

Answer 8

Because you are needy and have issues with letting go. Don't worry about it. Aren't you worth more than that? Don't you think that you are deserving a a loving relationship? Is being with someone how you define yourself.....look deeply into why you are so unhappy, no one else can make you happy but you...good luck!

Answer 9

Because you feel that although the situation is a bit dire at the moment, there is still the possibility that if you can sort it out, you two will be the happiest couple together.

Unless you're in denial. But only you can make that judgement

Answer 10

Sounds to me like you don't want to hold on anymore.

End that relationship now, and start rebuilding yourself!

You'll find the man who's going to make you feel loved and unbelievably happy!

Best of luck.

Answer 11

Some people would rather be unhappy than alone. Make the break and work on your self-confidence. There's a better bloke just around the corner, I'm sure.