Girl troubles.....is it cheating.....prefer girls to answer my question??

Question

Okay i just found out that the girl off my dreams whom i thought i could trust more then anybody kissed a good friend of mine. No sex just a second lip lock. She says shes sorry and it ment nothing and it was i mistake. She tells me she dont know why she did it. If the story that i have hierd is 100% true it has nothing to do with him ---- him as in my friend she kissed. My piont is i dont fell the same way about her now i fell betrayed. I look at her in a whole new way. Is this cheating and will i ever fell the same way about her. ------- ps thanx for your time!

Answer 1

you have been betrayed.

And it takes two to tango - your friend was there.

Answer 2

Hello Nighthawk,
your question can be answered in many different ways depending on your ages. I say this because, teenage years are very difficult even if you have a solid background. Trusting yourself is hard enough without worrying your trust in someone else. I would say she knew exactly what she was doing, whether it was out of attention, or curiosity to see what it would be like, Due an attraction she may have to him. Young adults ages 20-25 are somewhat in the same boat but to save face would rather live a lie and pretend it did not mean anything. After age 25 people begin to establish mature relationships and life long friendships. This is when a couple may have a friend or friendship with a couple that is almost like family, and greeting them or saying ur goodbye, most people have a tendency to do so with a hug or a kiss (a peck) on the lips or cheek. This is actually done without a thought to any hidden meaning behind it. So determine for yourself what category you fit in, and go from there.

Answer 3

You are in a tough spot on this one. It really depends on how long you have been together and what you know about her history. Has she ever cheated on one of her ex's even if there was an explanation attached?? I would be very hurt but at the same time it was just a kiss....if I found out that my husband kissed another woman I would be more than upset but I know his history so I would start looking at what was going on before this happened. Did I push him to this because I wasn't giving him what he needed or was he just an asshole and wanted to kiss my friend. Be thankful that it didn't go further. If you find out that anything else happened leave her and move on for sure!! Talk to her and find out what may have caused it!! Don't let her act like you lead her to do it because she may try to turn it around on you that it was your fault. Also if you have been together for awhile and maybe took a new step towards being serious- she may have gotten scared or thought ya know what if.....what if life was different with him (your friend) -kissed him and realized that she didn't want him she wanted you. You know her better than anyone- she may have screwed up and really is sorry or she may have screwed up- got caught- and thats why she is sorry! Bottom line talk to her about what caused this because I don't know is a lame excuse and cover up!! Good luck!!

Answer 4

You're going to feel betrayed. You went into this relationship expecting that you were going to be the only one she kissed in that way, and you've found out otherwise.

Does she want to work things out and continue being with you? If she does, then figure out if there's anything in particular she could do to demonstrate that she's serious about that. Maybe instead of going *out* on dates, the next few times you get together could be pizza and movie night at your place (so it's guaranteed to be just the two of you). Also look for other ways in which she might be demonstrating her trustworthiness - if she tells you she'll call, does she follow through, and if she said when she'd call, is it relatively close to when she really does?

If you both are serious about wanting this to work, then as long as you talk about it, and make it very clear what you expect out of each other in this relationship, it can come back. Trust me.

Answer 5

If she really loved u she would not kiss other guys. And that friend of urs is not a good friend for cheating on ur gf.
For fun what I would do is the same thing to get back at her. Kiss some gf of hers and tell her it was nothing just like she did. Then she will know how u feel.

Answer 6

You have to have trust or you have nothing. If she went and did this this time, what will she do next time? I am a firm believer that once trust is lost it can never be regained completely. You do not have to explain yourself to anyone as to what you believe cheating is or is not. If you feel betrayed then you should move on, no questions asked. Why should she feel the need to put her lips or anything else on someone else? Good luck!

Answer 7

Look sweetheart thats cheating. Cheating don't come in one form like its just sex. She kissed your friend and if your friend knew that was your girl and your girl knew that was your friend, that's just wrong. And your girl can't say it was nothing obviously she was feeling something if she had to go and kiss him. You just can't kiss somebody and say it was nothing it had to be something. I would break up with her because that was wrong and it wasn't like it was a person you didn't know it was your friend. I would personally thank my friend for that because it shows me how dishonest she is before we took it to the next level. But its your decision in the end. Think about it thouroughly and make sure its what you want.

Answer 8

if she's your girlfriend and she kissed another guy that's just like cheating or on her way to it.She knows why she did it........because she wanted to and if it meant nothing then she wouldn't have done it in the first place. i sure was a mistake....I would say something to my Friend about it too, tell him that you thought that he was your friend and that you wouldn't do that to him because you respect your friendship,she needs to apologize to you and to the other guy and this way you can tell by the actions between them if they are true. She is going to have to build her trust back up with you again and I would keep my eyes open if I were you..................

Answer 9

If it wasn't nothing more than a friendly kiss, like a peck on the lips or cheeks than that's not cheating. I'd say it's cheating if there were tongue, etc.... And if there was alcohol involved, don't allow her to use that as an excuse.

Answer 10

Yes, she did cheat if it is her second time kissing him...break up with her...if you feel betrayed and can't look at her the same..it is is not fair for you and her..just let it go. But be nice.

Answer 11

You have been betrayed and I would absolutely consider that cheating. You would never have done that to her and the reaso why it happened really isn't important. The only thing that you need to know is that it happened and that she allowed it to happen. Even though you love her I think you need to let her go. You deserve someone who will love you and respect you and your relationship more than that.