he molest as an adult? Did NOT see acutal sex but seen the dad touching the sisters under the covers? and knew they were being touched and told on him but it had been going for years before anyone listen to him and stopped it, also he WAS NOT sexually touched just physcial beat on by the dad, any signs that a man might molest or has in the past or was molested as a kid??
2006-09-28 11:46:08 · 11 answers · asked by sexy momma 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Maybe, but probably not. Everybody's soul is different.
2006-09-28 11:53:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have heard that usually a molester 'experienced' molestation at a young age and therefore the image of a sexual relationship implanted in the psyche is the early images. He was not victimized, but he was aware. He may need counseling to deal with issues and questions that come up from his baring witness. He may have guilt towards his sisters, and yes, I think it is possible that it could warp his perseption of appropriate sexual contact. Open discussion is the key. Someone should talk to him and go from there. Life is too short to beat around the bush. Ask him how he has been affected. Good luck.
2006-09-28 11:54:50 · answer #2 · answered by Smilingcheek 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
since he told on the dad he knows that behavior is wrong so I'd say no, he would not necessarily become a molester himself
warning signs . . . red flags . . .
I've heard that parents that molest their children have very strong reactions - not just your usual run of the mill anger and disgust at someone like that but violent rages - to news of other parents molesting their own kids because of their guilt for doing the same
any peculiar obsession with children, someone that is more in tune with kids than adults and sees them as peers
the obvious child pornography
sexual/physical attraction to very young looking people
I knew a guy that once said he would love to live in (some Asian country, don't remember which) so that he could legally have sex with a 12-yr-old, we never left my step-daughter alone around that creep!
2006-09-28 12:02:48 · answer #3 · answered by smarty pants 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no way to no the answer to that for sure. Whether you are actually asking for yourself, your brother or a friend, are you asking because you are just scared or have you seen signs?
I think all the members involved in this, sisters and brother should seek counseling...any form of abuse is devasting to the soul, but sexual abuse is the worst. This boy/man probably has very severe guilt over not being able to stop this and there was nothing he could to because he was every bit of a victim himself. encourage him to talk to someone about these things and seek help...not to stop him from becoming like his father but to ensure that he can move on with his life and heal
2006-09-28 17:34:04 · answer #4 · answered by IrishGrace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, there is a trend for those who had this kind of experience in their youth to behave the same way (or become a sexual deviant).
Lots of open communication between the boy and a counselor or his sister may prevent perpetuating the same behavior. And lots of love for the sister and the boy. The children, based on the experience can choose to uphold a behaviour full of integrity.
May peace be in the siblings' hearts and minds.
2006-09-28 11:57:42 · answer #5 · answered by tranquil 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a witness to this act is going to effect him mentally and affect his attitude towards women, but this might manifest it's self in extreme protection of women especially his own children. But his being physically beaten could cause him to do the same to his son(s). It has been found that a person who mentally abused or physically abused as a child often become abusers them self's. I think you might fear that someone close to you is abusing someone, so while I can't tell you the signs to look out for, I would advise you check out the subject on Google or Yahoo search.
2006-09-28 12:06:38 · answer #6 · answered by Dale 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People seem to go in two different directions. Just like when a father is an alcoholic, his son might become an alcoholic or he might be so put off by what he saw, he never wants to drink.
As for signs, I would watch for kidie porn on the computer, wanting to be around children, in odd cercumstances, not being interested in adults. Check out the library for books on the subject.
2006-09-28 11:59:31 · answer #7 · answered by mati 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is highly unlikely.Resist the urge to transfer the fathers pathology onto the male child. It is both unfair and unsubstantiated. Since he was the one who brought it forward his instinct told him it is wrong and he listened. But like most families where this occurs noone wants to talk about it, which is the worst thing to do. Serious Boundary violations occurred and have to be reestablished. Members need to talk about why that is necessary. Members need to talk about victim impact, fears and thoughts. It is easier to do this work with the whole family, and resists the temptation to put the family into years of therapy or single any one out(except the offender)
2006-09-28 12:32:56 · answer #8 · answered by Therapist King 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it really depends on the person...how he has dealt with the experience...whether or not he faces the seriousness of it and doesn't live in a perpetual state of denial. Has he had any kind of counseling? I think it has to be looked at on an individual basis.
2006-09-28 11:57:54 · answer #9 · answered by Jazmanana 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
they might molest people if he was molested in the past.
2006-09-28 12:33:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋