We have only known each other a month dating we saw each other around school before that and are already talking about sex. I am 18 and he is 22 and my parents dont like him so we are sneaking around but i really feel like i love him but i have only had sex with one person and it was after a year of dating maybe 4 times so i am afraid i will be bad. But i have really strong feelings for this guy love at first sight and it's getting hard to stop at making out. Yesterday he wanted to now how many kids i want and when i want to get married and what i want out of life and stuff ended up asking me if i would marry him if he asked?
2006-09-28 07:37:19 · 18 answers · asked by Melanie o 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We have a really strong attraction and it hard not to tough each other we hold hands everywhere and kiss all the time.
2006-09-28 07:39:03 · update #1
I dont now too much about birth control
2006-09-28 07:42:22 · update #2
no he is not pressuring me
2006-09-28 07:42:53 · update #3
Yes, you should wait. I know you love him and you think he is the right one, but be careful and give him more time.
If your parents don't like him is a signal, maybe they see something wrong in him you don't see because you are in love.
Why are you in such a hurry, if he is the right one he will wait until you are ready, if not, then you did the right thing.
You are still young, do the things the right way...get to know each other better before doing anyother thing like marriage or even sex.
2006-09-28 07:40:33 · answer #1 · answered by fireangel 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow...it sounds a LOT like my first relationship.
When it comes to marriage, I can tell you this. You two don't know each other well enough to even be discussing it. I made the same mistake in my first relationship. After that, it set the tone for the rest of our relationship. Rather than focusing on learning more about each other, we were focusing on the rest of our lives together...never considering that we weren't as compatible as we wanted. Between 18 and 25 you change a LOT and the person you are now is not the same person you will be in 5 years and then you'll find yourself married to someone you can't stand. And divorce is a royal pain in the ***.
I can't tell you not to have sex or anything like that, but since you're 18, I suggest you go to planned parenthood. There's a lot of birth control options out there. I personally recommend the Depo shot *unless you're scared of needles*. It lasts 3 months...so no forgetting pills. It works almost immediately and the sucess rate is close to 100%.
2006-09-28 14:49:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you answered your own question! If you're questioning whether or not you two are moving too fast, than you probably are. Or atleast, too fast for what you want right now. Make out all you want, say you love eachother, talk about babies, but don't, DO NOT, have sex with him. Unfortunately, the reality is that it has only been a month. That hasn't really given this guy enough time to prove himself, to prove that he deserves to have you, that he TRULY loves you. I also say give it some time because a month is not enough time to really know someone. I thought I knew my ex-boyfriend inside and out! But about a year after we had been dating, he wasn't at all who I thought. He was very controlling and abusive and had a LOT of anger issues. I'm not saying that's the case with your guy, but the point is that you need to be with him a lot longer, and slowly learn about him and get to know him before you give yourself over. Just be patient, as well as he needs to be patient. If you guys are always making out and what not, and he's bringing up sex after a month? Be careful, patient, and enjoy him without handing yourself over.
2006-09-28 14:50:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't your parents like this guy? There might be a good reason. It's never good to be sneaking around with someone behind your parents' backs.
Also, he might be taking advantage of you, since he's four years older than you. (I'm not saying he is, but he might be.) I would try to slow things down a little, until you get to know each other a little better.
The whole talking about marriage and kids thing is sort of creepy. Bringing this up after knowing a person after only one month is way premature. He might be really clingy and might eventually want you to spend time with only him, not your friends or family. Keep this in mind.
If you do decide to have sex with him, please be sure you use a condom every time.
2006-09-28 14:46:00 · answer #4 · answered by K 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whoa - slow down....I am firm believer in love at first sight but there is no way that you can really know this guy after a month. I wouldn't being having sex with him for at least 6 months and would not be talking about marriage for AT LEAST a year.
And you need to get educated on birth control - go to a a Planned Parenthood near you - now!
Good Luck!
2006-09-28 14:49:54 · answer #5 · answered by RT 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are going too fast. If your parents don't like him, if you continue to c him what is going to happen between u and ur parents relationship. You are just 18 and you got a whole life ahead of you and I think that he is not what he seems to be. That is my own personal feeling but I feel like it. If my parents told me that they did not like him, they see something that you don't and are looking out for you whether you believe it or not. Can you afford to have kids? Kids will change your life more than you know. I would really reconsider before you do anything that you will regret. My opinion you are too young and I feel he is just rushing you into something and he is not the person you think he is.
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2006-09-28 14:38:49 · answer #7 · answered by b b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think there is a problem. It is a different way to express love and if you feel strong about him then go for it. Just make sure that its true love and hes not going to leave you after he gets what he wants. Youre 18 now and an adult you should do what feels right :)
2006-09-28 14:42:58 · answer #8 · answered by T G 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
There is nothing wrong with taking a step back. It seems like something about this is bothering you a little bit. You should sit down and talk to him about how you feel and make sure you let him know that you really care about him.
2006-09-28 14:39:31 · answer #9 · answered by buffyfan80 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOT'S of people have very strong attraction towards each other, but don't confuse lust for love.
If after a year he is still asking these questions, then he is a keeper.
If he is pressuring you now for sex, then he is a loser, and does NOT deserve a woman, but a whore.
2006-09-28 14:42:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋