We are pretty much married- have a 2 year old, live together and are comitted- So he sees no reason to be excited about our wedding (in a week) everytime I say I'm excited he's like 'why, were already married' .... Can you please help me explain to him... I dont know what will get him excited to say our vows?? He does want to marry me... Just doesnt see the need for a ceremony to do exactly what we are already doing...
2006-09-28 09:47:33 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Guys show emotion in different ways. If you are having a big ceremony with the fixins (dress, flowers etc) then he might have a mysterious change of heart when he sees you. No encouragement necessary.
If it is just a JoP thing, then you can explain to him what it means to you. This may change his mind and it may not.
2006-09-28 09:52:37 · answer #1 · answered by bubb1e_gir1 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do you need him to be excited?
If you are worried about the vows, don't write personal vows.
As he said before, you two are already commited. Nothing you can say will be able to make him any more excited. Just wait until the day off--he will be nervous AND excited!
2006-09-28 10:14:06 · answer #2 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-18 18:40:36 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I kindof know how you feel. My husband would have his "days" sometimes he would get really excited others he wouldn't. Just let him know that it means a lot to you because of the vows. Tell him you know that you life together but legally you are not married and that you want to really commit and here it in front of God and everybody. Guys have a hard time showing there feelings.
2006-09-28 09:57:28 · answer #4 · answered by glitter3317 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ugh, that is DEFINITELY a guy way to react. My fiance doesn't understand why I'm worrying about money or why I'm excited since our wedding is two years away!
Just tell him that you are excited to share your love with everyone around you. Also, you are excited about having one beautiful day in which that is celebrated. It is a day out of the ordinary, and you should be able to be excited about it!
2006-09-28 11:15:57 · answer #5 · answered by Esma 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you know?
For those of you who think that getting married is not necessary, remember this... you must be married to someone for at least 7 years before you are eligible to collect on their social security? That's right, you can live with someone 'til the cows come home, but god forbid something ever happens to them and you are used to having there to help support the family, especially when there are kids involved.
Did you know...
You can not give medical authorization for someone unless you are their next living relative? Schavo ring any bells?
Did you know...
You are 10x more likely to approved for a loan, mortgage etc., if you are married?
Did you know...
The average houshold saves thousands on health insurance if they are married?
I'm getting tired of citing the pro's... he's a guy... what do you expect?
Conrgrats on the wedding and good luck!
2006-09-28 09:55:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
People get married because they want their loved ones protected. People living together have no legal rights. If one person dies, they're estate does not go to their partner, it goes to their family. Also, the body doesn't go to their partner and the partner has no say what goes on with the funeral. I have been happily married for 12 years and I have a nasty mother in law who wouldn't think twice about cutting me out of all proceedings if I wasn't legally married.
2006-09-28 21:03:19 · answer #7 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some men feel weddings are basically "bride's day", where she gets to dress up like a princess and have everyone pay attention to her and things... I guess it's nice that he is already so committed to you that he feels like nothing will change. I guess, just feel comfortable being silly and girly around him, and let him know you understand why he isn't as excited, and just have fun!
2006-09-28 09:53:25 · answer #8 · answered by stillstanding 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I mean having sisters I know the importance of a wedding to women so if you can expalin to him that its a dream of yours and you are excited about the day finally arriving I mean who cant respect a dream :)
2006-09-28 10:01:50 · answer #9 · answered by mARY j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry guys can be like that. It is very hard for most guys to express their feelings but it will turn out to be great. He will probably be so excited on that day. You two will never forget it. Congrats!
2006-09-28 12:37:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋