How long should a woman wait before becoming intimate in a new relationship?

Question

Obviously, when it feels the time is right, but I am looking for a general consensus, particularly from the men .

Answer 1

Well I dunno how old you are but it all depends on what you want since you're the one asking. I mean if it's jus sex then that's your choice and do it whenever you want to but if you want to make love to your man then I'd wait at least 8 months to a year. I mean I still think 6 months is too short. Even if you've know the guy 4 ur whole life you need to know them in a relationship type sense. you can have a great friend completely know them that way but a realtionship is totally different,believe me I talk from personal experience. See I had an experience with a guy, we didn't have sex but it was definitely leading up to that. I was his first g/f and after that there was no call back. I waited a month just to kiss him and it got outta control lol after we stoped he got tense and took me home early. the whole car ride he was spazing out( he was 21) he was like I've never done this b-4 I dunno what I'm doing, my mind is racing a mile a minute and he wasn't even sure if he liked me anymore but said we'd stay friends no matter what.I called him 30 mins after he droped me off he said 2 give him a couple days. he never called me back, even when I left message. My best friend/ex boyfriend said. this is IMPORTANT he explained this perfectly that even though he cared 4 me it takes a guy a lot longer to attach feelings to physical intamcy. So having sex early isn't good if you want a relationship because even though we get feelings easily and strongly and then want to do the physical, it's the opposite for most guys. they see what they like,they enjoy you and they want it 2 be phsycial but that doesn't mean they're ready 4 a relationship or what you expect out of them. when you're phsyical you don't talk much about it so you don't know what they want and they don't know what you expect from them or want either. Even if they feel they're in love with you and are ready you should just enjoy being affectionate, kissing and sharing interest. You need to know you can be compatable that way for a long time before you give it up so a year seems to be good, I mean honestly if tyou're not gonna be together 4 a year then it's not worth it to share your bodies together. you know making love is about loving some1 enough to want to please them and make them feel good, 4 both people. I know it'd be great if the person you were with felt exactally like you and it was the easy that you wouldn't have to worry about them leaving you but it's just not that simple. You have to ask yourself other than your hornyness what's making you want to do it that day/night. your partner is not going anywhere so just enjoy the time you have till you feel you're ready emotionally, both of you, you both know what you want in a realtionship, 3 months is not good believe me you haven't gone through anything with them to know if they're gonna stay around. I mean you really need to know the person and their wants and needs I mean you might think they're ready and they might too but chances are before a year is too early to have a successful relationship. I don't think it's possible to know everything and sex changes your feelings and expectations.You need great communication and knowledge of each other before you go and make love.

Answer 2

I read a poll on the internet of men a while ago that says men still don't respect a woman who goes to bed with them too fast ( that being after a day to a week within meeting) They still feel that if she does that with me, how many others has she done this with. I know its the 21st century but that mentality still its there. Particularly if you are dating with the intention of getting married.

Sex creates vulnerability and adds a dimension to a relationship that can be undone. Right timing is not so obvious in my opinion, sometimes hormones lie to you and so do some men. Make an level headed educated decision. If you are not ready to expose a very fragile vulnerable side, risk your health and emotional well being with this person then the timing is not right. Bottom line, I'd give it 6 months of dating -- most relationships that aren't meant to be usually go sour by then. If he's still around, then consider going for it. As a veteran of half a dozen failed relationships, thats my next move but of course he and I will talk about it first.

Answer 3

All up to you. If you feel a certain way about yourself, you may have standards, and may want to see if the guy will stick around for a month before you give him the sugar. Some women are less interested in how long a guy waits, and wants to bang just as fast the guy does. Also depends on what youre looking for, if you're looking for something stupid, and flingish...then there is no waiting period. If the guy seems like he could be the next serious thing, then maybe you want to wait to see how your personalities and worlds can blend together. You asked a very broad quesiton, therefore I have no choice but to give you an even broader answer

Answer 4

It doesn't matter how long a woman should wait; it's how good the relationship has been going. If you two have been going out for a few months, but you are positive that your relationship is going to go somewhere (like marriage or getting engaged.), then that's the perfect time. But, the best time is when you're engaged with someone, and you absolutely cannot wait anymore. But, other than that, marriage is the best and most prime time to have steamy and great sex with the guy you know won't dump you for bad sex.

Answer 5

There is no time frame, some women have to wait till the are able to relax sufficiently, same can switch at the moment notice. Some even can keep 2 or more intimate affairs at the same time. The last requires some skill though.

Answer 6

First date is not usually a good idea. Too much, too soon, plus old habits die hard. A lot of guys might enjoy it that night, but not think so highly of you the next day. (NOT SAYING THIS IS RIGHT) I'm going to say third time out is a safe starting point. But as you pointed out, it has to feel right. Third time out isn't a target, just a starting point.

Answer 7

Until you say the two magical little words, " I Do"

Anything else makes you an unpaid prostitute.

Real Men who respect women, do not expect a sexual relationship until they are married. In fact Real Men don't want one until they are Married.

Answer 8

honestly at least 6 months because you need to get to know the guy and make sure you care for him but then again if you have some kinda urges i guess there really isnt a time you have to know when you feel for him but since you want a general time i would say 6 months

Answer 9

I would at least wait 3 months

Answer 10

By "intimate" I assume you mean "have sex"? It all depends; there's nothing wrong with doing it on the first date if the moment is right, but for the most part it's nice to wait at least a week!