I am in love with another man. I live with someone else. I plan on leaving this other person because we have absolutely nothing in common. But this other guy doesn't know that I am in love with him. I see him at work and I have met with him on different occassions. We have a great time together when we are together. Oh and he has someone else as well. Should we give love a try and leave our mates or is it just lust on both of our parts. I think that he feels the same as I do. What to do? Please help.
2006-09-28 09:09:45 · 9 answers · asked by ciaboo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
THINKING that he feels the same way as you is not KNOWING. If you live with someone now, isn't it safe to say that you two used to have something in common? It sounds to me like maybe you are spending so much time trying to concoct a happily ever after with this other guy, that you may have forgotten exactly who you are or what it is you really want anyway!
Studies show that people ofetn form crushes or lustings for people that they work with- I mean come on, we spend 40 or more hours a week at work, but maybe less waking hours at home with the ones we love.
I think you need to get a better feel for what is really going on between you and your coworker before making any haste decisions OR if you really do not want to be with your live-in partner anymore, have the balls to leave on your own without having someone in the winds waiting... that's cheating and you know it... be honest to others, as well as to yourself.
2006-09-28 09:18:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me on this one. I was in the EXACT same situation. I left my fiance, the father of my daughter, for a co-worker that I knew for about a year. I was head over heels for him. We even moved in together. But I started comparing the two and I realized in the end that I was not ready to move on. I still had feelings for my ex-fiance and moving on too soon is a dumb move. Try to stop it before it goes beyond friendship. You are going to be distracted at work and it might even jeopardize your job. Talk to your boyfriend. Try to work it out. Remember why you two got together. You're going to leave him and wish you never had. I bet your boyfriend knows that something funny is up as well. Try to work on it before it's too late.
2006-09-28 09:21:21 · answer #2 · answered by special k 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all...you shouldn't be with your current boyfriend if you're not in love with him...you're wasting his time and yours as well. But you should never leave your significant other for someone else either. And furthermore..you don't even know if this other guy is even remotely interested in you....because you said..."I think that he feels the same as I do"
2006-09-28 09:12:19 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey,great idea.i think u should hook up with anyone you get attracted to,and don't worry about hurting his feelings.you sound like a real catch,any man would be proud to be with you.you possess all the qualities a man looks for in a girlfreind.Trustworthy,conciderate,and of course,faithful.why don't we all just wreck our partners lives,on a whim and a fancy.
I wonder when u discovered that u had nothing in common with your partner.Would'nt be about the same time u became attracted to this other man,would it?
2006-09-28 09:32:54 · answer #4 · answered by Mark B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I certainly wouldn't start anything up with this other man until he is also single. If you are not in love with the person you are currently living with you should leave whether or not you are in love with someone else.
2006-09-28 09:12:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you need to think if it's an escape goat to get rid of each of your other partners. I hope it works out for you. Also I hope this guy doesn't work with you. Mixing money with honey is never going to work out. I wish you the best of luck.
2006-09-28 09:21:52 · answer #6 · answered by aimstir31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
never do that-leave someone becuase it's not working not because you found someone else-that is alreayd involved also-you do not even know if he wants a relationship with you -
2006-09-28 09:14:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first u need to find out is it love or is it just a little crush and if it is love just let ur other man losse
2006-09-28 09:12:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No problem, just tell the truth to the guy that you are now with and he will understand, happens all the time.......
2006-09-28 09:11:41 · answer #9 · answered by white61water 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋