In total we have hung out like 5 times within the past month. We have been physically being together as well everytime we see eachother, except for the first time. We really have a good time together and have even recently talked about really makin eachother happy and all of that. This past weekend I went over, and I asked him when we were in bed if he was sleeping witha nyone else, because I was really curious. He said he was sleeping with a couple people and the last time was a few days prior. I got really upset about this, even though I know it has only been over a month, but I just felt like he wasnt sleeping with anyone else. We got in a bit of a fight about it because I really got hurt. I have been putting my time and effort into only him, and I really do like him. Do you think I overreacted? Should I be mad about this?
2006-09-28 10:26:47 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes you should be Mad..... at yourself for sleeping with a guy on the 2nd date without knowing more about him or his intent...
You've just learned a valuable lesson...
And remember the defination of insanity is doing the same thing over and over expecting different results... don't be crazy, do things different next time! Dump him!
2006-09-28 10:30:54 · answer #1 · answered by westfield47130 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel you when it comes to that, I think in a situation like that, it is always wise to let each other know the rules. For example, you didn't want him to have sex with other people, you didn't state that so he assumed that it was okay. I understand why you are hurt, but you have to also understand that guys aren't all that smart when it comes to relationships at times, And the fact that you guys aren't even "Officiallly together" based on what i read. He wouldn't think there was anything wrong with that. Talk to him and let him know that you thought you guys were on the same page when it came to that, and that you are hurt and try to work things out. IF he can't stop sleeping with other people after you express yourself to him, then sleeping with him still is up to you. Protected or not, I would still be cautious about sleeping with him, exspecially if he screwed a few people in that time frame.
I hope this help, Stay up Gurl!!
2006-09-28 10:34:00 · answer #2 · answered by kizzykay86 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off.....you shouldn't be having sex with guy you just met online a month ago. That's just goes to show how easy you are!! 1 month isn't long enought to get to know someone to move into a sexual relationship. You shouldn't be mad at him you should be mad at yourself for even doing something like that. Come on....you should have more self-respect for yourself than that!!!!
2006-09-28 10:39:05 · answer #3 · answered by Amber R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Had the two of you ever discussed being exclusive? If the answer is no then no matter how mad you are, you cant take it out on him. Id sit down with him and discuss where the 'relationship' is going...then take it from there.
2006-09-28 10:31:57 · answer #4 · answered by BiancaVee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you over-reacted . . even though you and him have been hanging out, you haven't made a commitment of any kind to each other, so technically he wasn't wrong to be seeing other people . . . you could talk to him and explain why you were hurt and ask if a monogamous relationship was something he was trying to get into . . if not, maybe he's not your kind of guy . . .
2006-09-28 10:30:41 · answer #5 · answered by ♥LoisLane♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it was his mistake to answer your question so directly. It hurts, but then again, now you know and have to decide what you want to do about. Reacting the way you did cannot improve the situation if you want it to succeed.
2006-09-28 10:29:32 · answer #6 · answered by Cary Grant 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him know how you feel and you dont want him sleeping with anyone but you.
2006-09-28 10:30:01 · answer #7 · answered by shepardman1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope...He's a player and a user! Don't be so easy!
2006-09-28 10:32:21 · answer #8 · answered by Joe Prosnick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋