Call me morbid, but today I thought about planning my funeral. Even though my family and my husband's are catholic, I do NOT want those people having the last word about my life. Nor do I want a generic christian minister.
I do not belong to any church and I do not follow any religion. I'm not sure what, if any, message or words I would want delivered, what last words I might want to leave.
So what are my options? I don't want to throw a party like an Irish wake - I think people need to grieve and need closure. Don't want to force them to be chipper. And I want to be respectful of all the catholics who want to pray and do their thing.
Let me have your wildest and wackiest ideas!
2006-09-28 10:11:31 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
For instance, at my mother's funeral, the priest said she had spent her whole life praying for her death. It was all I could do not to jump up and call him a sick f**k. What a nerve....
2006-09-28 10:12:18 · update #1
I'm cursed today - I meant PREPARING for her death, not praying! I'm actually laughing out loud about that typo.
2006-09-28 10:12:53 · update #2
i attended a funeral recently .. my friends mother
she was not religious and had a humanist funeral
it was the most beautiful funeral i have ever attended
she knew she was dying so had prepared a letter to be read out ... and she kept it light hearted but in keeping
the humanist minster was very respectful and spoke of the ladies life and all the wonderful things she did
i would highly reccomend looking into this if you wish to prepare for it
for wacky though .. i am going to ask everyone to wear a feather boa at mine .. and have an ABBA party !
just to add
at the humanist funeral there was a moment of silence in respect of those who wished to pray to God in their own way .. thus allowing those of faith to have time for their own thoughts
2006-09-28 10:15:29 · answer #1 · answered by Peace 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
There are many alternatives. You can have family members and friends officiate.
There is a little secret funeral directors don't let people in on. We have much control over the way our loved ones/ourselves are cared for and the rites. Talk to the most open minded people you are close to and express your wishes, make sure they are in writing and notarized. You can also pre arrange things with a crematorium or funeral director.
Check your state laws. In some states people can actually cremate their own dead!
Blessings )O(
2006-09-28 10:19:25 · answer #2 · answered by Epona Willow 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Set up your funeral plans with a funeral planner. Maybe just a memorial service, where friends and family can get up and say some words about you. You can pick music that you'd like played and you can get together some nice photographs of you with your friends and family that can be shown at the memorial. Your funeral can be anything you want it to be.
2006-09-28 10:22:53 · answer #3 · answered by mocha5isfree 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Contact the funeral home of your choice and make a pre-need plan. The funeral director will assist you in preparing just what you want, and will see that your wishes are carried out.
2006-09-28 10:15:20 · answer #4 · answered by LoneStar 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
any death is failure of life i wouldn't bother about planning how u get burried i'm opposite i'm physically immortal may be i'm wrong but this true if u don;t have enuf knowledge so u go with a flow if u change ur mind about dying go to google and type in everything about physically immortality don't have to worry about any funerals there is no natural death u wear out rself or ppoisoned thru toxins or u ate too much or wrong foods
2006-09-28 10:24:39 · answer #5 · answered by george p 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You know, I can understand what you are saying about what you want or don't want at your funeral..... But remember
A funeral is actually for the living. It isn't going to mean a thing to you. You won't hear the words being said or the songs being sung.
Talk to your hsuband, children, parents, siblings..... about what they would need to be able to grieve for you. What is important to them?
I agree, you may want to draw a line somewhere, but IT is all about THEIR grief, not our satisfaction in having control to the last. (I am preaching to myself also)
2006-09-28 10:20:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You probably want to set up a trust to handle your final requests. You might even want to add a provision which dis-inherits anyone who fails to follow your final wishes. The below link has an interesting story & might help you prepare.
2006-09-28 10:29:06 · answer #7 · answered by Dave 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Consider donating your body to science. That bypasses the whole problem.
But really, if your loved ones want to have a memorial service for you, why do you care? You'll be dead anyway. The bigger dilemma is what to do if YOU are left holding the bag for one of your religious loved ones.
2006-09-28 10:17:54 · answer #8 · answered by lenny 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The atheist love of my existence married me in my Catholic church and of direction, I easily have attended ceremonies of his friends achieved in halls and on the coastline that have been preformed via District Justices, and so on. it quite is a social gathering of two human beings in love and pledging to stay their lives mutually and for one yet another. i would not evaluate anybody who'd refuse to instruct their own love and know for human beings they declare to love and look after Christian if that they had refuse to attend some thing so significant to their friends. Works, occasion and movements of love talk louder than words from the lips saying, i'm a Christian! we would desire to be one too.
2016-10-18 03:49:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you looking for a particular religion or non-religious? That would help with your question. I can try to find out.
2014-04-03 04:45:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋