2006-09-28 08:01:27 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
used to but didn't like what i found out.....he's not my man anymore...
2006-09-28 08:03:59 · answer #1 · answered by raylie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alot of yes answers.
You do realize that this is considered abuse dont you? If you are in an untrusting relationship and feel you need to find something that is hidden (and make the assumption there is one in the first place), it is time to leave the relationship.
You cannot say you are in a trusting relationship and still look for secrets or the possibility of something hidden. You do not trust him, and he should definately NOT trust you.
Just imagine what many of you would say if the man was going through all your things whenever you were out because "women are always hiding something"
Possibly work on your trust issues with a professional as well.
2006-09-28 08:08:33 · answer #2 · answered by artisticallyderanged 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell yes, & I've been caught too. I don't do it anymore, but in the begining yeah I did. My man kept asking me if I was cheating so much that it got me think that perhaps he was screwin around on me. I couldn't figure out why he was so perinoid & actually it all came down to the fact that we both had insecurities for no reason at all & we were just playing off of one anothers fears. I think a lot of it was that we both love each other so much & we had both been hurt by other people in the past that we just couldn't think about loosing each other & going through that again. We still go through it to this day & we now have been married for over 6 years. It's more him having fear of me cheating now then vice a versa. He admits that it's his insecurities he still thinks that he's not good enough & I'll find someone else. Which is just not the case & I just try to make him feel more secure in our marriage & do what I can not to stir any of those jealous feelings up for him, however when he catches a dude checkin me out he still goes off. I think that we all as human beings have those fears just simply because we don't want to get our hearts broken & our feelings hurt. Trust is a hard thing especially for those of us who have been screwed over & cheated on before. I do try to respect his privacy more now however,I still think that when you're married you shouldn't need to keep things secret from one another , even just dating you shouldn't keep things secret from each other that's the kind of stuff that causes insecurities in the first place & gives life to those feelings of jealousy & lack of trust. If you need to look through his belongings to give yourself peace of mind, then I say go for it. If you get caught & he wigs out then I'd really be suspicious. You do what need to to feel secure.
2006-09-28 08:23:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't with my husband.The only way I think that I would do it is if we had already lost our trust our respect for each other.Which at that point should be the last of my worries since we would obviously have allot more wrong with the relationship then me looking through his things. I think at that point I would be doing it just to stop something that you can not control. I think if you have to do that you do not trust the person you are with. Further more if trust and respect are not part of he relationship you really need to think about what both people want and how to resolve the problem. Maybe counseling, reading some books etc...
2006-09-28 08:12:13 · answer #4 · answered by Lissette 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That idea never occurred to me. So, the answer is no. Never. If I really thought he was hiding something from me, we'd have some serious problems that would be beyond snooping.
I couldn't imagine being so desperate that I had to snoop through his stuff to get information-- what a fool I'd be.
2006-09-28 08:04:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh boy...this is a good one. I have a friend who does this and she always finds something to be upset about..even if it's nothing! Some women feel they can NEVER trust a man and so they always snoop. Ladies. this makes you look like a desparate, pathetic female. If you have to do this, then the man is not worth it.
2006-09-28 08:05:17 · answer #6 · answered by Dawn G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I couldn't do that to my guy. I think that is such an invasion of privacy. I know I don't want him looking through my stuff. Plus you need to keep some secrets from the person you care about, or what else would there be to talk bout?
2006-09-28 08:03:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I don't, I wouldn't want him to go through my stuff so I would not go through his. Every girl is different though, I would suspect lots of girls do. I don't think it is right unless you feel he is trying to hide something from you.
2006-09-28 08:08:08 · answer #8 · answered by italianbaby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every chance I get. I have never met a man that doesn't hide ANYTHING! There's always something in a pocket, wallet, briefcase, somewhere...that he doesn't want you to know about. I will look until I find it. I promise.
2006-09-28 08:04:17 · answer #9 · answered by skull_princess_70339 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No.. If he asked me to look for something and I find stuff like pictures or letters then yeah I will look at them, not like I was looking for them on purpose, and I would hope mine would not be hiding anything anyways
2006-09-28 08:03:20 · answer #10 · answered by Clints_wench 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So what you're saying, kourtney, is trust but verify. Nothing wrong with that.
I hide things from my wife, when it's a surprise for her. She's too nosy at times.
Sometimes I can hide things by revealing them. Sounds silly, but it's true as hell. Think about it.
2006-09-28 08:07:15 · answer #11 · answered by L Jeezy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋