My oldest childhood friend is getting married next month so I wouldn't consider missing her big day. I would have left my daughter with my parents, but they are attending the wedding. My boyfriend thinks she is too young to go as the reception starts at 6:30 and if this was anyone elses wedding I would not attend or be debating this. My friend does not mind me bringing the baby. In fact she had hired baby sitters at the wedding. I'm not sure if I should have my boyfriend stay home with the baby cause he doesn't care to go, but at the same time him and I never get to do anything as a couple and get dressed up so I was really looking foward to a nice night out with him. If anything I would leave the reception by 10ish. I can use some advice and peoples opinions.
2006-09-28 10:04:27 · 22 answers · asked by JR81 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
My friend brought her 7 month old to my wedding and it was great! I wouldn't have had it anyother way...she was actually one of my bridesmaids and the baby was fine! If you parents are attending the wedding, maybe they can watch the baby for a bit while you hang out with the bride! Or discuss with your parents ahead of time that if your baby starts crying during the ceremony that one of them will take it outside so you do not have to miss anythning and you won't disturb them... We had lots of other babies there too and none of them were a problem....Maybe we just go lucky, but I say bring your baby...it is a part of you. Kind of a package deal! =0)
2006-09-28 10:14:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, my first choice would be to attend the wedding and bring both the baby and the boyfriend. This is only because there will be sitters there. The service of the sitters has been provided just for people like you, so take advantage of it. This way, you can enjoy a night with your guy and still have the baby close by.
My second choice would be to take the boyfriend and hire a babysitter for the baby. But I am biased, because I think way too many parents take their children everywhere when they should be getting babysitters.
My third choice would be to attend the wedding alone and leave the boyfriend at home to watch the baby. But why would you want to do this, since babysitters are being provided for you?
2006-09-28 10:11:18 · answer #2 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You definitely should not bring a 5 month old to a wedding. Can you find someone else to babysit, maybe his parents, or an Aunt or other friend? It's nice to go out as a couple on date, but baby doesn't really fit into this situation. My advice is to try to find a baby sitter. If you can't find a sitter than you should go alone and leave the baby with your boyfriend. It's important to support your friends too.
2006-09-28 20:58:05 · answer #3 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually I would say no, but since your friend has hired babysitters, it wouldn't be "forbidden." A couple things to consider before you decide:
* Are you going to be annoyed at having to leave the ceremony if the baby starts to cry during it?
* Are you going to be comfortable and enjoy the reception while "strangers" care for the baby? (Not doubting the trustworthiness of the sitters, just asking about "new mom" fears.)
* Does your boyfriend really really not want to go?
* Is there anyone else outside of the scope of the wedding who could babysit?
2006-09-28 10:43:09 · answer #4 · answered by Church Music Girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems you have two options:
1) Hire a babysitter
2) Take your baby to the wedding and have fun.
I would just take the baby. Especially since your friend has already hired a babysitting, it sounds like it's a good situation. Take your boyfriend with you, just take seperate cars. If your daughter gets fussy early, let your boyfriend take her home early.
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We have a 1-year old who we have taken to everything from church to a Catholic wedding. At 5 months she can be entertained with books and such. Do you go to church? If she does well in church, she'll do well at a wedding.
Unless your friend is having a long service, you should be fine. Just bring extra toys and goodies for her to drink and eat. Most churches even have a cry room so you can still be there.
2006-09-28 10:10:00 · answer #5 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is wonderful that your friend has arranged child care for the children of attending guests. I did the same thing at my own wedding some 20 years ago--it worked out great . Parents felt comfortable ,as their kids were just down the hall,and could go check on them--bring them out to see everyone...... Go with your boyfriend and have a good time.
2006-09-28 10:39:57 · answer #6 · answered by patlrussell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I brought my daughter to 2 weddings one when she was 2 months, and one when she was 3 months. I had to leave, Or I should say I choose to leave, one ceremony when the baby started to cry, but she slept most of the time. I brought the stroller both times. I even got a chance to dance with my bf, while she slept in the stroller. The brides let me use the bridal suite to nurse. You will have the added bonus of having your parents there, to give you a break if you need it.
I say all 3 of you should go together & have a good time!
2006-09-28 10:34:39 · answer #7 · answered by ee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she has babysitters at the wedding, why wouldn't you? I would take the baby, leave him/her with the sitter during the wedding, and have a nice time with your boyfriend and the baby at the reception.
2006-09-28 11:32:44 · answer #8 · answered by abbya11111 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is an easy one.... You stated that your friend did not mind you bringing your baby, and in fact hired babysitters (Smart woman!) she expects it to be a family friendly function and she wants you there.
GO & Bring the baby... let the babysitters do their thing, You will only be steps away if needed that way and you and your boyfriend can get some "couple's time".
2006-09-28 10:24:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can always try bringing her, but be prepared for the possibility you may be leaving earlier than you had hoped. You never know, she might be good as gold through all of it.
The BEST thing you did was ask the bride and groom, and if they gave the go ahead, then bring baby. Most people get mad when they have not been asked, or have asked people not to bring children. Hope you all have fun!
2006-09-28 11:12:13 · answer #10 · answered by BuffyFromGP 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋