Im a 15 year old girl. My guy friend likes to say comments about my chest to my face. I'm a 36 D and he always makes comments about it. He said to one of our friends God gave her one of the nicest racks. I have politely asked him before to stop but he doesn't. Its not just him its other guys too. I don't wear tight tops really or anything low cut anymore. Im sick of hiding myself so people wont make comments. How do I make him shut up. Thanks in advance.
2006-09-28 10:50:06 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He is not my boyfriend
2006-09-28 10:56:29 · update #1
Listen, first off your too young too have anyone talk to you that way. No matter how you look. As you get older you hopefully will get wiser. If he doesn't give you the respect you deserve, give him the door. As for other people, the truth is.....most guys are idiots not all but most and this especially happens with we are in groups. This will probably always happen. I am not saying its right , just that its a unfortunate part of the world we live in.I know this is not always easy but talk to your parents, they probably can give you better advise than total strangers on the net. After all they know you the best right?
2006-09-28 11:08:40 · answer #1 · answered by slash1251 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well at your age, it is difficult to get him to shut up. The word is now out about your breast size, so even if you were able to make him be quiet, I think others would speak in his place. It is kind of like the snowball effect. What started off as a little snowball has now gotten so far down the mountain it is too big to stop. So what now?
Well I know you hate doing this, but you'll need to keep on dressing conservatively (I am sure your parents will appreciate that). The reason why dressing conservatively is so important, is because teenage boys are visual creatures easily stimulated. So you want to take that stimulation away from them. Secondly teenagers tend to have a fairly short memories, meaning they are quick to just to the next thing. Hopefully after sometime you'll hear the dirty remarks begin to die down.
2006-09-28 18:01:00 · answer #2 · answered by coolbeanfive 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, it's tough, I know, but God made you with a terrific chest that half the women in the world would die for.
God also made your guy friend to have an interest in the female figure. Don't blame the guy; he's perfectly normal, and doing his level best to keep his hands to himself.
This is something that you have to come to grips with now. Throughout your life, men are going to look admiringly at your breasts, covered or uncovered. A lot of women make good money with nice breasts! So they are valuable, and something to be proud of.
Boys are going to look, but so are girls, and the girls are going to be jealous, call you nasty names, be catty, and do everything they can to keep the boys away from you, They will see you as a threat to them. They may be your biggest enemies; not the boys!
2006-09-28 18:01:15 · answer #3 · answered by seeitmiway32 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be proud of your assets! But I know, it is disheartening when people make lewd comments about your appearance.
Short of buying a minimiser bra, tell these people that you are sick of their comments, and add that you are not prepared to carry on the friendship unless they give you some respect. If it continues, tell a teacher, preferably someone high up. This is bullying, and should be taken very seriously.
Go out and find some other friends who will respect you for who you are. :)
2006-09-28 17:56:57 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi! When i was 15 - same thing. They are young, horny boys who want to see how much they can get away with, with you.
#1 - you need to ignore their stupidness...if you act like it doesn't bother you, they will stop because they are no longer getting a reaction.
#2 - you need to be confident. Having a large chest is difficult, but treat it as a blessing and don't hide behind your clothes, it will show them you are self-conscious.
#3 - If they don't stop, then find new friends.
2006-09-28 17:58:40 · answer #5 · answered by Jennifer J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lived this in high school and junior high. I don't knwo what you can do except sit him down face to face and tell him sincerely how it makes you feel. And if he contiues than I would stay away from him.It is to damaging to your self esteem. He is not your friend if he continues.
Or be a jerk back and comment on his spare tire or zitty face etc. But I dont recommend that.:)
2006-09-28 17:55:49 · answer #6 · answered by loladoreen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you can do is remove yourself from this person. It is difficult to be blessed and have guys staring at them. Next time it happens tell them where your face and say I am up here not down there. This guy is no friend and you can file harassment against him in school
2006-09-28 17:54:57 · answer #7 · answered by Melisa H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 16 with a 38DD so i know EXACTLY what your going through. theres nothing you can do about it, after a while you just kinda get used to it and don't worry about it as much. be proud of what you have. i am. Not that many people are blessed with what we got. I know that you fell discouraged but trust me things change. If you ever want to talk more about it just I'm me and I'll be more than happy to help you.
2006-09-28 17:58:50 · answer #8 · answered by Sexy_hunter 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell his parents. If it is in school, tell your dean. Don't be afraid. They are trained to handle these situations. It's called sexual harassment if it makes you feel uncomfortable or is unwanted. They should not get away with such inappropriate behavior. It is illegal.
2006-09-28 17:56:23 · answer #9 · answered by TK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
boys will never leave you alone about that. take it from me the compliments will be more appreciative when you are older, as far as your guy friend he probally just likes you and is afraid you will shoot him down bc you look so good.
2006-09-28 17:56:04 · answer #10 · answered by KIMBERLY N 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋