My girlfriend and i have done some sexual things in the past few weeks, and we were trying to think of tips on how to have anal sex easier, as not to get her pregnant. Is there anything besides lotion that helps me to enter her easier?
We've tried this twice, and I can only get about 1/2 of my thing in, but she seems to enjoy it mostly. It does hurt though when i enter (i was never circumcised)
2006-09-28 10:30:42 · 15 answers · asked by cmart009 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Use a condom and a lot, of lube with an internal applicator. Some lubes come design with an applicator (Astroglige Anal Shooters or Spike Anal Lube) or you can buy an applicator alone (such as the Lube shooter for $12.95) and use your favorite lube. I’ll add links to some products to give you an idea.
To get some tips form Jack Morin, go here: http://www.sexuality.org/authors/morin/analrule.html
Also try the following: http://www.tootimid.com/sex_education/anal_sex/guide_to_anal_sex.htm
If you want to REALLY educate yourself about anal sex, read the following book. Anal Pleasure and Health: A Guide for Men and Women by Jack Morin. Some describe this books as the best in the subject. I agree 100% with that statement. There even are some doctors that give advice online that recommend that book.
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Lube shooter: http://www.adameve.com/slippery-sensations/anal-lubes/lube-shooter-pc-10293-685.aspx
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2006-10-01 10:30:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there!
A couple tips for having anal sex are:
-Start small! Use fingers and smaller toys to help warm yourself up. Starting slowly can help as well.
-Use lubrication. The more lube, the better!
-Practice. It may take a few times (or more!) to figure out how to make anal sex pleasurable for you.
-Communicate with your partner. Both of you should talk to the other about what is working and what is not.
More resources:
Anal Pleasure and Health:
http://www.amazon.com/Anal-Pleasure-Health-Couples-Paperback/dp/B00FGVM5TM/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1423104549&sr=8-1&keywords=anal+pleasure+and+health
The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex For Women:
http://www.amazon.com/Ultimate-Guide-Women-guides-Paperback/dp/B00FGVLYW6/ref=pd_sim_b_1?ie=UTF8&refRID=01BAKNAJNGTPGZR0R5CF
Also, not everyone enjoys anal sex! If this is the case, you and your boyfriend can always find other ways to add variety to your sex life.
Sincerely,
SFSI Staff
JA/DT
San Francisco Sex Information (SFSI) provides free, confidential, accurate, non-judgmental information about sex and reproductive health. You can reach us by e-mail (ask-us@sfsi.org) or by phone (415-989-SFSI).
2015-02-04 14:05:57 · answer #2 · answered by SGR 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anal Ease.. it will numb the area..
Have a few cocktails before hand.. if you're nervous or think it's going to hurt then it's going to hurt..(well female)
Since you're uncut you'll need to make sure your skin is pulled back before you try to enter.. And of course some good water based lubricant..
Good luck! Hope it starts feeling good from now on for both of you..
2006-09-28 10:37:11 · answer #3 · answered by SassySista 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am assuming you are old enough to be having this discussion.
Let us begin with the wip me beat me store or sex shop ar it is referred to. If you are old enough for this discussion you are old enough to go into one of these stores.
The first thing you are looking for is a plug that attached to your finger. They make them in many styles but you ar looking for something thet you can insert that will loosen up the anus, not too big.
Second, you are looking for a lubricant, KY, Astroglide or as Zebrarain suggested Wet. You need to lubricate the plug and the anus before penetrating it. You should lube up you pointing finger to lube up the anus and be sure to get a manicure first.
Next, as Zebrarain suggested get the girl waxed or shaven. If waxed wait two days before having sex. If shaven be careful of the hemoroids.
By using the plug for a while you can move on to other forms of sex before actually having anal sex. What you are doing is getting her muscles relaxed to the penetration.
Now for you, circuncised or un-circumsiized you should not be having anal sex without a condom. One of you could have an STD and she could get a bladder infection and pass it on to you. Wear a condom and lube it up. Don't be vain and get a condom so big it can slide off either. Get a tight condom that fits just right.
Assuming you are ready to have annal sex now begin by playing back and forth with the plug adding lubrication and then reinserting it again and again. You are preparing her for what is to come.
Try and arrange some pillows to support her so that she is not like someone suggested in a doggie position. That actually is not the best position for this kind of sex . A better position is legs draped over the bed or lying on her shoulders butt in the air legs to both sides of her body.
At this point you need to remove the plug and slid the tip of your condom in her anus. With you hands in a catchers position gently push her butt cheeks apart to try and strtch the anus thusly and thrust the condom in slowly until you are about four inches into the opening. Any more than that is dangerous. Even proctologists will tell you that this is as far as you should ever go, otherwise you may damage the rectum.
At any rate the, stretching of the anus will give her more comfort and allow you more speed. Remember to keep lubricating from time to time to avoid discomfort.
When you are done dispose of the condom and sterilize the *********. She should take an enema as well as a shower.
BTW, the idea is not to get all of your "thing" in her. The idea is to get her to orgasm and that is accomplished by vibrating the bladder. Four inches is all you need to do that.
Do not do any of this if you are a minor.
2006-09-28 20:24:14 · answer #4 · answered by LORD Z 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
suggest you get a water based lubricant (like ky) to ease the job.
the other important thing is to get your girlfriend to relax before hand. if she is all tense in anticipation of pain then it will make it worse.
so give her a good massage, rub her hole a bit, start out with a finger or a small toy. takes things slowly - dont just dive in there straight away.
sometimes the first entry is hard, and if you take it out and try again things are easier.
once with my gf we tried and had no luck, i said lets not worry about it and next thing i knew i was all the way in. it was enough for her to know she didn't have to do it and therefore she could relax and enjoy it.
2006-09-29 01:12:41 · answer #5 · answered by eddiecomestotown 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing is that you can't rush when having anal sex. Your wife must want to. The most important thing when first trying anal sex is to use lots of lube(KY Jelly). I recommend fingering first, starting with 1 finger then progressing to 2. Remember, use lots of lube!!! Your wife must try to relax the muscles around her rectum. As for position, my wife and I have found it best to put a firm pillow on the edge of the bed. Then have your wife lay on her back with her hips on top of the pillow. This puts rectum at a better angle for entry and allows her to relax more. With you standing on the floor grab both her legs and push them back. Then slowly, very slowly, insert your penis. As mentioned above, don't rush and lots of lube. Its important for your wife to learn to relax her rectal muscles for her to enjoy. The above position is my wife's favorite; shes able to relax and enjoy without being in a tense position. You can't bang her as you would with vaginal sex. The key is to cause the least amount of pain. We have been married for 16 yrs now and started trying anal sex about 10 yrs ago. I'd say we have anal sex about 5 to 6 times a year. The wife says she enjoys it alot better now then when we first started because she has learned to relax her rectal muscles. Also, if shes not in the mood for it, then don't make her........For the ultimate experience, get your a wife a small vibrator(about 4"). While in the above position, your wife can use the vibrator on her clit while you are penetrating her rectum. She can also insert it in her vagina while your in her rectum. This makes for a very exciting orgasm for her, not to mention you will get from it too!!!! My wife loves it!
Good Luck
2006-09-28 20:59:47 · answer #6 · answered by zweezal 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't do this and think that it makes it safe from a contraceptive viewpoint. No, she can't conceive in her rectum, but there is a very good chance of leaving semen near the vagina upon withdrawal. If your spem are very vigorous, they will find the proper way to the egg!
if you are going to do this, use a lubricted condom.
2006-09-28 10:39:16 · answer #7 · answered by seeitmiway32 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have her shave around her butt. use more lube... KY or Wet. And do Yoga so positions are easier to hold and maintain for longer periods of time. This also helps you work on relaxing, and relaxing is what she needs to do.
Hope it helps some.
2006-09-28 10:35:19 · answer #8 · answered by jennilaine777 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go to your local sex shop or drug store. Find the slickest lubrication.
Being uncircumcised is not an issue.
Anal sex is a mind control issue. You have to want to do it. And your body has to be ready for it.
2006-09-28 10:34:50 · answer #9 · answered by Dwayne 4 · 2⤊ 4⤋
first me and my man get into the "doggie style" the he puts lotion on his dick your girl HAS to be into this because she is the one that controls weather or not to let her hole loosen then slide it in EASYLY because trust me it f**kin hurts. then about after a minute it starts to loosen and you can do it all you want.
2006-09-28 10:47:59 · answer #10 · answered by Sexy_hunter 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋