What questions should I ask my boyfriend before moving in with him?

Question

Here are some I thought of:
How early should we set the alarm?
What kind of alarm should we wake up to?
If we watch TV in the morning: my shows or his?
Should we have a day designated that everything should be cleaned up (dishes done, laundry, vacuum dog hair up) like Sunday by 5?

Answer 1

no no no

you start it off on a bad foot if you do that. before you even set a foot in the door, he's already thinking of all of the changes you are going to make to his life. can we say "stress and anxiety?" this is the last thing we want to give the boyfriend.

instead just move on in with him. you're never really going to know a person until you live with them.

start on a weekend so its kind of mellow and calm and no rush to really do things.

just take things one step at a time. be laid back and fun. remember a successful relationship is all about compromise. remember that you dont ALWAYS have to watch the same thing or do the same things. pick up a cheap tv at a yard sale and let him watch his morning shows while you watch yours. you still want to make sure that you guys have space. trust me. in a few months you'll be a lil peeved of him and ready to scream, shout, and pull your hair out. its ok. its just a natural effect that men have on women. you'll be craving some space and time apart.

after a few years, me and my fiance have evolved into two seperate clocks. he has one that he has had for years and refuses to give up and all of its buttons are worn. i have no idea how to work it and he always keeps the time a bit off so he can wake up early. i just gave up and got my own clock. not only do i know how to work it for myself, but it also tells the correct time. but its just one of the lil annoyances that pops up and you dont realize until after you live with someone.

as for cleaning, its really a lot easier to do things as they need done. sundays are always lazy days. you'll want to sleep in and will be dreading going back to work tomorrow, but you'll have a long list of house cleaning that needs done; chance are that it wont get done. its just much easier to do a few dishes at a time as they need done, sweep once a week, wash the tub/shower down after you get out, do laundy every how many days that best fits your need, etc.

the only thing that really needs to be talked about and set down in writing for any future legal purposes (you can really never be too careful) is the division of money and what will be paid by who and who will own what. THOSE are the big questions that need to be discussed before hand. not lil trivial matters.

**edit / added**
if there is one bathroom, there is no problem. just share. we have two bathrooms and we still share and take showers together. it keeps things fun and us close, while also provide a bit of playful fun and spice. plus its great to have someone there to help you with your back. -l-

Answer 2

You've never had a roommate, have you?

Check the cleanliness level of his place, make note of anything that bothers you and figure out if its going to drive you nuts in the future. Make it clear you expect to share the chores equally.

If something needs doing, either do it yourself or ask him to do it. If he puts it off, give him a timeline (24 hours plus so it doesn;t interrupt plans) and there won't be any aggravation. Respect each other's space an privacy as much as possible, going through his stuff or his mail unless asked is a huge NO.

Have a fairly good idea of finances and how you're going to deal with bills, surprises often lead to fights.

Appreciate what he does and consider his intentions if something pisses you off. Don't stress out on stupid sh1t, and think twice before nagging him about something.

Just take it as it comes and keep expectations to a minimum, (basically, if you don't expect anything of him, you won't be disappointed). Everything else will fall into place.

Answer 3

How are you going to divide monthly expenses? Everything down the middle, or one person covering rent and the other covering all the other bills, with any inequities resolved by things like grocery shopping? (If you are entering a kept-woman relationship, you can probably skip this question.)

How will you be dividing the chores? (You DEFINITELY want this one set down beforehand, and the act of drawing up the list could be a real eye-opener in and of itself!)

If there's only one bathroom in the new place, how will you negotiate that in the morning? (This one was interesting for me and my beloved way back when.)

Answer 4

No offense, but how shallow!!

You're worried about the dishes? What about:
-your reputation
-what happens if you get pregnant?
-who's supporting who?
-what happens if your financial picture changes (you or he loses their job)
-your maturity levels (social, mental, psychological, emotional, ways of handling money, hangups of any type).

The bottom line is moving in with your boyfriend is DUMB. You have no legal commitment to one another. There are NO promises, etc.

Forget it!

Answer 5

Right side or left side of bed.
Nightlight or not?
Morning person?
Share the chores?
Do you read at night?

Answer 6

Ask him if he's going to keep his pimping job or not.