2006-09-28 10:40:56 · 20 answers · asked by lady_in_red40s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
ask him if he wants to drive. or everytime he does something, even watching tv, tell him sit up straight, dont sit so close. just nag at him and maybe he will stop because its annoying. bust in on him when hes using the bathroom and tell him hes not standing straight enough, ect ect
2006-09-28 10:44:04 · answer #1 · answered by scion_xb_girly 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
I went through something like this with my 10 year old. He was 9 though.
at first I thanked him, then I got annoyed and lost it. I told him to shut up whenever he opened his mouth. This really annoyed him and was pretty bad parenting.
Then I made us both a chocolate milk and whilst sitting at the breakfast bar we had a "Cosby" moment where I told him how frustrated "I" felt when he gave me advice.
I made sure to say that I was annoyed, not that HE was annoying.
I gave examples of how annoying it is when he plays his XBOX and other people yell "Go left, pick up the power pack, Shoot him! Shoot Him!" when he already knows what he is doing.
He understood how I felt. And then whenever he started to give advice I would remind him what he was doing.
It had become a habit for him and he got over it.
At the same time he told me a few things that annoy him about me. And I have changed a few things. So it was a moment where we took stock of our relationship and then moved on.
I hope you can have a silimar experience.
2006-09-29 13:01:54 · answer #2 · answered by gideon9595 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you're the parent and to keep his/her mouth shut until he/her is old enough to drive, cook, etc. Make sure they learn the lesson that until they have experienced something, they cannot give instructions about it. Thats what's wrong with kids today... they think they know everything and that annoys most people. Kids should respect their elders and listen to them and realize that their elders actually HAVE been driving a car for 20+ years and REALLY DO KNOW what their doing.
2006-09-28 17:44:51 · answer #3 · answered by slickpam 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Who is the parent here? You or the 10 year old. Tell him that when you want his opinion you will ASK for it, and otherwise he is to remain silent on the subject. And then follow through with a punishment (no television, candy, playtime, whatever) if he ignores this.
2006-09-28 17:42:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
This worked for me - tell him you are the adult, you make the calls, if you get it wrong it will be all your fault and he will not get any blame in the matter. You have managed to get this far in life without his instructions, so back off.
2006-09-29 01:03:57 · answer #5 · answered by obenypopstar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to remember the kid is 10. Who is the adult you or the 10 year old. Tell them to stay in thier place. Kids will do what you let them do. Stay in control, don't let the KID stress you out!
2006-09-28 17:43:53 · answer #6 · answered by Crystal E 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him "I appreciate you trying to help, but until you are a licensed driver you don't get to have an opinion on my driving. Now go play Pokemon you little bastard and shut the hell up"
well, OK. delete the last sentence...
But really, to all those other people saying you should coddle and "appreciate" his intelligence... how do you think kids become spoiled brats and end up on Jerry Springer? Yes, appreciate his intelligence all damn day, but YOU are the boss.
XD
2006-09-28 17:47:19 · answer #7 · answered by Jeal 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋
If he is really smart about everything, then seek professional advice about nurturing his intelligence.
If he's just a bossy know-it-all then tell him this:
"You might think you're smart, but I am the boss".
Then make sure you walk-the-walk. Don't let him be in charge.
2006-09-28 17:46:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Not your head and agree, this will pass in about 10 more years...it's called puberty.
2006-09-29 02:46:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i have a ten year old student who knows it all and you know what...he does!!!he knows computers better than me and cell phones!!!so i ask his advice on these subjects and i praise him but when he overdoes it with other things i just put him in his place!!!so just let him know that on some subjects you're willing to listen but on others 'no!'
2006-09-28 17:59:59 · answer #10 · answered by ....FED UP............ 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋