help i can't get over it since the summer!!?

Question

i had a miscarriage and i want another child now everytime i see a child i feel sad and start to cry its painful.
he said we will soon after i fully recover its almost 6 months iam healthy and ready to try iam so ready to a havd a child is he how can i know and he says now there is no time becuse he says we are too busy for it how can i convince him nicely withought freakin him out that he is ready too. he said that he doesn't want it to happen like the first time wats the problem now?

Answer 1

just think you kill a baby every month - so why is 1 that happend to come in contact with sperm so different?.... if your affected so much by 1 egg loss - why dont you just get preo everytime you have an egg come out?

Answer 2

He sounds like he is scared of having to go through that agian, and i'm sure he does not want you to go through it either. Are you sure that now is the time to try again? Here is a link for you, there is a checklist of things to consider. http://www.webmd.com/content/article/88/99717.htm .
Also, some doctors suggest that you wait at least a year before trying to conceive, because even if you don't carry a baby to term, the pregnancy and miscarriage can take a lot out of your body. You need to make sure you have given your body enough time to heal.
If you do decide that now is the right time to try to conceive, you should both see a doctor beforehand, so that you can be tested, and talk about taking care of yourself properly before conception to help increase the chances of a healthy pregnacy.
It might help if you do your research on miscarriage, and what caused yours, and get your testing done before you bring it back up to him again. That way you can present him with facts, and proof that you are physicially ready, and all you need him to do is make sure he is healthy before you decide to try again. He might be more willing to try if he feels he is not going into it blindly and there is more of a chance for a successful happy pregnancy this time. (Also, consider starting on folic acid before becoming preggo, this helps the baby's development sooo much). Good luck

Answer 3

It is so hard to accept such a loss! Your husband might be afraid of the painful feelings that came with the miscarriage, say if it were to happen again. He may also be trying to spare your feelings if it were to happen again. I am sure it is still a fresh pain for him, and he is not ready yet.
Give him a little time, I am sure he will come around.

Good luck Hon!

Answer 4

I know exactly how you feel...it is sad but you can think of your future and look foward to getting pregnant again. Give your husband some time. He might be worried about it happening again. Take him with you on a visit to the doctor so he can hear the doc say its ok to start trying again.

Answer 5

For some reason, I think he is just as scared and frustrated as u.. He nor u want to go through the pain and suffering again..What i think he means is that he is the one that needs to recover not u entirely...So, maybe ask him if he still hasn't gotten over it...Maybe you'll be surprised!

Answer 6

Sounds like a confidence problem.
Try pulling you hubby to the doctor's and have both of you checked out. A clean bill of health for both of you might aleviate his jitters.

Answer 7

Well he is worried for you. but try and convince him to trust in God and have faith that you will have live,healthy, and beautiful child to love. May you have one soon.

Answer 8

I am so sorry for you're loss. Sounds like he is scared of you going through what you did last time. Ask him how he feels.