Okay, here goes... Obviously, I'm fourteen, and I like this guy. I've known him for three years, but we've only started hanging out this summer... That was when I started liking him as more than a friend. And I know he was interested for at least a little bit, because he was asking my friends about me and flirting all the time, and we wen't to the movies with a few of our friends and he let me lean into him and everything. He even called me after. But now, he told my friend he likes someone else, and he sits with her on the bus and all. But I swear he kindof likes me, because he's always really close to me, even if we're working together in school he's like 2 inches away from me! And he always tries to make me laugh, above any of the other girls... but like I said, I haven't seen him when he's with this other girl, and I'm not sure what to think... I mean, if he didn't like her, why would he sit with her and everything?? I'm just confused. Any help?
2006-09-28 09:29:05 · 11 answers · asked by xxEquestrianxx 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ask your friends to ask him who he likes the mist an if he had aa choice who would he date....if he says you then go for it if he says her then lwet things play out you will still have a chance an if he says both just let him go kk good luck bye bye
2006-09-28 09:38:03 · answer #1 · answered by none of your biz. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember, that just because a guy is doing something (or things) with another girl, doesnt neccesarilly mean he likes her, they could just be good friends.
At 14 its a hard thing to ask, but I'd suggest you talk to him, dont be shy, I promise you that nothing bad will happen, tell him how you really feel, be open with him and he'll probably be open with you.
From what I can see, you two are already really good friends, So I couldnt see why this situation would be awkward. Ask him if he "could ever see us as more than friends".
Ask him out on a 1 on 1 date, yeah, a date, 2 people, not 2 people and 4 of each ones friends, it never works out in the end.
All I can say, is that the only way you will ever know is to show confidence, and be honest with him. Do _not_ get your friend to talk to him, confidence is the #1 thing here. If you show confidence, you'll atleast "have your foot in the door" as they would say.
I hope this helps, good luck! and remember, be open and be confident!
2006-09-28 16:34:56 · answer #2 · answered by 3r1cW 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes the direct approach is best, just ask. But if that seems too bold for your liking, look for the following signs. Pay attention to your conversations with the person in question.
1) Does this person show a special interest in having a conversation with you and, once started, make an effort to keep that conversation going?
2) Has this person taken a sudden interest in your life and hobbies? This is a sure sign that he or she is interested in something.
3) Other elements of body language include frequent eye contact, holding your gaze and looking down before looking away.
4) Does the person you're wondering about just plain smile at you a lot?
Just remember, take each moment like it will be the last. This I feel will be a good start for you in knowing. Good Luck!!!!!!!
2006-09-28 23:56:52 · answer #3 · answered by Wolfie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sound like from the body language that he does. However some guys (just as well as girls) are just flirts. I think you are to young and to intelligent to focus on just this one guy. Let me give ya a hint from first hand experience.... Put a little more attention into another guy, sounds wrong, but seriously...when he's around laugh with another guy....you sit by another guy on the bus. If he likes you jealousy WILL set in and you WILL notice. This is only if you find yourself not being able to ask him one on one whether or not he could see you two maybe going out to the movies alone, or seeing each other not as JUST friends....cause that would be the easiest way. and confidence is a wonderful characteristic in any person.
good luck hun
2006-09-28 16:35:18 · answer #4 · answered by katie s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how old he is. If he's the same age, then I'm going to say that he probably has feelings for both of you on some level. If you really like him and don't want there to be another girl around for him to fall for, then let him know. Just tell him that you like him for more than a friend and ask him how he feels about you. If he says that he's not into you like that, then play it off like you were just joking anyways. That way you've got your answer. Sometimes guys don't know what they want. You have to help make up their minds...LOL.
2006-09-28 16:33:36 · answer #5 · answered by mandyriffic24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, it could go either way. If the boy only knows the girl he likes a little bit, then he wouldn't hang out with her always. He may just like you as a friend and stiill wants to make you laugh. I know i used to like a guy, and he liked someone else, but he would always sit next to me and talk to me and tell me jokes and everything. Ask him about it, whether or not he likes someone else. I did, and I learned to accept it, and we stayed great friends. He's probably my best friend right now
2006-09-28 16:33:26 · answer #6 · answered by Shrinkydinks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is probably just as confused as you are. What you need to understand is that a lot of times girls can focus and like just one boy at a time. Boys, on the other hand can like more than one girl at a time and that gets them into trouble. Just be his friend, and stop worrying about whether he likes you. Focus on yourself and meeting other guys. One thing that always seems to attract a guy you like and make them pay more attention to you is when somebody ELSE starts paying attention to you. I swear, when you are swooning all over them they don't know what they want, but as soon as you stop and start paying attention to some other boy, all of a sudden they refocus on you. Good luck!
2006-09-28 16:34:03 · answer #7 · answered by nquizzitiv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you ever ask him how he felt about you? You can't get an answer until you ask a question. You waited too long and he thought you weren't interested in him, so he decided to move on and find another girl. If you want him, you should tell him that you do. The worst he can do is say, "No." Hope that answers your question.
2006-09-28 16:32:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A guy can like two girls at the same time.I say,ask him if he does like her dont bother find a guy who likes you and who you like back.You dont want to waste your time waiting for someone who isnt even going to give you his full attention...
2006-09-28 16:34:41 · answer #9 · answered by kelly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him truth is the answer and if he doesnt be cool dont cry n make a fool of urself its ok i turned down sum guys n dey wer ok im still frends wit dem
2006-09-28 16:33:28 · answer #10 · answered by Julia A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋