okay this is my problem my husband is driving me crazy for sex I have to wait six weeks and he knows this and still keeps bothering me for sex. I'm so tired that I just want to give it up so he will leave me the hell alone. Do I have to wait six weeks? I'm not worried about getting pregnant got my tubes tied. This is so unfair of him I just had A baby why do men do this?
2006-09-28 07:58:44 · 25 answers · asked by honeygirland 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I just had my baby two weeks ago today and he won't leave me alone. He just keeps saying we can do something and I am like no. I have stitches. He want to lick it and I am like no that is nasty. He wants to do it and I keep saying leave me alone. He is going crazy. Men are jerks thats for sure.
I don't know if you have to wait or not.
2006-09-28 08:03:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
After i had my baby, those 6 weeks were the longest i'd ever experieced. Sure, the first 2 weeks were reasonable. But after that, i wanted some, badly. We could only hold off 4 1/2 weeks. and it didn't hurt me at all. he was just more gentle than usual. Also, i didn't have any complications or tears, so that may play a part. If you want to do it, i'd say go for it. U can always stop if it hurts, and he'll know that u tried.
2006-09-28 08:12:43 · answer #2 · answered by jenniferb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you need to wait six weeks even though you've had your tubes tied. Reason your body needs time to heal properly internally to get back in shape from your pregnancy. If you have sex with your hubby you might have bleeding internally,etc....Believe me I went through this three times. If he loves you he will be patient. Let him know as soon as you get your six week check up and the doctor says OK. That night he better be ready cause you yourself is going to be wanting it as much as he.Also with the last question I couldn't answer that one for you. See if a guy can give you his point of view.
2006-09-28 08:08:05 · answer #3 · answered by Babygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that some men can be selfish, and they also don't want to know about the emotional side effects of giving birth. They think that since you look like you are back to normal, you feel back to normal, whilst this is far from true.
There is a lot of healing that has to go on after giving birth, especially if there are any stitches anywhere, but it is all internal healing...there can appear to be nothing wrong, so men think that it's okay to go ahead and start up indulging in their primitive urges again, but women DO need to heal, so the small minded men have to wait a while.
How selfish is it if he cannot allow his wife a few months off?!
Tell him to wait! You are perfectly entitled to make your thoughts known.
2006-09-28 08:26:38 · answer #4 · answered by ♥Pamela♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you don't have to wait just as long as you are ready Men get like that cause they get jealous of all the love and attention your giving the baby men hate coming second so they press this issue to make them selves feel better and like it or not he will keep this up till he gets it. Hay you might find when you give it up you want more.Just remember that sex is healthy for your relationship Good luck you can only but try
2006-09-28 22:43:39 · answer #5 · answered by 3kids 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband is the same and I mean, it can get old. I felt as though he was being so selfish.
I think the 6 weeks rule is because of the fact that a baby just came out of you...not necessarily the fear of another pregnancy.
Allot just went on down there, the rule is to make sure you heal completely.
Make sure he gets educated on this so tensions don't grow in the marriage.
2006-09-28 08:03:46 · answer #6 · answered by mauihillside 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not alone!! My husband had hernia surgery and wanted sex the next day!@! You are not alone. He ban wait, if not just make sure you use a condom, I know a lady who got pregnant 6 weeks after getting her tubes tide
2006-09-28 08:09:58 · answer #7 · answered by momie_2bee 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If the doctors told you to wait... I would probably just do that. Especially sense you had your tubes tied. Give yourself time to heal. Tell your husband to back the f*ck off. He needs to understand what is going on with your body. Sure he has needs too but it is ridiculous of him to hassle you for something that could risk your health. That is just incredibly selfish of him. Toss him some lube and tell him to take care of it himself.
2006-09-28 08:07:44 · answer #8 · answered by Kamunyak 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on you and your body. If you aren't healed yet, it could cause damage. My opnion....I would tell him to go to hell. My husband had to wait nearly 3 months because I was bleeding and had a c-section. So, maybe he should feel lucky tell him. Sorry, I think he is just a bigger jerk than most. My husband never said a word or bugged me about it, just a few kisses and he was excited for it to come eventually.
2006-09-28 08:09:47 · answer #9 · answered by angie_laffin927 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were told 6 wks for a reason...
Your body needs to heel. If your body isnt ready you could make heeling take alot longer, you dont want to do damage to your insides. Wait the 6 wks. Try oral sex, or tell your husband he has a hand use it.
2006-09-28 08:09:25 · answer #10 · answered by Mom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋