2006-09-28 09:22:55 · 25 answers · asked by christmas 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
What kind of parent are you?
What do you think your kid is going to jump off the roof if you tell her the cat is dead?
Get off your antidepressants and start parenting.
2006-09-28 12:13:21 · answer #1 · answered by joe 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First of all, what was your kitten doing outdoors? The outside world is very dangerous for cats - as you found out the hard way. Cats should be neutered or spayed and be indoor animals only.
How to deal with this tragedy? Tell her the truth by all means.
Do not get another kitten right away to replace this one. Wait until her grieving has subsided completely before getting another kitten. Do not let the kitten outdoors.
2006-09-29 06:18:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I learned about death at a very young age and I would give anything if it had been prolonged. Telling her that the kitty was smashed by a car isnt the best vision to pop into someones head especially if she was very close to it. I would tell her it went away to be with its familly. Then get her another. Life is full of too much pain and if you can prolong it for your daughter, then why not? It doesnt hurt anybody.
And once she is an adult she will understand how caring you were to withhold that info from her. It might be even funny then since so much time will have gone by. As an adult she will have alot more to worry about that the finding death of an old childhood pet that it wont be harsh at all.
2006-09-28 09:37:36 · answer #3 · answered by muuuua 2 · 4⤊ 2⤋
awwwwwwwwww. I love cats, I am sure your daughter does too.
You need to tell her, sit down with her one on one, tell her there was a accident and her kitty is no longer with us in this world. It's going to be oh-so-hard, but just be there for her. I have 3 girls, I am sure she will break down and cry, as a mom just be a endless supply of hugs, and let her do all the talking, this will help ease her pain.
I am so sorry,
Good Luck
Oh ya, don't pay to much attention to what others, who might be insensitive have to say. I have noticed people either Love cats or Hate them. One person I used to know had no problem aiming his car for them when he had opportunity (jerk)
2006-09-28 21:08:32 · answer #4 · answered by olschoolmom 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, I have a 10 and a 6 yr old girls. Your 11 yr old is probably understandable enough to know that accidents happen. I recently had to tell all 5 of my kids that their dog got hit by a car. Yea, they told me that I should of been more careful to watch her, but she was a fine squirrel dog who loved to run and hunt. I agreed. but they all took it okay. The only one who seems real sad is my 4 yr old girl. They all just rem. her love and protection. You have to be honest cuz she'll find out one day. and then what about that trust? L.
2006-09-28 09:36:12 · answer #5 · answered by ben and lisa h 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You say, "Hi love, how was your day?" After she answers and you have a good idea of her state of mind, you say, "Can we talk for a minute?" And you sit with her on the couch. You say, "I'm really sorry but _____was hit by a car today. He died." You let her react any way she wants for a few minutes, including running out of the room, screaming, (but not hurting herself, you, or destroying any property of course). Then you talk about your religious beliefs whatever they may be and ask her what she thinks. Then you ask her what she'd like to do to mourn and remember _____. You try to follow those ideas as closely as possible, such as having a burial in the backyard, writing a poem, drawing a picture, or having a funeral with her friends. You can both talk about what you loved about ______. I think this is one of the great reasons to have pets, so that young children can learn about life and death.
2006-09-28 09:44:19 · answer #6 · answered by toughjoycey55 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I would gently tell her...maybe you can have a "little prayer service" in the back yard...11 is a time when kids do have to deal with the real life situations.. I know it's hard, but lying isn't good. You don't want to loose her trust...If you didn't bury the kitty, maybe bury it at the "prayer service".
2006-09-30 09:38:33 · answer #7 · answered by mystery_lvr 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she is 11 and starting to get to those puberty years where everything is emotional but you have to be honest here if you cant talk to your child about an accident then how do you expect to be able to talk to her about the more important facts of life in a few years or saying no to drugs and alcohol..let her express he emotions in her own way..if she wants to cry tell her its OK if she s angry and wants to take it out on mom understand its not personal...if she takes it OK today and tomorrow is crabby then OK then moody let her work it out on her own but let her know you are there...also tell her that you know there will never be another "fluffy" or whatever her name was but that when she is ready maybe she could get another pet...being real with her is the most important thing if she cant feel comfortable expressing herself to you who can she be
2006-09-28 10:24:57 · answer #8 · answered by Alli 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, she is old enough to understand and I would tell her the truth. Just sit down with her and tell her that you have some sad news and that it's okay if she is sad and tell her that her kitty died today and if she wants to know how then just tell her. Hug her and let her cry if she wants to and she will be okay.
2006-09-28 09:34:44 · answer #9 · answered by Tallulah 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Tell her the kitten ran away, and maybe it's time you should get a new pet.
2006-09-30 10:05:12 · answer #10 · answered by Rose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just sit her down and tell her her kitty went to be in heaven(if you believe in heaven) Tell her it's going to be OK and he is not suffering. Allow her to give the kitty a proper burial.
Been there done that sorry for the loss
2006-09-28 09:56:42 · answer #11 · answered by momie_2bee 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋