me and my girlfriend been together more than a 2 years and we have a son together, we were living together for about one year, then we split up, we were fighting alot and to much trouble so she moved out, we weren't together for about 1 1/2 month we got back together, things are doing good, i ask if she want to move in together, she said she need time to think about it, and then 3 or 4 days later, she tells me yeah that she want to move in together, the twist is a week in to looking a apartment, she changes her mind, she starting refuse to moving together, i don't know wat to do?
2006-09-28 08:37:10 · 9 answers · asked by savage_linx 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
we broke and start fight alot because she was talking to friends on the down low
2006-09-28 08:42:31 · update #1
Sounds like she's not sure what she wants. Does she have girlfriends that are giving her all kinds of "advice"? Try to find some time to be alone together, perhaps after your son is asleep, and calmly discuss your futures. Give it time and don't put any pressure on each other. You have to be fair with each other for your son's sake. I hope it works out for you all. Best of luck.
2006-09-28 08:44:06 · answer #1 · answered by grannyhuh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you two might be at different places in your life or you have lost the romance factor in your relationship. My advise is to not move in together but live nearby each other. Try to start "dating" again and allow yourselves to fall back into love before putting yourself into a situation of living with somone you can't escape. You definately owe it to your child to give it a go, but don't just move back in together 'just because'.
2006-09-28 15:46:34 · answer #2 · answered by brookebjpl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that she's obviously not ready to make a committment and you're sad about it, because you love her - but that you both have to think of your son FIRST. Don't fight with her and make it all dramatic, 'cuz that will hurt your son. Just tell her that you should continue to live separately until she decides and that you'll need to be more even more sure that she's committed before you commit to her again. 'Cuz you don't wanna move out and have her dump you again and be stuck with high rent. You have to think about yourself and your son. Just stay put and tell her that you want to remain friends and just continue to talk about your son and what is best for him.
2006-09-28 15:42:50 · answer #3 · answered by ggirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that sounds really tricky it sounds to me that ur girlfriend might be worried about committing again after what happened last time!u guys really need to sit down together and talk through this honestly especially if you have a kid together u don't wanna end up upsetting him.u need to tell her to let you no what she wants and to stop stringing you along good luck!!
2006-09-28 15:42:57 · answer #4 · answered by princessSparkle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Continue to visit your son and support him financially. Close the door on your relationship with the mother and start making a life for yourself.
2006-09-28 15:42:21 · answer #5 · answered by GrnApl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds so wishy-washy. You should try to make things work for the sake of your son, but if you can't, you should just move on.
2006-09-28 15:39:36 · answer #6 · answered by girlonline64 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
got any vibes that maybe she's cheating on you and can't make up her mind as to who she wants to be with? a month and a half is a long time to be a part. hope it works out for ya.
2006-09-28 15:39:33 · answer #7 · answered by Jana 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like something is going on with her. Maybe you should talk to her and you will get a feel about what she wants.
And if she has cheated on you, thats what it sounds like to me too.
2006-09-28 15:44:02 · answer #8 · answered by jenn j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SUCH DRAMA. YUCK, GET A NEW GIRL THIS RELATIONSHIP IS A BAD EXAMPLE FOR YOUR KID. GROW UP AND BE A GOOD PARENT PLEASE,
2006-09-29 02:39:52 · answer #9 · answered by openminded 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋