My parents divorced when I was nine years old. My mom became wonder-woman. She went to school and got her associates, found a job, and supported us growing up. We had some lean times but everything turned out for the best. But she never dated again. I understand the whole fear of rejection and busy life trying to raise a teenager. In fact I asked her once and she said that she didn't want to focus on herself two much at the risk of forsaking me. I am now twenty-two and married. I appreciate that she didn't skip from boyfriend to boyfriend when I was a teenager but I think I can handle it now. She has no social life whatsoever. She works two jobs (unnecessarily mind you) just to fill the time and now is getting her bachelor's degree just cuz. That's great and all, but I really think she needs to get out there. Date someone, have a drink with friends, socialize with other human beings outside work. How do I tell her this without sounding forward?
2006-09-28 09:23:57 · 10 answers · asked by bubb1e_gir1 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Unfortunately some people simply get used to being alone and I think that is what has happened to your mom. It seems like she needs to break out of her little routine and see a bit more of life. This of course isn't easy since she is so busy. One way might be to get her out there on the internet. Not dating or searching at first, but just doing the chat thing. Maybe convince her to do a blog so that you two can communicate and share stuff and then she will start seeing other people out there looking at her blog and her looking at their and it will open her up some to having more people and interests in her life.
2006-09-28 09:29:18 · answer #1 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The last 3 women (over age 35) I know who got married found their spouses through
1) Sierra Club hike
2) Brother of a softball team mate
3) Match.com
Two out of three found Mr. Right through an activity they enjoyed. I'd suggest you encourage her to do something she likes that gives her a chance to meet men. That way she won't feel like she's wearing a sign that says "Hey, Sailor - looking for a good time?"
You don't have to tell her to join a club, church, team, group to start looking; just suggest she take it easier, and since she likes to . . ., why doesn't she sign up for . . ..
2006-09-28 16:41:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has become accustomed to a busy, working life. She hasn't had time to socialize and probably is afraid of change. I don't know how to tell her, but I definitely agree that you should talk to her about it. You might start by asking her about friends or if she is dating yet.
2006-09-28 16:49:24 · answer #3 · answered by Gypsy Girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother is a great woman and a terrific mother, congratulations, I wish a lot of broken home children would have the mother you got.
You are right, she's no entitled to live her life. But don't rush her. She might be just waiting for the right person, someone WHO really deserves her and respects her.
2006-09-28 16:33:43 · answer #4 · answered by Mother of three 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go ahead and be forward- you are an adult now too. She might not react positively at first- don't worry. This is probably stuff she hasn't thought about it in while. Just tell her how you feel and that you want her to be happy. Ultimately it is up to her.
2006-09-28 16:27:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi maybe she just does not want to some people just enjoy being by themselves more.You could mention it to her but if she seems un interested I would not push the issue she just may like her life like it is and at her age not want to worry about dating,
2006-09-28 16:28:05 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her, she is a adult,, she probably doesnt want to deal with the crap again, ( I rmember all two well not just one marriage but two failed ones ) she probably works two jobs to keep her mind nimble and loves you bunches,, good for her for putting you kids first,,
I wouldnt worry about a date for your mom ( whats she look like BTW< I might be interested, ) but take her out often and tell her you love at..
2006-09-28 16:30:51 · answer #7 · answered by rich2481 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It wouldn't be nice to tell her this. I think you should find some nice guy to date her and get him to ask her out.
Or help her join a club where she can meet people.
I don't like it for people to just tell me what to do, and it's much kinder to just 'do it' than to offer suggestions.
2006-09-28 16:39:42 · answer #8 · answered by nora22000 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what's your number, i'll date your mom
2006-09-28 16:24:52 · answer #9 · answered by maT 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell to move on..be next to her....!
2006-09-28 16:26:19 · answer #10 · answered by m 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋