My parents are so strict!!?

Question

My mom isnt that bad, but my dad is sooooo strict. I'm 16 and I have to be home at 8pm unless im at the movies or something. I think it's because he has control issues... any ideas how to fix it??

Answer 1

listen to them. Im 31 yrs old. Grow up to be a good girl. Practice self control. Men will appreciate you more!! Trust me, its rare to find good women these days.

Answer 2

You need to talk to him and explain how you feel about the situation. Chances are he doesn't really have control issues, he is just doing what he thinks is right for you because he loves you and (in his quest to do that) doesn't see the negative effect that this is causing.

8 o'clock is a bit of the strict side for your age I would say. I think that 10 on a term-time weekday and 12 any other time would be more appropriate, but you can't blame the man for wanting to know where you are.

If (after having spoken to him) you find that he is intransigent then it is possible he does have control issues, in which case the best tactic is to make his rules unworkable by simply not following them - and if you are grounded as a penalty ignore that too, but if you go down this tactic you have to prove that you are responsible and can be trusted - so only stay out past his current curfew as long as the curfew you originally asked him for (eg 10 or 12).

Also, when you turn 17, you can reasonably expect all curfews to be lifted.

Answer 3

I too had strict parents...I was senior in high school and had to be home at 11pm.... that made it impossible to even go to a drive-in movie...it didn't start till 10pm.... *sniffle*snort*

In the end I approached my parents and said if I cannot be trusted to stay out later then I don't think I can be trusted to work for them whether around the house or in their business.

Their toon changed immediately and I proved I could be trusted and over 20 years later, I turned out better than they hoped for !!

Sit down and have a talk with them...IF you have things planned that you know they wouldn't approve of then YOU need to change!! Prove to them you are a good kid..If you ARE NOT a good kid then don't expect any respect or leniency !!

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Answer 4

No, just deal with it. Your father is just looking after his little girl. He has his reason for being strict and believe it or not, one day you will be thankful for his strictness. My mom used to be the same way and I was envious of others because they could stay out all hours and never have to report to their parents. I thought my parents were mean. However, I turned out well, didnt get into drugs, didnt become a mother early in life, learned rules and consequences for breaking them, learned respect and became a responsible adult. So.. in saying that.. Just be happy that you do get to go and that you have caring parents.

Answer 5

I have a great fix. Go to court, have yourself emancipated. Then you can move out of your parents home, get a place of your own that you will have to pay rent on, as well as electric bills, gas bills, phone bills. You will be responsible for any car payments, any car insurance payments. Speaking of insurance you will also be responsible for getting your own as well as paying your own doctor bills and hope and pray you don't have to go into the hospital because you'll be responsible to pay for those as well. And don't get caught committing a crime because you'll be tried as an adult. Being in by 8:00 doesn't sound all that bad now does it?

Answer 6

It's not control issues....he's being a good father. Believe me, you will thank him one day. He's just trying to help make you a responsible young adult.

Answer 7

Trade 'em in for new ones.