what can i do to get my 7 yr old twin boys to tidy their room?

Question

iv tried grounding them taking their computers off them stopping them watching tv they tidy it then its the same again a week later it drives me crazy help

Answer 1

Try this...Every time you go into their room and it is a mess, take a trash bag with you and put everything that is not put away in the trash bag. After a few times, they will not have anything left to play with. Then they have to earn the stuff back if they want it back. Put a time limit on it, if they do not earn it back in say 30 days, donate it to a charity, because they obviously do not need or want it that bad... It worked wonders for my kids and the habits of cleaning have followed my two oldest into adulthood.. They both keep beautiful homes...

Answer 2

Make it into a tidy room competition and the winner gets a prize. Sweets or something inexpensive, like a trip out. 7 year olds want attention and if they can get it by doing good an get something else in the process, they will go for this big time. If they both have a tidy room, then give them both a prize. Keep a chart of who has had the tidiest room, over a longer period of time, say 2 weeks. Give them a target which they must meet by 2 weeks and tell them that them that the reward will be something a bit bigger, but it still needn't be expensive (Like a bike ride with you, or go-karting, or a picnic, cinema, etc). This will give them something to work towards.
Hope this helps.

Answer 3

I have 11 year old twin boys... please let me know if you find the answer... cause it only gets worse ;-)

On a more serious note (like I wasn't serious already!)... Maybe if you take something away and then keep it away until they have done as you asked for a stipulated period of time... let's say:

You take away the tv and computer- they clean their room- there is still no t.v. or computer until two weeks have passed and the room stays clean- the 1st time it gets a mess you take them away again- they clean their room- keep them punished for 3 weeks this time and so one...
believe me, they will get tired of not watching tv, playing on the computer...
Or each week you, you take another thing away as well

GOOD LUCK AND REMEMBER... THERE'S A SPECIAL PLACE IN HEAVEN FOR THE MOTHER OF TWIN BOYS ;-)

Answer 4

Give them a deadline and a harsh punishment if the deadline is not met, but also a reward if it is.

An example. If the room is not clean but, say, 6pm then you'll sell their PlayStation, but if they do get it tidy, you'll get them a new game for it.

The important thing is to always stand by your word. If the room's not tidy, then get rid of the PlayStation. But the best thing to do is not to sell it, but give it to a friend for safe keeping, then when another situation like this comes up, tell them you'll replace the PlayStation if they do as they are told, and just give them back their old one instead.

Answer 5

Keep up the good work! You are doing the right things, just maybe not for a long enough time. How about not giving them any of their things back until the room is cleaned every day for two weeks? I know it is hard to keep up with all of this, but you are doing such a good job of teaching them to be neat that you should go a little farther and complete the lesson.

Answer 6

Cultivate a new attitude that "everything is earned, and nothing is free". Make them earn computer and TV time on a day to day basis by tidying up their room each day at a designated time. If they don't do it, they don't get the time with their TV, computers, or toys. Food, shelter, love are free, but anything else is 'extra' and must be earned through proper behavior.

Answer 7

The best way to get them to do what you want is to do this:

Set ground rules. Make sure both of them are there to listen to what the ground rules are. Encourage them to ask any questions about them too. Also acknowledge to them what will happen if they break any of the ground rules too. You have to follow through and make sure this happens all the time too.

You also have to reward them when they do something good too. Allow them to make their own choices on what they want to eat when they do good for you as well. They will understand that being good has it's rewards and when you show the human side this way, they will understand.

If they don't take you seriously, then you have to not only ground them and take their toys away, but you have to keep doing that until they apologize to you and show that they respect you as well.

Answer 8

well instead of grounding them taking they computer away try to do it with them like in the morning when they wake up try to tidy their bed with them don't do it for them but get them interested in doing it like if u been good we can go to MacDonald try to tell them that if they been good tidy their room for the all week u can take them to the cinema or something they like to do try then u will c it will become like a nature to them doing they will get used to it good luck anything is possible if u want it to be because is ur house at the end of the day its ur rules they have to do has u said but they have to have a way of doing it with them

Answer 9

My sons are complete piglets, so I have found the only thing that will motivate them is an allowance. I praise them once the chore is complete and offer up a weekly allowance for each week their rooms are kept tidy. It worked for my little ones, maybe it will work for yours. Good luck.

Answer 10

Have Them Clean It twice a week then 3 times a week if it's still no good.

If they don't want to you have to take away games/treat foods untill they get into the routine.

They will soon keep the room better so they don't have to do the chore so often.
This is also a great way to adjust their lifestyle attutude for their futures and this will start to reflect in their school life and so on.

(If you keep It going and don't give in that is)

HOPE THIS HELPED