met a guy...he lives in the same town as me we see each other out & thereis a chemistry he is lovely gorgeous and sincere..we have known each other for a few months & harmlessly flirted...he came round mine after he walked me home after a night out & we had a cup of tea & then he walked home so i dont think he is all in to just sex.Then i saw him out again he only live 2 mins from mine & we got together went back to his & had a really good time he was so lovely &i cant help but adore him..the next day he gave me a lift home but did not ask for my no he did ask if i was out next week...when i got back i realised i had left my purse...he dropped it back through the door...he had to go to work that day and so he was pretty busy.Thing is idont in my heart of heart think he was just after one thing as on a previous occassion he said i was moving to fast & we should go to dinner and get to know each other better..so y did he not leave his no..should i pop a card in his door to ask him out?
2006-09-28 09:38:06 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
aww this sounds so lovely u r sooooooo lucky so dont lose him lol jus let him do all the moves but u should flirt now and then so he knows your still interested. the way you talk about him makes me think hes the one for you!! go for it girl hes the 1!!!!!!
2006-09-28 09:45:27 · answer #1 · answered by ♥abi♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a man age 49 and have been around the block a time or two, so for what its worth this is what I think.
I think he is interested only slightly at this time since he said you maybe moving too fast. I suggest you take your time and really get to know this guy, ask a lot of questions and get to know what makes him tick. Right now your in the infatuation stage and you see everything through rose colored glasses, maybe after you really get to know him , you may feel different. Additionally are you sure his heart is not attached to someone else? Go slow and date a lot of people especially if your young, If he likes you he'll chase you. You can't make someone like you or love you. Be yourself and if you are a good person all your good qualities will shine.
To answer your most direct question you can always comunicate ti this guy how you feel but don't be surprised if you run him off, if he is not ready for a relationship. Slow is the way to go
2006-09-28 09:52:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Rebecca,
I'm a 46 year old married man. Hope I'm mature enough (smile)
Sounds like he may just be very shy in your company. He obviously cares about you as he took the trouble to drop back your purse.
It sounds funny in this day an age but I think that you have found yourself an old fashion gentleman. Kind, caring with good manners. Maybe he just doesn't want to scare you off!
I think that you should take your time, chill out girl(smile)
Give him a bit of space.
However, the question of the card. Yes! why not, but don't be to pushy. Just tell him how much you enjoyed his company at dinner. Say, maybe we could do it again sometime, leave your number and a single kiss at the end.
Then sit back and wait. If it were me, I'd be back in touch, some way or another.
Hope this helps. I'm sure if it's ment to happen you'll get your man in the end.
Good luck.
Regards,
Kev T.
2006-09-28 10:12:47 · answer #3 · answered by Kevin T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dear, you have to slow down. He has made his position clear...he does not like to rush. This is an admirable trait...you should not have a problem with that. He has a legitimate reason for not giving you his number. He hardly know you. You could turn out to be the kind of person who would abuse the privilege. That would make you a pest.
It seams as though you have stumbled onto something precious here...don't let your enthusiasm ruin it.
He already knows you are serious. You have made that obvious to him. You are already in the picture, now is the time to show some class...not over anxious desire.
Take your time, sit back and relax and enjoy what is unfolding.
After all...this is the best part.
2006-09-28 11:14:46 · answer #4 · answered by Robere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he has another girl and has to break it off with her before being serious with you.
Read what you said, He wants to slow down a bit. To get to know each other. But he also said do dinner together.
Be your normal flirty self and have fun. You just have to turn down the afterburners some so you don't seem to be so horny.
Some times a little distance makes the heart grow fonder. Take a trip away a few days. See if he asks where u been.
If you want to ask him out. Tell him you were going to go out and get tea, coffee, slushie, etc. and he welcome to come along if he wants. Better if you had a hobby that you were going and he can come along if he wants. both enjoy, walking in park, jogging, bingo, (strip poker ;-) etc.
Don't be needy like, "Please go with me." Think of the guys that have been around you like a dog wanting to be petted and you can kinda see the situation you would put him in.
Just be like your going to go get a tea and if he comes cool, if not, its okay too.
Also, go on other dates with other guys. Nonchalantely (sp?) tell him. If he sees you may be unavailable, it may make him desire you more. But don't throw every detail in his face.
Look at some of the ideas at doubleyourdating.com It a website for guys to get the confidence to pick up girls. But i think it may give you ideas from the female side. You don't have to buy the book, and you can receive free emails every few days of questions people send in and are answered.
Good Luck
2006-09-28 10:01:00 · answer #5 · answered by captn_carrot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remind him how you feel but let him know you'll take it as slow as he needs it to be. Then ask him how he truly feels about you. If he genuinely wants to be with you, he'll let you know. Personally(and I hope I'm wrong for your sake) I have a tiny suspicion that he might be keeping you hanging on just in case nothing better comes along. The other (more likely) possibility is he could have had a bad experience in a previous relationship and wants to be 100% sure you're worth committment before taking things to the next level. In my experience, men want sex from early on in a relationship. He's not like most men, it seems, and probably sees the physical aspect of a relationship as something he wants from the woman he'll marry. So remind him how you feel once in a while and make sure he's honest about how he feels about you. If you're the one, things will progress eventually.
2006-09-28 09:58:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is not any elementary way, even with the indisputable fact that the direct way. i'd not tell him you requested human beings on an internet site both. it might want to backfire horrendously. in simple terms examine with him. fake its a Hugh grant movie and it in simple terms blurts out for no reason. Quirky in case you want. Get some chips and sit down in the park and stick your ft up and in simple terms babble. And relax. You sound like you truly like him so I imagine you're performing somewhat loopy! If this relationship has were given legs then its were given various time.......I truly do no longer understand the position that total paragraph got here from! i'm off for a lie down! good luck!
2016-12-06 08:10:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO!!!! Let him make the moves. I had the same problem a few years back, acted all goo goo and ran him off. But lately he's been back around. Be patient sweety, I know it's hard to do. Some men move more slowly than others, and that's a gooood thing.
2006-09-28 09:42:01 · answer #8 · answered by mickeyg1958 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok ok ok you really need to think about who you are as a person...you probably hadn't been in a relationship for a while and when sex presented itself you kind of just did it without thinking.........so start over you are in a relationship now, but being as insecure as your writing sounds you're waiting for him to come to you and lay it all out for you...no..that's not right..just show up say whatcha doing? really. he'll either let you down easy or jump right in.. -m
2006-09-28 09:44:28 · answer #9 · answered by MAX POWER 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long did it take you to compose such a stupid topic for a question, obviously your brain isnt fully developed yet
2006-09-28 09:41:42 · answer #10 · answered by captcruzer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋