In the past few years, I've noticed that so many parents take their children everywhere rather than get a babysitter. Examples include adult-only weddings, late-night movies, bars, and sporting events. And I don't mean older children, I mean babies and toddlers.
Why can't people nowadays leave the kids at home?
2006-09-28 10:18:46 · 20 answers · asked by Pink Denial 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
If my parents couldn't find a babysitter, then they stayed home themselves instead of bringing me along. If a person isn't comfortable with any sitter, then why choose to take the child to a late-night movie?
2006-09-28 10:24:47 · update #1
Would that it truly was against the law to leave children alone, but that's not federally mandated. It's a state issue. I've lived in a state where there must be someone 14 or older in the house with younger children at all times, and now I live in a state where you can leave your infant alone if so inclined, and while social services may get involved if they find out, they cannot press any charges. Stupid as hell, eh?
Why do people bring their kids to adult only events? I don't know, nor do I understand. If you cannot find a babysitter you trust, then stay home. But then I don't understand the ijits who take their under 12 year olds to horror films and then wonder why the child has sleep problems.
Bottom line -don't take your baby to a movie - if I want to hear a crying baby during the middle of my viewing, I'll babysit and watch the film on DVD.
I think it's part of an epidemic of lack of respect for others. Past 10 years, people have adopted an "I don't care how it affects others, I'm going to do what I want"
type of attitude. It sucks. And THEN they complain that people are rude, and disrespectful and so forth. Well, can't have it both ways.
2006-09-28 10:32:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think that there is a time and place for everything. If you can't find a sitter to attend an adult only wedding, then you shouldn't go. I have a 13 month old, if I can't find anyone to babysit so that I can go to a movie, then I just watch a dvd at home and save myself that 20 bucks for a pack of diapers. Now if it's a kids movie, then expect to be disturbed. What country in the world allows a child in a bar???? Thats crazy!
2006-09-28 10:46:50 · answer #2 · answered by Easter Bunny 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-18 03:50:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean kids shouldn't be in places like bars and things like that. I thought a wedding was a family event not strictly for adults(hmmmm maybe that's just my family).
As for kids going out late nights sometimes parents do what they have to do. I took my kids out to eat at 9:30 at night it was a spur of the moment celebration for my daughter.
It is solely up to the parents to do what they feel is right when it comes to their children it is not their concern whether or not people who don't have kids are bothered by it. I know I don't care, if you don't like kids being around then leave.
Just my thoughts....
2006-09-28 11:21:57 · answer #4 · answered by baby girl 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My thought is that so many people are selfish. They want to go out and in their mind it is their right, but they either cannot find a sitter or don't want to pay one. They think they should be able to go if they want and to heck with anyone who looks cross at them about it.
So, instead of settling with the fact that you chose to be a parent and need to accept all the compromises that entails, they take their kids to inappropriate places and possibly cause others to suffer.
That said, I am finding more and more people expect your kids at their showers and weddings because the family wants to see them, but one should ask first.
2006-09-28 10:39:25 · answer #5 · answered by jboatright57 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
People feel guilty for leaving their kids in daycare all day and try to make it up by keeping the kids with them in places where it's inappropriate.
But I don't really think this is a recent phenomenon. It's only really been recently that we're seeing weddings and other "family" events restricted to adults.
It's a combination of working parents wanting to spend more time with their kids, and society becoming intolerant of kids... a return to the idea of "children should be seen and not heard".
2006-09-28 10:25:06 · answer #6 · answered by ValleyGal 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Because most of those things (such as late-night movies and going to the bar) are last minute things. It's hard to find a last-minute babysitter. And with weddings and sporting events, those things are always at least a few hours long and people don't want to spend their free time watching a kid all day. Kids have every right to be at the same places that you're at. Maybe next time you should stay home.
2006-09-28 10:27:41 · answer #7 · answered by BeeFree 5 · 1⤊ 4⤋
That is hard to believe that a bar would allow babies in it...What type of people are them?
Many don't trust anyone to watch their kids. I myself have been with my son every day of his life (he is 5 years old) except for the one night i was in the hospital in which i had miscarried.
(He stayed with his daddy)
I do not trust that many people to watch and care for my child. There are so many abusers and disturbed people out there that you can't trust anyone to watch your child.
When i had my son i knew that he was my responsability and no one else's..... I can say proudly that i do not put my son off on anyone.
I haven't even had a break in 5 years like some people that do get to go out without their kids.
When you become a parent you will see how hard it is to leave your child and how hard it is to trust someone to watch him or her.
2006-09-28 10:28:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't leave my kids at all, but then I don't go to late night movies, bars or sporting events. I have taken my son at 5 months old to an all adult wedding and reception. The wedding was 3 hours away and it was either he went or we didn't.
2006-09-28 10:23:36 · answer #9 · answered by shanesmommy01 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
My favorite is Vegas. Two o'clock in the morning you see these lowlifes at the slots with 2 kids in a stroller. Makes me sick. Or on Bourbon Street at Mardi Gras. WTF?
It's because these 'adults' are selfish and self-centered children themselves.
When you have kids, you stay home or you get a sitter or you go to dinner EARLY at family restaurants and you keep them in their chairs, quiet and you don't feed them Coca-cola.
Is it any wonder these kids grow up to be selfish, undisiplined, sad losers who can't deal with life without Paxil?
And for you parents that know the score and accept your responsibilities and put your kids in bed early: God Bless you!
2006-09-28 10:32:42 · answer #10 · answered by DJ 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋