Ok did I do a bad thing or a good thing?

Question

I had aked him over and over has he been talking to his ex and he tells me know each time. We have had changes in our relationship that I have noticed. He don't want to have sex anymore. We never go to bed at the same time. I have wrote on this before. Anyway I couldn't help but to open his cell phone bill to see if I was right! Well there are about 50 calls to her and from her on his cell! So I was right the whole time now I am going to confront him and I know he is going to say you shouldn't have opened my mail? What do I say? Was it wrong when I have given him every chance to tell me the truth? He has lied to me to my face everytime and says he loves me and that he doesn't and hasn't talked to her but he has by his cell phone bill? Was I wrong?

Answer 1

Since you know you are right, don't let him know you know. Ask him if he truly, deeply loves. He will say yes. Then say this is the last time I will ask you about calling your ex, but have you been talking to her? He will say no. Now you really know he is a liar and a cheater. Pack your stuff and leave because he doesn't love you like he says he does. You deserve better.

Answer 2

No you weren't wrong at all. You felt he was lying and you were right. Now the thing is, will you use the information you found in a good way ? You must now break up with him. There is no other choice here. Confronting and talking to him about it means nothing. He has already gone behind your back, lied and perhaps cheated. You didn't do wrong in checking the bill but if you stay with him after this it will be wrong.

Answer 3

I don't think it was wrong. You needed answers and obviously you knew he wasn't being completely honest. If there are problems in your relationship, and you don't know exactly what's going on, how can you begin to work things through? You did what you had to do in order to get the truth. Obviously your women's intuition told you that he wasn't being honest, so you did what you felt you had to do. If he would be honest, you wouldn't need to open his cell phone bill, right? You can't possibly work out your relationship problems if you don't know what is going on.....so, I think you did the right thing. good luck!

Answer 4

In a way you were wrong, but he was wrong also. He shouldn't lie to you about somehting like that and you know you shouldn't go through his mail. Not saying that you didn't have every right to be worried. If you can't trust him is the relationship even worth it. People say you build a relationship on trust so if you don't have the trust you have nothing.

Answer 5

It was wrong to open his personal mail and invade his privacy. You should admit this to yourself and to him.
Overall, of course, he has committed the greater wrong by lying to you and cheating on you.
You should have it out with him and both sides need to admit and apologize for what they did wrong. However, since his fault includes lying, he needs to do more than just promise to do better.
Unless you love each other very much and are really committed to repairing this relationship, it would probably be best to break up permanently.

Answer 6

You were wrong to go thru his phone, (i did the same thing), but u needed to know and i understand that especially if there have been changes in the way he has been with you, totally respect what you have done, dont fester on it, ask him out right, you will know if he lies, ex girlfriends can be possessive, nasty, and vindictive, but u are better than that, its a nasty hurtful lesson to learn but it will make u a better person... be strong xx

Answer 7

Yes, you were wrong. You should totally ignore it . And start to talk with your friends us well.Pretend it doesn't baser you anymore. And remember if He doesn't love you there nothing you can do about it. Better to know that earlier then later. But mostly men who doing this are not enough have confidants. They need this to know how you going to react.They wont you to be jealous, that how they gain confidants. But it hearts us. I know that . But again the best thing to ignore , be happy, go out. And you will see, he will be by your knees. Because when they see you are happy, they want to be this way too, and they will need you as a strong women and learn from you how to do this. Nothing but confidants make men to fell in love. And nothing, but when we start to annoy them keep them a way from us. So be strong, and he will be back. Good luck.




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Answer 8

DUMP HIM!!!!! HE SOUNDS LIKE A LIEING JERK!!!!!!
really ur too good 4 him! And it is right of u too read him f***ing phone bill!!!! u were right!!!! he has made contact with he ex, and has lied! and if he shouldn't get mad at u cuz, if he had nothing to hide, he wouldn't mind 4 u to c who he called! can u even look at him without thinking he has talked to his ex that day? im sry, but there isn't any more trust in ur relationship anymore!

Answer 9

You were right all along. Maybe you invaded his privacy a little, but if he had been honest you wouldn't have had to. No you weren't wrong. Even if the whole thing is innocent (which I am sure it isn't) he still lied to you. You don't need that! Confront him, and stick to your guns. He will get defensive, but remember he is the one that lied! All you did was catch him, and that is why he will be angry and defensive.

Answer 10

I think you did bad thing that end up with good results. You kept asking him, and he continued lying to you, if he brings up the whole snooping situation, ou should avoid that at all cost. Guys love to switch the blame when they get caught. He lied, and if he didn't lie to begin with , you wouldn't have snooped through his things. Now that you know, Do you really want to continue a relationship with someone you can't trust?