I asked my best friend who is male to be my "Man of honor". My fiance is fine with it cause my best friend is gay and he knows how much it means to me. I know my family is fine with it but I'm worried about his family's reaction to this. They are a little bit "country". How do I prepare them for this as they will quickly figure it out when they see him dancing at the reception with his life partner?
2006-09-28 11:33:53 · 21 answers · asked by MellyK1234 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
LOL... I'm a woman.My best friend is Gay..not my fiance. I meant how do I prepare my fiance's family for the fact that my "man of honour" is my gay best friend. My fiance's family has never met my friend before.
2006-09-28 11:44:29 · update #1
Just mention it when you're talking about the wedding with his folks. Well, so, you're a little unorthodox - but then, they'll have to deal with their son being married to you, anyway.
I had an "unorthodox" wedding, my parents-in-law tried to change our minds, but at the end had a great time (it was a pirate wedding at a Renaissance faire).
2006-09-28 11:50:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just sit them down and explain it to them and have your fiance there so that he can reassure them that he does not have a problem with it. They need to understand that this is your choice and they don't have any say in it. Despite the fact that they are a little bit "country", they hopefully have the common decency to know when to shut up. This is your choice and since your fiance has no problem with it, they should respect your wishes. If they try to make a big deal out of it, then you may have to be blunt with them but hopefully it won't come to that.
2006-09-28 21:12:53 · answer #2 · answered by Patricia D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he is not wearing a dress, then you don't have to say that he is gay. This is your wedding and just say that you wanted your best friend to stand up with you. If he dances with his partner, then they will figure it out, but you will be too busy to worry about it. You could just let them know if it worries you that much, to prepare them. What can they say? It is your wedding and your decision of what you want. Good luck and congratulations.
2006-09-28 20:58:30 · answer #3 · answered by just julie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take them out for dinner and just plainly and as a matter of fact explain it to them. If it bothers them then oh well...this is your friend...it is your wedding and your life with your fiance' who is in agreement with you. They can think what they want but you shouldn't change a thing because of it. Congratulations on your upcoming wedding. I wish you the best of luck with everything. Remember to slow down and enjoy the day...it goes by SO fast.
2006-09-28 18:39:45 · answer #4 · answered by DreamingofU 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should have to do anything. It is your wedding and you should have whatever you want. It is also not your place to tell the soon to be in-laws. If you feel it is necessary to let them know before the wedding then have your fiance tell them.They may take it better from him anyways. Congrats and good luck. I hope you have a long and happy life.
2006-09-28 18:42:25 · answer #5 · answered by anne04char 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your wedding ~ and if your fiance is ok with it then that should be enough. There is a reason why he is your best friend and why he is special enough to be your "man of honor" and they will quickly realize it when they meet him. Just have fun and try not to stress. Good Luck~
2006-09-28 18:38:52 · answer #6 · answered by SadBrownEyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Introduce him to everyone by having the band play "It's rainin' Men" - and having all the gay guys dance. That should do it!
You should be marrying your "best friend" - what does your fiance think about you not caring about him? You need to grow up! You are also very insulting towards your fiance's family - does he know you think they are bumpkins? AARRGGGHHH! It seems to me you are mixed up.
2006-09-29 00:28:49 · answer #7 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definitely let the information slip out casually before the wedding and gauge their reactions. If they seem to be really bothered by the information it gives you plenty of time to find out why and see if there is anything that you can do to make them more comfortable. Ask them if they would like to meet your friend before hand. If worse comes to worse and they are totally freaked out ask your future husband to tell them that this is your day and their civil behavior would be greatly appreciated.
2006-09-28 22:30:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just give them the benefit of the doubt. They may be a little concerned at first, but odds are they wont say or do anything hurtful at your wedding. Especially if they know how close you two are.
2006-09-28 18:37:59 · answer #9 · answered by Charlee's Mama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To hell with what they think...honey, this is YOUR day and do what makes you happy. For once in you life, you've got the license to do what you want. Also, your bestfriend is important to you so if your hubby's family really likes you, then they should accept the fact that your bestfriend is who he is...
2006-09-28 19:02:56 · answer #10 · answered by the_memory_of_ashes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋