On the bus ride home, your son's best friend (same age) said something mean to a neighborhood girl (a year younger), and in retaliation she said something mean back--but voiced it to both your son's friend and to your son because your son was sitting with his best friend. Your son then proceeds to push the little girl into the wall of the bus. Her brother's and friend inform you of this, and your son admits it and apologizes to the little girl. What else would you do?
2006-09-28 08:12:59 · 27 answers · asked by What, what, what?? 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
you let your son tell you his version of the "truth " and then you talk to him very candidly about violence and that no matter what is said to him about him or anyone else that it is never OK to hit,push ,etc unless he is being taken by a stranger. you tell him that next time he should ask an adult for help if he thinks a situation needs to have something done about it..You should express to your son your values and how it isn't nice to pick on people even if they do you...and let it go he understands hat to do if hes in the "wrong place" next time....if the school or other parents get involved then you would do more but that's all i would do hes only 7 and he's still learning public interaction it would be different if he was a teen
2006-09-28 10:33:33 · answer #1 · answered by Alli 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This is an opportunity for a teachable moment. Talk to your son and the little girl both and discuss ways they could have handled the situation differently: good or bad. By talking with them, it will get them to think before they act, and possibly help them get through similar situations that occur in the future without the need for appologies.
What was done, was great. It was really big of your son to appologize to the girl, but she should also appologize because your son did not have anything to do with the original argument.
2006-09-28 09:07:34 · answer #2 · answered by Meesh 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he has apologized, that is a big step. Just talk to him about what happened and why it happened. Let him know that being mean isn't good in any sense. I have had similar problems when my son was 7. He is now 9 and gets along well with the boys he had problems with then. Letting him know that he can talk to you about things helps alot.
2006-09-28 08:19:21 · answer #3 · answered by lisa s 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Your son apologized to the girl. He knew he did something wrong. No one was hurt. There is no problem to solve. You do not have to get involved at all. Nothing left to do on your part. If the girl's parents call or visit you regarding this, just tell them your son apologized to their daughter and he will not do it again. Once more, no one was hurt, he knew he was wrong, he apologized. Hopefully, he will not do it again. End of story.
2006-09-29 08:42:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you talking about?
It's time to spank and punish. HELLO.
You want to raise your son to respond to words with violence against girls. If I were that little girls parents I would drag you through the legal system for assault, and turn CPS loose on you for poor parenting.
But because you are asking this question I suspect its a little to late to spank the moment has passed. So a comprehensive punishment and teaching about male on female violence would be appropriate.
I made that mistake as a youth when a little girl slapped me on the school bus and I responded with reflex. I was kicked of the bus for the rest of the year, I had to apologize to the parents and the girl and I was on restriction for 3 months (no video games, no after school activities, no tv, no going out on the weekends, I had to volunteer at the Youth Activities Center taking out garbage and cleaning up).
2006-09-28 12:26:28 · answer #5 · answered by joe 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
inform her parent aswell and what actions were taken. and also inform the other boy's parents. the bestfriend should have respect for all riders. the little girl also needs to have respect. around here the bus drivers have ZERO tolerance for misbehavin and disrespecting riders. those children do not want to be kicked off the bus! We need not distract the driver. our children are precious and dont want accidents. please talk to the children! no distractions for bus drivers. and have respect in public transportation. cause they have to ride on it everyday.tell your son to ignore others remarks. some kiddos can be nasty.and if there are any problems in bus or school he should notify you right away.
2006-09-28 08:29:22 · answer #6 · answered by soll910 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, I would have a nice talk with your son and find out what happened on that bus...Make sure you explain to him how fighting is NEVER the answer...Especially pushing on lil girls...I don't care what that lil girl does...Don't ever allow lil boys pushing on lil girls...This is just the beginning of how men become abusive when they get older, trust me on this...As parents we know better how our child should behave and that means in good behavior...I always believe in teaching my kids to learn how to ignore...Kids will be in so many situations where they are in the middle of a predicament and it's the safest lesson to teach them now how to learn how to ignore these...And as adults we all know there's plenty of them going around in this world...
You remember when you where kids...The whole thing about picking on boys/girls if you like them...Perhaps your son's friend is in the same situation...Let them be kids...Just remind your son that it's wrong to push the lil girl and that you're happy to know that he apologized to the lil girl...Then ask him what he thinks he can do next time he's in a situation like that...Hear what he has to say...A possible time out the 2nd time around might be something you need to let him know... So, in the future he'll have to think twice before acting on things...
The next day, I'd also get on that bus and try to find out who's the lil girl and lil boy's parents are...I'd like to hear what their parents have to say and what all of you can do to make sure your kids are safe on the bus...It's very important nowadays that the parents communicate too and work together for the kids sake...
2006-09-28 08:38:43 · answer #7 · answered by $&$& 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Nothing. Leave it alone. He apologized, and try not to make it more then it is. Praise him for aplogizing, tell him it was the right thing to do, and ask him what he would do if he was in that girls shoes. How would he handle the situation differently if it happened again. Empathy is a wonderful thing.
2006-09-28 08:58:56 · answer #8 · answered by talula 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Grounding him from seeing friends outside of school would be an appropriate punishment. Tell him that even though he admitted it you, he still did wrong and that he must be punished (in addition to his apology to the girl). Punishing him would not be wrong to do on your part.
However, you would not be wrong to not punish him either. He is not my child so it is your call. If you feel that he should be, then punish him (but don't be harsh or overreactive).
I hope I could be of help to you.
2006-09-28 09:54:35 · answer #9 · answered by nmk9543 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him pushing girls is wrong and leave it at that. Hes 7 and he apologized without being forced to. He sounds like a good kid, overall.
2006-09-28 08:53:32 · answer #10 · answered by ChemGeek 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋